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Original poster

to get really pissed off when people lie on here?

187 replies

daisy5678 · 01/09/2010 11:18

I know lying is wrong anyway. But it's almost insulting to lie on here when, if necessary, people can see that you've lied as your words are stored forever! If you're going to lie, at least lie well Grin.

What bugs me is when people lie to get sympathy or admiration for something that is directly contradicted by something else they wrote and they can't possibly both be true.

And then everyone piles in and goes 'oh, poor you' and you know it's bullshit and you can't say 'yeah, but they're lying' because nobody will believe that you have a photographic memory and will think you're stalking the poster and also everyone will think you're being a bitch.

I think IABU. Oh well. I'll get over it.

OP posts:
Bonkerz · 01/09/2010 21:07

Hi Givemesleep!
Im ok, relieved its back to school tomorrow! Its been a long 6 weeks especially with no respite for the last 3 weeks! my bruises are fading now though after a horrid 2 weeks of aggression and attacks from DS!
We are moving DS off of risperidone in OCT and onto Straterta.....I can no longer restrain him as he is a huge 10 year old who has same size feet as me and even my 16+ stone weight can not hold him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hows all your end?

Original poster
daisy5678 · 01/09/2010 21:12

J's on Straterra - it's good. J was much calmer, focused and less violent, but it did take many weeks to kick in. Summer's been good. We've missed quite a bit of respite for reasons that were more my fault than theirs, but J has been quite calm, for him, this summer, so it's been nice on the whole. Having issues with LA as ever, including Tribunal bollocks all Spring and most of the Summer, but tis mostly sorted now!

Sorry about the bruises etc. Sad It's bloody hard. Any particular reasons, or is he just finding the break from routine hard to cope with?

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FlutterbyPurpleToffee · 01/09/2010 21:20

MN is the only place i am honest. It just sounds like a lie coz i have to keep changing my name because of cunting stalkers.

Bonkerz · 01/09/2010 21:28

break from routine didnt help. he has been on risperidone since about FEB i think and at first the low dose really helped keep him calm but now it is only really working on the anxiety and hyper sensitivity to smell/noise etc. we are combining the 2 meds for a while till the straterra kicks in but wanted to wait till OCT to do it so he can get settled again at school!
more tribunal crap?????? im expecting more LA crap by early next year as DS hits secondary school age and im convinced they will try to move him out into the state special school rather than let him stay at the private school.....am prepared!

Original poster
daisy5678 · 01/09/2010 21:36

Oh yes Sad but hopefully they'll see he's doing well and not change it? We can live in hope that they'll start to do the right thing, anyway!

Tribunal story long and boring. Short version: changed J's Statement by reducing hours and therapies for no reason (except finance, obvs) and ignored Annual Review recommendations when doing so. I appealed and they waited until the day their case was due in to pull out Angry. It's OK though. I have done huge huge complaint with huge huge pile of evidence that they can't wriggle out of. Spans years of lies and incompetence...I suspect that what that's stirred up in me is making me a bit narky Blush perhaps leading to things like me starting this when I never do anything really other than lurk on AIBU!

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Bonkerz · 01/09/2010 21:39

lmao ...... well goodluck to you! if anyone can get what J needs for him its YOU, super mum!
AIBU is a viscious place and once i realised this thread was you i clicked straight away what it may be about ;)

ForzaDelDestino · 01/09/2010 22:08

OP, just a thought

if you suspect trolling (long term hooking folk in as well as more obvious single thread trolling) then let MNHQ know on the quiet; you never know if others have quietly raised suspicions as well and a picture can be built up

Bonkerz · 01/09/2010 22:27

i dont think op is talking about trolling, i think she is talking about inconsistant posting making it obvious that whole truths are not used resulting in posters getting sympathy and attention!

2shoes · 01/09/2010 22:31

Bonkerz i reconize your name, haven't seen you arround in ages.

am I alone in really wishing I knew what the op was talking about

Bonkerz · 01/09/2010 22:35

:) im here EVERYDAY! just dont post much! lol
im actually just guessing about OP, havent got a clue really!

