one of DS's ex supply teachers is on DS's facebook

[stoppinattwo]

Im.finding.it.a.bit.wrong(sorry.about.the.dots.my.space.bar.has.just.fallen.off)

DS is nearly 12 and i know shouldnt have fb.yet but i monitor it hence my noticing this woman on his fb, i didnt think this was allowed regardless of whether she still taught at DS's school or not..

She taught him for most of yr3 and he has jsut going into yr7 so almost 4 yrs later she makes contact....

Ihave just had a call from ds's hm as i tried to reach him and he is going to tell her to remove herself from DS's fb immediately and any other pupil she may have befriended

AIbU to be mystified and a bit rattled by this womans behaviour??

Awww, that must be nice for you. Not often heard round your way?

i taught 2ndary for several years. i do, sometimes, browse for old pupils, cos i like to see how they 'turned out' e.g. those who are married, got a job etc.

where possible, i use the schools fb page, which is an open forum really, but one school i taught at only allows pupils to be on there (it checks dob) so there are some 'children' that i taught for several years, who i am 'friends' with. however, i always wait for them to ask me - who wants their middle aged teacher 'stalking' them?

but i would say it's prob quite harmless. i think a lot of teachers wish they could get updates on pupils they taught, and fb is one way of doing that.

YABU to expect everyone to agree with you.

Kickass,im probably oversuspicious I just want to make it clear to this woman that i think it is unacceptable

Maisie I find it quite sad that you turn a genuine thread into somewhere I feel the need to make fun of you.....you really are an arguementative individual and for all the wrong reasons....

Out of interest, did you sign up to the school's IT user policy? Standard practice in schools, that the parent and child sign a contract agreeing to abide by the rules for using ICT?

DS is no longer wtih the school violet....hence his joining fb to keep in touch with his mates who are moving on....>....stop trying to be clever, we arnt in court, just stick to the question please, you really are depressing

The woman must be mad - she is certainly putting her work into jeopardy. It's completely inappropriate - what if it was a male teacher friend-requesting a 12 year old girl? It's tantamount to grooming.

We were in a similiar position at our primary - a supply teacher friend-requested a 10 year old she had taught for a term in Y4. He knew it was inappropriate, blocked her and told the school, and the head reported her to the LEA.

MrsC2010...where did i say that,lots have disagreed with my op and i have thanked them for their constructive feedback, the less constructive,have only served to prove that mn takes allsorts

Whatever you say, Stopping - you seem to believe that you're right and everyone else is wrong (or smug, or they need to wind their neck in, or what they say is a crock). As MrsC says, YABU to expect everyone to agree with you - why did you bother posting in the first place?

Does it take one "arguementative so and so" to know another?!

Eh? What on earth is clever about asking a reasonable question? I just wondered whether you signed up to it at Primary school, and will feel happy to sign up to it at Secondary school, while letting your 11 year old have a FB account.

age aside, i think it is odd that a grown woman who has held a position of authority in the boy's eyes, send him a friends' request

Even if Stoppin's DS was 16, it would be a bit strange that a middle-aged adult (teacher or not) approached him to be a FB friend, wouldn't it? I don't think the fact that he is 12 has anything to do with it.

Teacher sounds naive but so is allowing a child of that age to have a FB account.

X-post, lulu!

i posted to get a reasonable answer....but sadly mn is fast changing and a lot of the wise and fairer mnetters have moved on..

Violet....maybe on the 31st of August I shall close his fb account....who know??

Yes it's a very odd thing to do, nothing would possess me to try to befriend 11 year old ex pupils on FB, but it doesn't alter the facts that it's bloody weird to accept her!

Are you Kathey from the archers?

jaamy...my point earlier.....if he was 13 would it be so different??

what's worse? a 12 year old having a FB account, supervised by his mother, who when something inappropriate happens,she can help him out.. or a grown woman who has been in a position of authority being naive or stupid enough to add a 12 year old to her fb ?

If he was 13 perhaps he'd have the common sense not to accept?

Or maybe not........!

he OP's son would not know that it was inappropriate for her to befriend him

My 'reasonable answer' was that I agreed that it is odd of the teacher. That doesn't mean that I have to agree with your odd behaviour

Parent lies on behalf of 12 year old, allows him a FB account then gets upset when someone 'inapproriate' adds him to her FB = weird.

Teacher adds child (or was it vice versa?) to FB = weird.

at 13, he would still not have the nouse to understand why adding a teacher or a teacher adding him would be a bad thing.. mostly from the teacher's POV, how naive for her to do this.

i don't think it's that odd

have all the people here who are decrying this ever let their underage child watch a film or play a game that is rated above their age?

or lied about their age if it gives a benefit, such as free entry somewhere?

it is far odder and more questionable that the teacher would do this

two wrongs don't make a right, but her behaviour is IMO far far more questionable than the OPs