to expect if my partner and myself spend £50 on birthday pressies, the rest of the family should at least TRY to spend a similar amount?

[nearlyuptheduff]

Always spend £50 on each family member, getting them something we have really thought about and that is personal to them. I get a present from inlaws and sister which is worth £35. I know this because they left the receipt in the bag....

I am very hurt, AIBU?

I'd love to know what this present was. Has it been said yet?

no, not yet Skyg

The monetary value of a gift isn't at all what counts. I don't know why you see it that way, or why you always spend the exact same amount on presents. It doesn't mean they don't care about you. And spending a large amount does not mean the person does care about you either.

I am curious as to why they do not know where you work, or what you like? That seems strange, well the work part especially.
Hope you stop feeling hurt about it, they probably thought it was a good present.