Bonkerz · 01/09/2010 22:36

and anyway 2shoes......you are on my FB so whilst im not here im always on there writing mudane boring moany status updates! LMAO

scottishmummy · 01/09/2010 22:37

yabu,in caring or getting so animated.people lie on internet.hell who'd have thunk it.is a great big world wide web out there,and some of them are cunts.

next

scottishmummy · 01/09/2010 22:47

id be upset if no one lied.best mn threads have been a bag o shite anyways

LeQueen · 01/09/2010 23:17

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Original poster
daisy5678 · 02/09/2010 10:51

Not a troll. A genuine, long-term poster. Hence not wanting to jump in on threads saying 'but you said...' cos some people would lynch me.

I guess it's grating because the lies keep getting repeated - not one-off iyswim, but I will just have to assume that people who do that have a need for attention/ sympathy that maybe means something's missing in RL for them and not get all stressed about it Blush.

Ta for the opinions. Got it off my chest now!

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 02/09/2010 12:31

how can you possibly know? you remember? what if you remembered incorrectly? do you go back, do a search and confirm, or do you rely on your memory?

I am always amazed by people who can remember what gets said on here!

"Long term poster who lies about everything but I'm not going to say who it is" is bloody killing me! Grin

sobloodystupid · 02/09/2010 14:20

I'm interested too in the "long term poster". But I never remember details about posters, have Men-in-Black style ability to wipe out my memory obviously Grin

HecateQueenOfWitches · 02/09/2010 14:36

I know. I'm racking (wracking? wraking? The Pedants will have me Grin ) my brains to think of long term poster names.

Not that'd I'd remember who said what anyway.

Mind you. Someone recently pulled me up because I started a thread about something that I'd started a thread about 2 years before. Shock that's bloody impressive.

I can't remember what I had for dinner last night! Grin

pagwatch · 02/09/2010 14:44

givemesleep

can I ask about your memory?
Is it a photographic memory for the written word ot can you rtemember conversations, places etc.

I am asking as DS2 has ASD but we think also has a photographic memory. He has literally hundreds of DVD but if he goes into his room and one is missing, he will know imediately ( and they are in shelfs and stacks and moved daily IYSWIM) plus he seems to remember places visited years ago etce etc

He also seems to be able to 'play' scenes and things in his head and watch them as if seeing them for the first time.

Is any of that familiar. I am curious as I can't ask him. Obviously

HecateQueenOfWitches · 02/09/2010 14:59

pag - my eldest is similar. whatever his current obsession - he knows everything there is to know about it!

eg - when he was into cars, he could identify make and model from front back or side.

when he was into gogoes, he could name each gogo and their - special skill or whatever it was Grin, and which colour sticker book they were in and which number in the book they were.

when he was into ben10, he could watch the first few seconds of an episode and tell you the name of the episode, and which season and number it was!

and now it's pokemon and he knows everything there is to know - the pokemon, their battle something or other, what they evolve into - everything.

Of course, once he has finished - not sure what it is but he works totally single mindedly towards an end with his obsessions - collecting everything, knowing everything, whatever it is and then done. finished. out of his mind.

Does anyone want to buy a quality street tin full to busting of gogoes or dvds of every ben10 episode ever made and a box of ben10 toys or a box of about 500 little cars or wait 6 months and buy everything pokemon related? Grin

oh, or every gormiti and gormiti playset going...

JaneS · 02/09/2010 15:08

pag - I used to have perfect memory for anything I heard. When I was an undergraduate I could read a book once and if I wanted to quote from it, I could see the page in my mind (down to creases on the corners and so on), and hear the words in my head.

Not so good now though. Sad

mollyroger · 02/09/2010 15:16

i'm a long-term poster. I only lie about details to preserve some anonymity. I don't like troll-y lying for financial gain etc but otherwise, I don't really care if it turns out that Bit of Fun is actually more of a Picasso than a Botticelli, or that SGB has never actually had sex or that Daft Punk is actually a buddhist,or whatever.

According to my DH, you're all lying anyway (and so am I) because ''there are no women on the internet, actually. Everyone knows that'' Hmm

mollyroger · 02/09/2010 15:17

Hecate, how old is your son? Does he want a Poke-pen pal?

LeQueen · 02/09/2010 15:17

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mollyroger · 02/09/2010 15:19

Hec - my son can identify 100s of pokemon characters on Nintendo DS from their sounds alone...Confused