To just fucking give up with my devil toddler

[monkeyfacegrace]

She is 3.

Total meltdown because her fork was the wrong size to eat her pasta with

Hysterical because their was a leaf on the strawberry on the picture on the side of her yoghurt

Wont sit at the table because she wants to sit on the sofa.

Devestated because Mr Maker isnt on, and she does not want to do anything else.

So fuck it. Im on my laptop. She has a bottle, yes a bottle of lemonade. No added sugar at that.

As you were.

reward the good behaviour,
v. important. all the time. #good sitting good eating well done for playing nicely. every ten minutesd praise her.

ignore the bad or give immediate reaction eg "no we dont hit". calm low voice, not screaming at her.

choose your battles - she will grow out of whatever is the current fad over food - my dd has had several - eg noc rusts on her sandwich for about six months - then she was fine with crusts on...

it gives them some control - if it doesnt harm you then let it go.

watch some supernanny episodes on i player/youtube...

Sorry super you are being VVVVVVU, why is it sexy to look like a toddler with an overfilled nappy . Why are they sexy! No redeeming features at all. You would be better off with a nice pair of fitted trousers

whoops that was meant for the hareem trousers thread, sorry

piglet - right thread?

no had two windows open and posted in the wrong thread

Jeez so we've all got the same dd right?

In some ways I feel loads better as dd is obviously nothing v unusual. But on a serious note I feel REALLY REALLY GUILTY

She's six now and much better. But when she was 2-4 I very often lost my rag with her. I shouted at her at lot and called her 'naughty'. I feel everyone on here is more tolerant and has employed better coping strategies than I have/had.

We are very close but she is often angry with me and I think that's my fault...

Guys, I have just showed this to my SIL who has been nodding for the past half hour and smiling in sympathy and empathy. Her DD (my niece) is 4 and such a devil monster that at times I have been convinced my brother sired Rosemary's baby....

I have the photographic evidence that my DD is the actual devil on my profile page, 6th picture down, now look at that face and tell me that isn't pure evil right there!
But seriously I also feel like I'm shouting at her all the time, have really made a effort to totally ignore the bad behaviour lately, but sometimes its so bloody hard, especially when we are out and about in public and she kicks off.

Aw teameric she is a cutie pie! Perhaps slightly menacing as well....

LucyLouLou its a deal well it's definitely a deal on my half anyway lol. She's also very good at painting toenails as well so if you'd just like to PM me your address I'll ducttape her into a box and post put her on the next train

Aw she's too cute to be Satan herhimself

God the it's broken waaaaaaah drives me demented as does the hyperventilating 'mamammamammamammamama noooooo it's noooot RIGHT!'

I just have to repeat continually 'eventually they evolve into humans'. But I have two toddlers and the youngest, copies the eldest when she shrieks, but an octave higher

If you think of it as trying out things and growing up and wanting to be separate entities. Then 2 + 3 yr olds are doing that, it's not a deliberate ploy to annoy!! Who's the adult here???YABU

If she's gone hysterical and having a melt down, put her in her? bedroom and leave the door open.

Laugh and sing to yourself for the two minutes peace.

repeat as necessary.

The threes were really terrible in our house - the twos were fab!

Of course there have to be boundaries, the' really reinforce the good and ignore the bad' does work . But you have feelings and so do they; maybe there's a reason for the upset yr DC is showing.

DD has also just been hauled up the stairs to an early bed for slapping. But she is very tired, hence the horrific behaviour for the last hour.

Oh how wonderful they all are. Is it me or does it seem to be more girls than boys?

This evening my DD told DH off for not singing 'The Wheels on the Bus' in a happy voice.....

I used to sit for hours in the bath with DD1 singing 5 little speckled frogs just to shut her up

themothershipcalling yes your right, my DS was positively an angel compared to DD, but my BF is convinced its "second child syndrome".

((thesecondcoming)) poor you they are horribly precocious when they want to be aren't they.

(remembers DD2 looking at HV with total contempt when she started bleating about baby kangaroos at her 2 year check (18 month? something like that) and saying 'dats a JOEY'))