to have never been happier since DH dropped dead

[merrywidow]

not quite dropped dead, it took about three weeks for the verbally abusive, controlling, womanising, gambling bastard to pass away. Just thought I'd share

We live in a culture that disagrees with capital punishment, that dislikes the thought of death ever being a good thing no matter how bad the person. So it's understandable that the reactions to the OP were mixed.

This is nothing to do with society's reaction to capital punishment, as the OP was in no way responsible for his death.

no, that wasn't my point. I meant people are opposed to death ever being a good or valid thing. The 'normal' response is to be sad because of a death, no matter whose it was.

I see what you mean, people say 'oh I'm sorry' on auto pilot without stopping to think whether they really are or not. But again, a natural unmourned death has nothing to do with capital punishment.

Meh, the world is a better place without some people. I don't usually want to kill them or have them killed on my behalf but certainly don't feel the need to mourn the bastards who get taken care of naturally - I just generally think 'Good, one less arsehole in the world'.

YANBU, not at all. it is a strong thread title, but it is real emotion. i have lost some amazing family members and been grief stricken, and i am not offended by your title one bit.

using a forum like this to vent can be very helpful. one can say things that are best watered-down in rl. best of luck with the rest of your life. i hope you feel safer and free now.

true Morloth :o There are plenty of them

Bloody hell. That has to be the most insensitive thread title I have ever read on here and that is saying something.

yeah brush it under the carpet sorrento56

I don't blame the OP for how she feels. It seems the only way she would be/feel free from him was if he was dead... which he now is.

I wish the OP luck for the future!

Imagine the responses had a man said that he was happy his DW had dropped dead.

Since this was 7 years ago I'm sure the OP has well moved on.

If his DW had been a suite, hateful, controlling - I would expect the response to be the same.

Feelings are what they are. Death can cause a lot of confusion but for many there's only one socially acceptable response. Real life isn't like that.

Not the same situation but I have always felt slightly - relieved - that my dad is no longer with us. He was a very tricky customer, though he was mellowing with age - but there's no denying life is a lot easier without him in it. Unpalatable for some, but the truth.

Funny that someone called lazarus has resurrected this thread...

Oh, bollocks, just seen this is the second zombie that lazarus has resurrected, apt user name.

I've just read the thread and only now realised it was so old, I did laugh at the poster who's friend's MIL asked for the china back when her son had passed away....my friend smashed it and sent it with a note saying...'take up mosiac making bitch'.