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...to ask MIL not to knit acrylic baby clothes?

149 replies

Umnitsa · 12/07/2010 19:56

I have a lovely MIL. She is kind, tactful and is great with all the cooking / sewing /knitting / gardening stuff. She also lives in California (we are in London) and we do not really see each other often.

I am now expecting our first child, and MIL is enthusiastically knitting baby clothes - with acrylic and nylon!.. The thing is, neither DH nor I wear any manmade materials, really none (ok, nylon stockings and lingerie (for me!) and I guess ski gear is also some sort of polyester), and I am certainly not going to dress my baby in acrylic!!

She has already sent us a few parcels of all these tiny cardigans and hats which look quite adorable but... After the first parcel I thanked her profusely and then told her at length how I choose all organic cotton baby stuff and will try going with reusable nappies hoping she'll get the hint about my slight obsession with all things natural. Now we got the second batch - all acrylic, and apparently there are more...

I feel so bad - I know she is having so much joy making all this stuff, and it is knitted with much love, but it just won;t be worn! My husband spoke with her yesterday and in a joking way tried to pass the same message about me being strictly cotton / wool, and if perhaps she could knit with cotton instead. She kept insisting that it is difficult to wash cotton (??!), it is perfectly acceptable for babies to wear acrylic because it is soft, and also mentioned that cotton is more difficult to knit with. I suspect that cotton and wool yarn may also be more expensive than acrylic, but I'd rather she made one piece which will be worn and treasured than a dozen which will live in the bottom of the drawer. If we lived close enough I could just buy the yarn I like and ask her to knit with it, but seeing that we are on different continents it's too complicated - ordering something online etc.

Sorry for the rant, it is such a minor issue, but now I feel guilty and ungrateful...

OP posts:
EricNorthmansmistress · 12/07/2010 19:57

YABU. What's wrong with acrylic?

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 12/07/2010 19:58

Erm.... your baby will wear cotton babygrow or something under a jumper/cardigan no?

TinaSparkles · 12/07/2010 19:59

Why don't you ask her to knit her a baby ski-suit.

traceybath · 12/07/2010 19:59

YANBU - I hate acrylic too.

But you know - just smile, put baby in cardigan and take a photo and take the stuff to the charity shop.

Or maybe send her some lovely wool - saying you found it and would love her to knit one of her wonderful cardigans in it.

AnyFuleKno · 12/07/2010 20:00

actually acrylic feels a lot nicer against the skin than real wool which is very rough in comparison.

RobynLou · 12/07/2010 20:00

YABU, sorry!
put the baby in a a cotton babygrown with the lovingly made acrylic cardi on top.
you'll be glad to have tonnes that you don't care much for, as they'll all get spat up on and shoved in the machine every day anyway!

ronx · 12/07/2010 20:00

YABU and ungrateful.

Your MIL does have a point about wool baby clothes. I'd much rather have acrylic items that I know can be put in the washing machine and tumble drier without the risk of them being shrunk.

slushy · 12/07/2010 20:01

I think you are being a bit PFB and will laugh at yourself in a few years.

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 12/07/2010 20:03

Are you planning on keeping your child au naturale fabrics? It's going to be very difficult to carry on doing this, try looking at the baby/child clothes in the shops.

slushy · 12/07/2010 20:03

Also I think you really should count your chickens MIL made loads for SIL but nothing for my dc. I had to buy them at between £10 and £20 a set. You do sound a little spoilt.

funtimewincies · 12/07/2010 20:04

YABU.

I wouldn't worry too much. The cardis will soon be coated in all natural baby vomit.

StayFrosty · 12/07/2010 20:04

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RobynLou · 12/07/2010 20:04

and when the baby's born I'm sure you'll get tonnes of clothes from all sorts of unexpected sources, most of which ill be acrylic shove in the machine stuff, I'd give in to it now, there are so many other things you can worry about!

slouchingtowardswaitrose · 12/07/2010 20:06

I feel your pain.

If you hate them, take a nice picture, take them off, and take them to the charity shop.

Meanwhile, trawl knitting shops for beautiful wool - send it to MIL saying, I found this beautiful yarn, you are such an amazing knitter, could you do a cardi and blanket in it?

WinkyWinkola · 12/07/2010 20:06

Send her some lovely wool but they've all got acrylic in, haven't they? The higher the wool content, the scratchier the garment can be.

But acrylic does set my teeth on edge, I have to say.

Your mil could love the gift of wool to knit with?

oldenoughtowearpurple · 12/07/2010 20:07

I'm with you.

Order some lovely stuff from here to be delivered to her; tell her you love her stuff so much you would like her to knit an heriloom item to be treasured forever - maybe a little shawl or something reasonable you already have 27 acrilic versions of.

Otherwise just smile sweetly and say 'lovely' and send her a photo of dc wearing something she's knitted and then just bag it all up and despair.

or here

OOh i think I am going to knit something right now mmmmm

PurpleCrazyHorse · 12/07/2010 20:10

If she's anything like my mum, she'll get way more enjoyment out of making them than seeing your DC in them! My mum buys loads of hideous stuff that I simply (and discretely) return, she doesn't mind, she just loves looking through the racks and choosing something for DD.

We've had some awful knitted items and I just charity shop them. Don't feel bad, I think that if someone really minded they'd ask you exactly what you wanted/needed.

M44 · 12/07/2010 20:10

back off everyone......I am an acrylic hater. Cuases endless problems....ok I have 2 children with very bad eczema....cotton all the way in this house. CAn't even tolerate acrylic on top.
If no problems then do the photo thing but you can get beautiful cotton to knit/crochet with and it does wash well if you are careful. Some things my ma knitted once she got into the groove have lasted all 4 dc!!
SO no-YANBU OP!!

soremummy · 12/07/2010 20:12

YABU I knit and I know how she feels about wool/cotton its horrible on the hands and to be honest after all the hard work of knitting it can be undone in minutes with careless washing. Acrylic wool for babys is soft and quite nice on the skin when its washed and dried where as wool can be itchy. You should really think your very very lucky to have someone that lives so far away can be bothered to even knit something for you considering you seems so spoilt! Do yourself a favour either use them or give them to local hospital and tell her to stop wasting her hours knitting for her grandchild as you couldnt possibly put the child in something acrylic
p.s. Lets hope everyone you know buys the true organic stuff your expecting

Littlepurpleprincess · 12/07/2010 20:13

First baby by any chance?

IMoveTheStars · 12/07/2010 20:14

give them to a womens shelter/surestart centre and stop bloody whinging.

minipie · 12/07/2010 20:14

Completely agree re acrylic (hate the stuff)

BUT I think if you have tried to hint her towards natural, and it hasn't worked, you're just going to have to grin and bear it.

But don't feel obliged to put the clothes on your DC.

KnitterInTheNW · 12/07/2010 20:14

Send her some Rowan Wool Cotton (link, it's seriously soft and gorgeous to knit with.

slushy · 12/07/2010 20:15

My sister has bad excema and only wears natural materials but I don't wrap my dc up in cotton sorry cottonwool

kittens · 12/07/2010 20:18

Don't send them to a charity shop donate them to your local maternity unit, especially if they have a special care baby unit as they are always desperate for clothes for the babies- especially cardis and hats. My mum knitted 40 hats in various sizes and 30 cardis which I gave to them after my DD was born.

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