to have refused to remove the photo?

[moominmarvellous]

A friend of mine has emailed asking me to remove a picture of her DD from an album on Facebook of my daughters birthday party.

Just to clarify, it's the back of her child, in fancy dress, she's in the distance in a photo taken of two other children. I know she doesn't like her DD's pics on there, so I deliberately didn't include any of her or tag her Mum in pics to draw attention to anything.

I'm begining to wonder if they're in the witness protection programme!

I think whether your friend has photos of her DD on FB is irrelevant, really. She can control her privacy settings and who sees the photos, but she can't control yours. I don't think you've BU though, in either putting the photo up in the first place, or in how you've dealt with her request. If her DD is unrecognisable in the shot, then it does seem to be about issues other than the photo. Sounds like she had a bit of a narky, high and mighty moment, and has now calmed down, evidenced by her reaction when you said that, in future, you would remove/blur? any images of her DD (sorry, think you said something along those lines, laptop being pedantic tonight). I think if it were me, I would take down the photo and email it to the friend who had requested you publish it, therefore completely passing the buck should that friend then decide to post it on her FB . I do have photos of DD on my FB because I like to show off about how goddam cute and beautiful she is so people who don't see her on a regular basis in rl can 'see' her online, but I have my privacy set at friends only. I think I would be a little bit concerned if I saw a recognisable photo of DD on a friend's FB and didn't know who else could see it. I'd probably end up trawling through their friends list for 'dodgy looking' characters .