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DH'S SPEEDING FINE

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stickyj · 13/07/2010 11:59

OK Mumsnet jury. Firstly, when a speed camera takes the picture, does it just get the number plate or a face? I need to know as DH wants me to take his latest speeding fine and claim it was me. I understand that as he already has 6 points, this will take him up to 9 and then he could lose his licence if he gets another fine, but I have just read the form and it's scary. You can get a prison sentnce for falsely claiming, and have to go to court etc. I have my own business and this wouldn't look good, would it? he also got arsey with me and said he wouldn't do my tax returns if I didn't take the points, also implying what kind of wife was I?

AIBU not to want to take them or should I help him out? He can't lose his car as he travels all over to meetings etc.

WWYD?

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EleanorHandbasket · 13/07/2010 12:00

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Acanthus · 13/07/2010 12:00

It depends on the camera. He can lose his car, he needs to slow down if he doesn't want to manage without it.

UndertheBoredWalk · 13/07/2010 12:01

I would more than 'imply' what kind of husband blackmails his wife into breaking the law
And seeing as he's being so arsey about it I'd tell him to do one, and if he didn't want the points he shouldn't have been speeding.

AgentZigzag · 13/07/2010 12:01

I don't drive, but I'd let him get as arsey as he wants if I were you and not take the flack for him.

If he doesn't want any more points on his licence, perhaps he could keep a better eye on his speed?

Imarriedafrog · 13/07/2010 12:01

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Lauriefairycake · 13/07/2010 12:02

Face as well - you can clearly see me in the photo.

You would be mad as a box of frogs to do this.

Maybe he ought to learn from this experience and perhaps take responsibility - as I'm sure he's teaching your dc's to

And he's also being a twat about the tax returns - so he's a boy racer, irresponsible and an arse to you. Remind us why you're with him ?

rubyrubyruby · 13/07/2010 12:02

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bebemoohatessnot · 13/07/2010 12:03

He's speeding. His fault. His responsibility. I understand the desire to help and protect, but he needs to learn his lesson and will he learn it if you take the points?

Lauriefairycake · 13/07/2010 12:03

And 'he can't lose his car' is within his control.

BY NOT FUCKING SPEEDING.

Show him this thread.

chocolatefroggie · 13/07/2010 12:03

YANBU don't do it you could get into really serious trouble and quite frankly why should you - it's not impossible to drive at the speed limit! if he's really worried tell him to get a road angel which tells you what the speed limit is and warns you of speed camera's.

diggingintheribs · 13/07/2010 12:04

depends on the camera as Acanthus says - do you really want to risk it?

Over what time period has he accumulated these points? Sounds like he needs to change his behaviour. He only has one more shot left before he loses his licence - maybe that will make him more responsible!

My parents have both been driving for over 40 years and have never had points for speeding. it's not like it's inevitable if you are are sensible.

And not doing your tax return? Is he trying to blackmail you? As Eleanor said, knobjockey (great word)

Lauriefairycake · 13/07/2010 12:04

It was really clearly a photo of me when I was caught for speeding. My long, red hair and face were very clearly visible.

So unless you look uncannily like him don't do it.

TigerFeet · 13/07/2010 12:04

There is no way on earth I would take anyone else's speeding ticket. I know of someone who ended up with a short prison term for doing just that.

Your dh needs to learn to slow down - stating the bleeding obvious I know but it needs saying.

Make sure his insurers are aware too - you can invalidate your insurance by not declaring speeding fines.

He won't do your tax returns if you don't do it? He sounds like a bully as well as an arse.

If he gets caught again and goes to 12 points, he could keep his licence if he can prove he needs to drive to earn a living (also know someone who did this) but the fine went up from £60 to about £500 iirc.

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kittens · 13/07/2010 12:05

Depending on what speed he was doing you are sometimes offered a speed awareness course which you pay for rather than points on you license - I think this is only of you are a few mph over the speed limit.

I wouldn't take the points.

atmywitssend · 13/07/2010 12:06

You wold commit a criminal offense by making a false declaration to the courts - not worth risking getting a criminal record I would think?

Deliaskis · 13/07/2010 12:06

Well in answer to your first question, some do and some don't. Don't take them though, how else will he ever realise he has to slow down, or at least be more vigilant to cameras etc? If you can't do the time don't be daft enough to get caught doing the crime!

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stickyj · 13/07/2010 12:07

To be fair, we were at a party and he's had a couple of beers. Not sure how serious he was about the tax returne, he's actually helping me re-start the business up again. He got done on a road around here taking DS to college, 30 miles an hour, he was doing about 38 I think so not boy racer, just late for work because of arsey DS not getting ready the night before! I am just scared of signing a legal document and getting found out, 'cos I'm the sort of person it would happen to!!

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nikkidale · 13/07/2010 12:08

WHAT. A. KNOB.

Trying to dodge responsibility for speeding? Thats just rude, and cowardly!

Tell him to jog on!

Sorry about typos, NAK and using left hand to type...

GypsyMoth · 13/07/2010 12:10

i used to be a police officer before dc.....op,i cant believe you are even considering this!!!

i hope you are aware that this is a much attempted get out.....the courts are wise to this. you will not get away with it,as its kind of expected that the 'wife' will take the points.....they will be waiting him to pull this stunt

pumperspumpkin · 13/07/2010 12:10

So he speeds after drinking as well? Nice.

When my DH got done you could see it was our car and if you'd had a mind to, you could have worked out it was him rather than me.

Also what happens if you said yes and he does it again? You've set a precedent for you taking the points, before you know it YOU could be the one risking losing your licence. You're mad to think about it, it's illegal and it's wrong.

CheeseandGherkins · 13/07/2010 12:11

He sounds unable to accept the consequences of his own actions. So now it's your ds fault for not being ready which made him late for work? Sigh. He is an adult he could have left whenever he wanted to and told ds to get to college on his own. He should face facts and realise that it was his fault.

pumperspumpkin · 13/07/2010 12:11

Oh I see - the tax return threat was at the party? Dur me.

GeekOfTheWeek · 13/07/2010 12:12

Dh has had 2 over the last few years.

Both had face pics.

Your dh sounds like a fucking prick.

Snobear4000 · 13/07/2010 12:13

Does he like Top Gear (oops I referred to another thread)?

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