to hide the feminism topic?

[CerealOffender]

the thread titles are all so serious and worthy and make me feel frivolous and unsisterly.

lets all sing supertramp

Kitty - "these women" - we're not an homogenous group, i'd appreciate it if you didn't refer to all feminists based on individual ishoos you have.

no one did burn bras did they? was on that tv show. with the poor sheep from miss world

xanthe from arts & crafts burnt her bra

kittywise - I have posted on a few threads in feminism, DH would broadly agree with my views. Not entirely sure why you'd feel sorry for him?

Baaa

Well, I referred to them as these women because they do seem like a homogenous group. It is how it presents itself to me.

And people say feminists have no sense of humour!

I don't understand why you have to be so rude to insinuate stuff about the home and love lives of a bunch of people you don't know, I'm assuming it's because it makes you feel better about yourself. Good for you, enjoy the feeling of superiority.

Using the word "assert" is not great when referring to relationships is it? What should happen is discourse not assertion of principles. If you have to assert your principles then possibly you've picked the wrong partner.
presumably the partners can also assert their principles. All seems a bit confrontational to me

Well I am hardly being welcomed into the bosom of the feminist movement here. I am a woman but maybe not the kind of one you'd want on the feminist board. Do I use the wrong language? Am I confronting issues I'm not suppose to?

Well you're not presenting yourself in a feminist friendly light when you say offensive stuff about how you feel sorry for the partners of feminists. You reap what you sow.

Oh I have to be feminist friendly to be a feminist? It's all a bit aggressive.
I feel sorry for the men of women who feel they have to assert their feminist principles yes. I feel sorry for anyone in a relationship where their partner is asserting principles full stop. Relationships aren't about asserting yourself.

NO, but if you're complaining about not being welcomed into the feminist discussions then you shouldn't be bloody surprised! This is ridiculous!

take it outside you two

So how do you feel about the idea of asserting yourself within a relationship? Would you say your partner asserts their principles within your relationship?
In my relationship, full of gunk that it is, like most, I don't assert myself, I talk to him. I am genuinely interested in the turn of phrase of that thread title.

I was just popping back and thought 'Oh Dear. Another squabble'
It ran for quite a wile though CO with some good debates and explanations between people who might not otherwise have communicated.

I don't want a squabble!! I'd love a proper debate BUT I want to be able to speak my feelings. I will try to do so in a way that causes the least offence though. causing offence is not my aim.

I think if you march up to any group of people, be they lone parents, feminists, conservatives or fashion designers and make insulting comments about them, it shouldn't really come as a surprise if they react in kind.

If it is of interest to you, go and discuss it on said thread, they'd probably like to hear from you. I'm not particularly interested in it.

kittywise, I thought that thread title was odd too. I posted on it along the lines of 'er, DH and I do whichever bits of the household stuff we're best at' but felt a bit naive for not realising that I was supposed to be splitting up the chores in a way that asserted my feminist principles

ditto sleepinglion

I saw your post SL and thought
'That's exactly how we do it'

fair enough