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...to ask MIL not to knit acrylic baby clothes?

149 replies

Umnitsa · 12/07/2010 19:56

I have a lovely MIL. She is kind, tactful and is great with all the cooking / sewing /knitting / gardening stuff. She also lives in California (we are in London) and we do not really see each other often.

I am now expecting our first child, and MIL is enthusiastically knitting baby clothes - with acrylic and nylon!.. The thing is, neither DH nor I wear any manmade materials, really none (ok, nylon stockings and lingerie (for me!) and I guess ski gear is also some sort of polyester), and I am certainly not going to dress my baby in acrylic!!

She has already sent us a few parcels of all these tiny cardigans and hats which look quite adorable but... After the first parcel I thanked her profusely and then told her at length how I choose all organic cotton baby stuff and will try going with reusable nappies hoping she'll get the hint about my slight obsession with all things natural. Now we got the second batch - all acrylic, and apparently there are more...

I feel so bad - I know she is having so much joy making all this stuff, and it is knitted with much love, but it just won;t be worn! My husband spoke with her yesterday and in a joking way tried to pass the same message about me being strictly cotton / wool, and if perhaps she could knit with cotton instead. She kept insisting that it is difficult to wash cotton (??!), it is perfectly acceptable for babies to wear acrylic because it is soft, and also mentioned that cotton is more difficult to knit with. I suspect that cotton and wool yarn may also be more expensive than acrylic, but I'd rather she made one piece which will be worn and treasured than a dozen which will live in the bottom of the drawer. If we lived close enough I could just buy the yarn I like and ask her to knit with it, but seeing that we are on different continents it's too complicated - ordering something online etc.

Sorry for the rant, it is such a minor issue, but now I feel guilty and ungrateful...

OP posts:
CouthyMowWearingOrange · 10/09/2012 23:34

Zombie thread, but would be interesting to see if she is still dressing her toddler in natural fibres only, or if that has fallen by the wayside in the face of a food-smearing, puddle-jumping, potty-training toddler...

PurpleRayne · 10/09/2012 23:43

Ask her to knit you a baby shawl/blanket that you can treasure, say that you really want it in 'whatever yarn' and that you'd be really happy to supply it, just need to know the quantity. That way she is occupied producing something that you will hopefully genuinely appreciate.

PurpleRayne · 10/09/2012 23:44

oops, didn't spot the zombification...

TheBigJessie · 10/09/2012 23:57

Aren't most of the basics generally cotton, any way? I think most of my toddlers' clothing is cotton, apart from coats, etc. It's grown-ups' clothing that is all polyester, isn't it?

Maybe I don't pay enough attention to labels?

TheBigJessie · 11/09/2012 00:05

Socks - that's the only thing that often doesn't say 100% cotton on the packaging's wash instructions.

Morloth · 11/09/2012 00:38

You put the hideous stuff on, you take a photo, you take it off and put it away for 'best', you send knitter the photo, you put stuff in charity shop bag when outgrown.

This is the traditional and accepted manner for dealing with this. Everyone wins.

Morloth · 11/09/2012 00:40

Oops zombies.

Startailoforangeandgold · 11/09/2012 00:47

Oh please!

BustersOfDoom · 11/09/2012 01:07

I got pegnant somewhat unexpectedly with DS aged 19. My best friends DM was quite the feminist and was disappointed that I had chucked in my educational potential for motherhood. It was a shock but I have no regrets. DP and I are still together, we both have good jobs/careers and DS has graduated from Uni.

However, my friend's DM died suddenly 3 weeks before DS was born. My friend found a gift wrapped parcel addressed to me in her house which contained the most beautifully knitted baby clothes. It is 25 years on so I cannot remember whether they were acrylic or pure wool but I do know how much they meant to me because they were made out of love. And how much it also meant to me to be able to pass them on to my friend when she had her own DC long after her DM had died. Had I not got pregnant when I did my DF would never have had those lovingly knitted baby clothes from her DM. Wool, acrylic does it really matter? Made with love is what counts.

CumberdickBendybatch · 11/09/2012 01:12

zombie alert

Gah... When will MN start highlighting the old threads?

sashh · 11/09/2012 01:12

Lets hope that your baby doesn't react to wool then. And you really don't want her to knit cotton for your baby, it is too stiff, if you laid a baby down in a hand knitted cotton cardi you will have a baby with the imprint of the knit on their skin - even through another layer.

BustersOfDoom · 11/09/2012 01:15

Ah shit, this is ancient. I've had wine and didn't notice Blush

sashh · 11/09/2012 06:52

I'm sober, so no excuse

Fairylea · 11/09/2012 07:19

Just let her get on with it. Smile and say thanks, put baby in some bits long eniough to take a few pics and then sell / ditch them if it bothers you that much. The woman lives in usa so its not like you're going to see her much! Then say baby grew out of them if she asks. Job done!

Yabu

TheBigJessie · 11/09/2012 08:59

Sashh Are you sure? I never noticed any imprints on my pfbs from the cotton cardigans I made them!

LurkingAndLearningLovesOrange · 11/09/2012 09:04

I wonder if the baby ever did wear any of the acrylic...

bigsnugglebunny · 11/09/2012 09:07

YANBU acrylic feels horrible, all squeaky...

lurkerspeaks · 11/09/2012 09:35

I'm sittting her pissing myself laughing at all the nasty comments about acrylic yarn and all the recommendations for baby cashmerino (it is nice I use it a lot myself)......

The irony Baby cashmerino is 55% microfiber (which is another synthetic). IMO as a knitter some modern acrylics feel Ok (and I"m a massive yarn snob). I would use acrylic if I couldn't guarantee careful washing. To get expensive yarn from me you have to look after it!

TheBigJessie · 11/09/2012 12:02

My biggest problem with acrylic is that is sometimes looks too much like wool. Then I come out in psychosomatic itchiness!

Kayano · 11/09/2012 12:03
Hmm
LibrariansMakeNovelLovers · 11/09/2012 12:55

YANBU - there are so many WAHMs and small businesses dying the most beautiful yarn out in america (mosaic moon and Three Irish Girls just for starters). They also tend to do superwash stuff too which is okay in the washing machine if that's a problem. I ffound acrylic stretches and goes slightly shiney after a coupleof washes. And it doesn't feel as nice against the skin as natural fibres.

LibrariansMakeNovelLovers · 11/09/2012 12:56

Urgh, and that is why one should always read the thread

PeshwariNaan · 11/09/2012 12:58

As a knitter cotton and wool is much nicer for babies/ kids, but acrylic is WAY cheaper, sometimes softer and easier to wash. You're being a bit picky IMO, but can't you always dress DD's dolls in the clothes?

PeshwariNaan · 11/09/2012 12:59

Damn, sorry, zombie thread!

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