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Original poster

to not want to go to my FIL funeral because

143 replies

superstitious · 30/07/2010 08:13

my husband and his sister have organised it for the first available date fair enough, but it is friday the thirteenth. I do not want to go and I do not want my DC to go either if he insists that it has to go ahead on this date, because I believe it to be very bad luck.

OP posts:
Tee2072 · 30/07/2010 08:15

Seriously? For real?

You would deny your husband the comfort of his family on this very hard day because of the date?

Wow.

NoahAndTheWhale · 30/07/2010 08:16

What is going to happen that isn't any worse than your FIL having died?

LittleMisscantbewrong · 30/07/2010 08:17

Tell me this isn't real?

AnnieLobeseder · 30/07/2010 08:18

How can I put this kindly..... um, I can't. That's just insane. Your DH has lost his father FFS! Get over yourself, he needs comfort and support right now, not selfish lunatic objections to a funeral date.

I hope to all things holy you're a troll.

WynkenBlynkenandNod · 30/07/2010 08:18

Are you concerned he will come back and haunt you if it goes ahead on this date as I'm struggling to understand what bad luck could be in this case.

LuluF · 30/07/2010 08:19

I'm with NoahAndTheWhale - it's already pretty bad for your husband and his family. Surely it's about supporting him?

We got married on a Friday 13. (Obviously we don't think it's bad luck - quite the opposite, in fact). Personally, I think you make your own luck in life.

sanielle · 30/07/2010 08:22

Troll?

VelmaKelly · 30/07/2010 08:24

You are KIDDING.
Ye gads and little fishies, now I've heard it all.

Filibear · 30/07/2010 08:26

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Northernlurker · 30/07/2010 08:27

People aren't really this barking are they?

Northernlurker · 30/07/2010 08:29

I went to a funeral last week that was two weeks after the death though. I think that was to allow people plenty of time to travel but i'm not totally sure.

atmywitssend · 30/07/2010 08:38

Your husband's father has died. What he needs now is the support of his wife. You must be making a difficult time for him so much worse by this attitude. YABU and incredibly unsupportive. I feel so sorry for your husband and SIL for having this to deal with as well as their loss. My thoughts are with them.

deemented · 30/07/2010 08:41

Oh get a grip and get over yourself.

It's only a date. YABVVVU.

Having said that, we buried my mother on bonfire night so she could go out with a bang...

PrettyCandles · 30/07/2010 08:42

A heck of a lot worse luck to abuse your dh and his family this way. Shocking lack of compassion.

If superstition is so important to you, then take a counter-charm (rabbit's foot or whatever) in your pocket. But go and do not say a single word about bad luck.

majafa · 30/07/2010 09:09

Blimey, you wouldnt want to visit me then, I live at no 13..
Time to get a grip, me thinks

glasgowlass · 30/07/2010 09:11

FFS grow up and get some compassion and decency! Your DH has just lost his father for goodness sake!
Lovely example to set your children.

mankyscotslass · 30/07/2010 09:13

Friday the 13th is actually my lucky day.

It's when I kicked H no1 out, and the start of the rest of my life.

A day is what you make it.

Be there for your husband and stop being daft.

Original poster
superstitious · 30/07/2010 09:18

A funeral on a friday is suposed to mean another death in the family within the year. Wearing black on friday 13th is bad luck. If a funeral procession passes you on friday 13th you will die within the year. Would you seriously want take the chance with your families? Do none of you believe that it is bad luck to break a mirror, walk under a ladder, see a single magpie?

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Eglu · 30/07/2010 09:18

Friday the 13th is my DS1's 7th birthday. Maybe we shouldn't celebrate adn should just hide in the house all day until it's over.

MumNWLondon · 30/07/2010 09:23

Is this a troll?

You are being totally disrespectful, you need to support your husband at this difficult time. Keep you stupid views to yourself.

And no I don't believe that its bad luck to break a mirror etc etc.

Tee2072 · 30/07/2010 09:23

::rolls eyes so hard they hurt::

Tell me, have you ever broken a mirror, walked under a ladder or seen a single magpie and had something bad happen? Of course you have because bad things happen every.single.day.

And not because you did any of the above. Because that's life.

gagamama · 30/07/2010 09:24

Nobody wants to go to a funeral FGS, it's not exactly like it's a nice little day out for the family. YABVVU, you need to support your DH, his family and your DCs.

Friday 13th is just a date which will come round whether you like it or not, and being a day which will actually happen, you will find you have to do things in it. Most people successfully survive doing things on Friday 13th without being cursed forever with bad luck.

arfur · 30/07/2010 09:26

You need help - seriously

gagamama · 30/07/2010 09:28

Actually I've just checked the calender, and my Grandad's funeral was on Friday 13th. The fact it was Friday 13th never crossed my mind. We all survived the year. YABU.

ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 30/07/2010 09:30

"If a funeral procession passes you on friday 13th you will die within the year."

Really? Think how many people an average funeral procession passes these days -- last funeral I went to had a good 20 miles of funeral convoy. Everyone each of those processions passes will die within the year? Really? You'd think it would have made the papers...

Refusing to go to your husband's father's funeral because you don't like the date, now that is bad luck and doesn't bode well for the eventual success of the marriage. I could make up a superstition about that so that you'd believe it, if you like?

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