DH'S SPEEDING FINE

[stickyj]

OK Mumsnet jury. Firstly, when a speed camera takes the picture, does it just get the number plate or a face? I need to know as DH wants me to take his latest speeding fine and claim it was me. I understand that as he already has 6 points, this will take him up to 9 and then he could lose his licence if he gets another fine, but I have just read the form and it's scary. You can get a prison sentnce for falsely claiming, and have to go to court etc. I have my own business and this wouldn't look good, would it? he also got arsey with me and said he wouldn't do my tax returns if I didn't take the points, also implying what kind of wife was I?

AIBU not to want to take them or should I help him out? He can't lose his car as he travels all over to meetings etc.

WWYD?

YANBU to refuse to take the points/fine on.

don't do it. Let him learn from his own mistake.

I didn't take my DH's points, even though we knew he would be banned.

Several friends were shocked that neither DD or DS or I would take them, it is a criminal offence.

It has also meant that DS insurance company won't have DH on the insurance anymore, not that he's likely to speed again, and my insurance has doubled, and his own car insurance is hugely expensive now. The price we have had to pay for honesty!

I have seen convictions in the local paper for people taking other peoples points, not worth the risk.

38 in a 30 mph zone is more than 20% over the speed limit, so actually I would argue that it is boy racing.

Definitely don't take his points - he needs to learn to control his speed.

And it sounds like your life will be easier if you stop trying to take responsibility for your DH, your DS and your DD in the morning! Being on time (for anything) is part of growing up. They need to learn the consequences of not getting up/being ready when they need to. Your DH needs to make it clear that he is leaving the house at a specific time, and that if they're not ready he will go without them.

Sorry to hear about your dad [sad} but hope today is good.

I know this is a bit of a thread within a thread...

I definitely think that your DH should leave bang on time every day, with or without them.

When I was 14-16ish I was exactly the same as your daughter - rubbish at getting up (still am), took FOREVER to get ready, always dashing out the door at the last possible second, mum shouting downstairs. My poor mum. I think I made her late for work more often than not.

But, if she'd have just gone without me, even once, I think this would've made a huge difference. You can't be even 1 min late for a train, but for the lift there's always "5 more mins" iyswim....
If mum had just left so that I would've had to make my own way to school (meaning I would've been VERY late as we lived in a village miles away from school with only 1 bus an hour), it would have bucked my ideas up enough to make me on time every day rather than taking for granted that she would always wait.

Just a thought. Might make life easier. Maybe sit them down and warn them the night before, then stick to it.

Tell him to grow a pair (and maybe a brain while he's at it) I am currently fighting a Fixed penalty notice that I got for using a mobile phone whilst driving. I wasn't doing it and wouldn't either. The number of scummy annoying scrotes who are on message boards asking for sneaky ways out of fines/points when they freely admit they were doing it is seriously beginning to piss me off. If he already has 6 points then really he should have learnt his lesson by now. If he doesn't speed then he won't get caught by the cameras.
Why should you have points on your licence because he can't be arsed to slow down.

I think that may just about convey my thoughts on the matter.

I'm confused by some posters attitudes, either we should all take responsibility for our mistakes or we shouldn't.

OPs husband has been called a nob and a prick but then posters are defending other mistakes.

'i do think speeding in towns is worse than speeding on a motorway as i was caught for' - why? its still an offence.

'my friend took points for her bf as he had 6, tho 3 were for being a few cms in a yellow box in london at traffic lights'

• why? its an offence regardless of how far into the box you are.

So basically it's your fault if your DD doesn't wake up thus making DS leave late and your DH speed...and you should also take his points for him?

You do have a lot on your plate and I think that you need to have a sit down chat with all your family about them taking you for granted and being terribly unfair to you.

Tigerfeet made a very good point about getting dd and ds to contribute to the fine as they are part of the problem in the mornings.

I also agree that your dh should decide when he's leaving, and just go. Getting left behind a couple of times should focus their attention.

I don't agree with the posters who suggest looking at the camera evidence - because if it doesn't show stickyj's dh's face, it will give him more ammo for asking her to take the points.

Finally, stickyj, I think you are absolutely right not to take the points, and your dh has to take responsibility for his own speed if he doesn't want to get more points and lose his licence. My dh got six points and a fine of over £300 for speeding, and it didn't even occur to him to ask me to take the points - point out to your dh what a bad example of dishonesty and disrespect for the law that it would be for your dc if he were to do this.

Whatkatydid - that is utter rubbish

I admit that I do speed on mototrways, and have been done twice, but I deserved it, so I just had to take the points, pay the fine and suck it up.

I wouldnt have expected someone else to take the rap even if it was a plate shot only.

TBH I´d be disgusted with my husband for even asking me.

And I agree, he should set a time in the morning & leave.

Everyone seems to be in the habit of blaming everyone else & not taking responsibility for themselves.