to have never been happier since DH dropped dead

[merrywidow]

not quite dropped dead, it took about three weeks for the verbally abusive, controlling, womanising, gambling bastard to pass away. Just thought I'd share

eek

as above!

Sounds like YANBU. This is the first day (well, sort of) of the rest of your life!

hmm...tell us more?

woah

about him or his sudden demise?

Both

Erm.

Whilst I don't disagree with your sentiment if he was vile and abusive, I think you could have worded this somewhat more tactfully in view of the fact that people on here have lost much loved and much missed husbands. :(

Have name changed.

No, you're not being unreasonable.

A man who treated me badly died. I was not sorry.

These feelings are normal in the short term. However in order to move forward and properly deal with the abuse you suffered, you need to work through these feelings and accept that he was a human being, albeit dreadfully flawed.

Good luck and happiness in all things to you.

And you married him..... why?

Violet, hindsight is a wonderful thing.

My uncle is married to a woman whose mother felt the same way about her late husband.

But this was back in the days when it was hard if not impossible for many women to get a divorce.

The man died of emphysema and my aunt says they practically had to sit on her to keep her from dancing on his grave.

She said her DH, not her ex.... so I am assuming she was married to him until he died, and hadn't divorced... seems a strange reaction for someone you have remained in a legal relationship with.

Violet, Hindsight is a perfect science; I found out I was pregnant when I was about to leave and thought we'd work it out somehow.

He was foreign and threatened to send the kids away - I could never be sure he wouldn't do it if I didn't 'play ball' so to speak. Nasty and scary.

Altinkum, his parents both died before him. I discuss with the DCs how much he loved them and what he would have wanted for them.

Congratulations! Was he rich?

It's better you vent here that to your children, so YANBU at all in my opinion.

Your feelings about your husband in know way lessen the feelings of grief and loss that other people may be feeling about much loved DH's that they've lost.

Agree - it should be kept as a private thought really, especially as it sounds as though your children are fairly young still.

No matter what your feelings are, he was their dad

Have we started a new competition? Is there some kind of MN Award for the Threads in the Worst Possible Taste?

Hope you had good life insurance

You didn't poison him did you?

I wish you happiness in your new life.

Easy for me to say but try and let this man go for good now.

Dont let him rule your life anymore.

I dont know what you went through but I have some experience of having to let go IYSWIM.

Anyway - best of everything to you and your child/ren.

Hope he left the entire wealth to the dog, and you got fuk all.