To just fucking give up with my devil toddler

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She is 3.

Total meltdown because her fork was the wrong size to eat her pasta with

Hysterical because their was a leaf on the strawberry on the picture on the side of her yoghurt

Wont sit at the table because she wants to sit on the sofa.

Devestated because Mr Maker isnt on, and she does not want to do anything else.

So fuck it. Im on my laptop. She has a bottle, yes a bottle of lemonade. No added sugar at that.

As you were.

Perhaps I have been rather forceful lucky with mine, or perhaps being on my third three year old (first girl) I'm more relaxed and do not see each challenge as such a big deal...first two were boys and very malleable. My dd is three nearly four and she's very compliant, or I'm very willing for her to win some battles. She has to eat at the table or not eat, but then I eat with her as do all of her brothers. She has to go to bed when I say, recently had to use stickers and rewards as bedtime went wrong fro the first time in eight years of being a parent. IO also have a very bad memory, so I'm told, and so think my children have always been easy. It helps to not be able to recall the endless crying from ds1 when he was 2.5 that meant we dropped his nap, and that dd1 and ds3 cried pretty much all of the time until they were eight months!! In fact I only remember it anecdotally and can't hear the cries and screams in my sensory memory!!

"She doesn't give even a fraction of a shit. Little sod"

Oh God that is DD to a tee . She's at her grandmother's today so I can get on with washing and ironing for holiday. I really miss her...

... but if she was here I'd want to throttle her.

"really miss her...

... but if she was here I'd want to throttle her. "

This is me everytime DD is at her dads and DSD is at her mums.

My 18 month old DS likes to slap me and he slaps his 6 yo sister when she is whining.

So we used to do the whole pretending to cry, but now he slaps me, and then he pretends to cry, and then he laughs.

We call him Damien!

Terrible isn't it? All weekend I've been looking forward to today so I can get a move on. This morning I spent 2 hours looking through my pictures of her ffs . She's home at 7 and at 6.30 I'll be running round like a blue arsed fly.

MONKEY - It is annoying making something that they refuse to eat. But don't give in and let them eat on the sofa. Cook something that lends itself to leftovers. You can then put it in the fridge and serve it again tomorrow. Once you let them eat on the sofa.....well...you'll be having that battle every day.

DS is being rather like this at the moment (4.11) and it is m ore than a little trying, you think they wouldn't do it any more at this age. EVERYTHING is wrong. You can't do anything right, whinge and moan all the time. I am trying to keep to my "it will pass" chant but I can't hear myself over the moaning

I have 3y5m old DD and whilst I'm sat here nodding in recognition and agreement at the total disagreableness of 3 year olds, I realise that in fact it is a good few weeks since we had meltdowns of monumental proportions of the smallest slight, the timeout step is getting dusty and my blood-pressure is mostly the right side of normal

She can still be very whingy, and I have to count to 5 several times a day, but it seems the worst of it has passed (fingers crossed). So take heart

I get days like this, my kids play me like a fiddle and 99% of the time I don't know what to do.

Everyone keeps telling me it doesn't get any easier..

DD is 2.6. How much longer is this going to go on for? Although she's been a demon since she made her exit from the womb. My mother looks back at her early days and shakes her head with pity for me

Dammit I wish I'd thought of taking videos of the tantrums

And I will happily swop any of them for my evil personified darling beautifully behaved 12 year old DD

Please...

anyone....?

why isn't the strikeout working?

Because you have to do each word, not each set of words.

ah ok thanks evil personified

I wonder if she's jealous of/ wishes she didn't have her brother and wants you to herself.

Can DS be 'told off' for something or can DD be needed to help with her tiresome/demanding/naughty brother so that it's not just her that annoys mum, which she might be feeling - see if that helps?

Someone mentioned their DD cried when their hair was done. My DD2 cried whenever I brushed her hair (short limp mousy blond) when little - I mentioned it recently (she is grown up) and she looked blank - - Her elder sister had beautiful long red hair which everyone commented on. She was probably just making sure I gave HER hair some attention too.... a bit of psychology might help.

Oh hell, her little brother gets told off too!
Well, we ended up goin to pets at home cuz im skint to look at the animals, then got them a MaccyD's to eat while driving home.
Got home, met DP who had jut got home from work, and he promptly ran me a bath, and took over with bedtime.
Bliss!

Ooops, just read post above about sugar and unrefinded carbs.
Fuck, I failed that with flying colours!

I just left my 2yr old completely starkers in her room and screaming blue murder because I asked her to lie down so I could put her nappy on after her bath.
she's been in the naughty corner 3 times today and this was the last straw.
So out I went, left her there for about 5 mins while I cooled down.
Luckily, she let me put it on when I came back. Not sure what I'd have done if she didn't.

I'm so glad it's not just me. DD2 is 2 and half and is horrible, truly horrible. But I'm hoping it will improve, dd1 was like this and it got better. Hang in there, surely it's wine o'clock now?!

My ds1 who is nearly 5yo had always been a real angel baby/toddler and I used to look at crazy toddlers screaming in the supermarket and think 'gosh that kid is insane!' etc...... Then of course I spawned my own demon child and he is now 2.10yo.

I thought I had parenting down to a tee before - then I realised I was just lucky.

Used naughty step with ds1 and always worked a treat (when it actually needed using). Ds2 though.... No no no... That would be far too simple wouldn't it?

I still haven't found anything that stops him behaving like a little menace 24/7 and he cries and whinges about absolutely everything. He'll slap me round the face so I'll put him on the naughty step and as I'm telling him off, he'll slap me again and be laughing demonically at the same time.

Dc3 due in 5 wks time... Please god this doesn't last much longer !

Define toddler Spacehopper, what age are you talking about? DD is 2.6 and has started hitting everyone. She gets a good telling off/naughty step/toys, treats removed etc but as quoted above, she doesn't give even a fraction of a shit and sits on the naughty step smirking. I think she's a little too young to suspend treats for a week, I seem to remember some wisdom from somewhere to the effect of punishing them for the crime when it occurs when they're that age. I'm not sure what else to do other than keep repeating it.