to not want to go to my FIL funeral because

[superstitious]

my husband and his sister have organised it for the first available date fair enough, but it is friday the thirteenth. I do not want to go and I do not want my DC to go either if he insists that it has to go ahead on this date, because I believe it to be very bad luck.

If this were a religion thing would you be so abusive? Beliefs are beliefs. I will go if they insist that it will be on that date, but it is not unreasonable to not WANT to go as per the original post. I asked very nicely for him to change the date. He knows I am superstitious but still went ahead without even asking me if that date would be ok.

words fail me tbh OP........are you actually an adult or are you a 6 year old who's hijacked mummy's computer?

I think that for once the responses to an AIBU post are unanimous. What does that tell you superstitious?

Reality is right, you are a knob.

Disclaimer - if by some chance the funeral does go ahead on Friday 13th, and you do go, and it does so happen that you and everyone else who attends die a horrible death in suspicious circumstances within the year, I am prepared to offer a full and unreserved apology.

Oh wow- this is the 56th post! Everybody knows that means I will win a million on the lottery...see ya suckers!

Bugger.

Onefish- lend us a tenner?

Yes, beliefs are beliefs... and superstitions are superstitions.

do you have to travel to get there? Then travel on the 12th and back on the 14th?

If you are superstitious in terms of what brings bad luck, do you also believe in good luck charms? If so do whatever you believe counter-balances bad luck?

And really there are other calenders in use, not just ours. According to the others of course it would not be the 13th at all. It's just another day, really I think you can come to make yourself believe that.

I've honestly never heard the one about wearing black on Friday the 13th bringing bad luck

Also never heard the one about dying within a year if a funeral procession crosses your path on Friday 13th

BOF - No chance. Don't you realise that anyone who lends money to busty ladies who have been in paintings will be crushed by a falling piano within the week? Surely everyone knows that?

"Plus, you will be in the funeral procession, not having it pass you... like the other poor sods just going about their lives."
Yes I am worried about bringing bad luck to other people too.

Don't feed the troll (never said that before).

You are not being unreasonable, you're displaying the height of selfish twattery or trolling to new and more pointless levels.

FFS!

"I will go if they insist that it will be on that date, but it is not unreasonable to not WANT to go as per the original post. I asked very nicely for him to change the date. He knows I am superstitious but still went ahead without even asking me if that date would be ok."

An awful lot of the Big I Am in that quote, you selfish bint, it's not about you for heavens sake. Why on earth would they ask you? You aren't the main event you know, you are a bit part and as such your bonkers needs and views are utterly insignificant in what your DH and his family are going through right now.

Jeez.

I I I I I, bloody I. Think about someone else for once in your life.

I'm someone who openly admits to hating magpies, the evil-eyed flappy-winged bastards. But even I can see that if you're not living under a bridge with Mama and Papa Troll, then you're a complete fucking nutcase.

I bet there is more than just the date of the funeral going on here.

lolol at reality 'you need help for your anxieties you twat'

This aint real. Nobody is that stupid.

I don't know really, fear of spiders is also irrational, at least in Europe.

Unbelievable selfish!
In some cultures white is the colour of mourning...where does that leave us on allowable colours to wear now?
Friday the 13th ...get a bloody good grip on yourself...to even remotely think that a date/day combination can affect your life defies comprehension.
Is it merely that:
1)you can't be arsed to get yourself and your DC ready to pay your respects
2)you are somehow miffed that this will deflect attention from you, or
3)you didn't really like you FIL
To be plain and simple, and brutally honest... you are weird

1. I have already bought the outfits for all of us, so yes I can be arsed.
2. No I hate attention being focussed on me
3. Yes I did love my FIL, and want to pay my respects, but am dreading it being on that date, any other date and this would not even be a problem

The only way this could be bettered on MN top trumps if the recently deceased was in fact the MIL. Who you didn't like because she didn't like the way you breastfed your baby.