to think single parents get, kind of, forgotten in the general scheme of things

[sevenkeystomysoul]

Right, so I'm a single parent, no big deal there, I prefer it to the alternative and generally get along fine. But most of my close friends are smug marrieds (maybe not smug, as such, but don't know they're fucking born kind of take their priviliged lives for granted). I don't have much money and babysitters are a once-in-a-blue-moon phenomenon, but would it kill the fuckers to invite me to a day time bbq on a Sunday when they know DD is with her dad and I'm on my own? I know they don't do it consciously, but I kind of fall off the radar on these occasions.

i liked the leap to albanian blood feuds-cant dare interpret but hell its funny

"I am cheering myself up by imagining scottishmummy and runnybottoms shindigs. The fun! the Laughter! the misinterpretations and fallings out! This puts Albanian blood feuds in the shade for sheer tedious repetition.But I think you may have hit the nail on the head. Talk of barbecues has clearly opened some old and deep wounds."

i applaud such hyperbole. not many on mn can make that leap

Gettingagrip, I think this is a huge issue for a lot of single parents, but if I were you, I would start a new thread. This one has been taken over by uninvited guests. I wouldn't mind but they didn't even bring decent wine and they're scaring the children with all their talk about melanges and such.

Everyone? really? Do look again dearie, you seem to have missed everyone elses posts, choosing to only notice the ones that were as sad as yours agreed with you. There are at least 7 or 8 YABU's until you started up with your pity bbq.

thanks, I see
nn all

Oh, the Noahs Ark mentality is alive and well. I am luckier than a lot of single parents as my co-parent is a great dad and a good bloke so I get to go out whenever I want to, pretty much. I also have a group of friends from before being PG, some of whom have DC, some of whom don't and who are a mix of single and partnered: social events tend to be an 'everyone come round' type of thing.
However, in the three years of toddler groups before DS started school, I found it pretty much impossible to make friends with anyone local, and there still do seem to be plenty of people who just do not socialise with anyone not in a couple.

mn is open discursive forum.people where they wish.threads dont get taken over,as no one has ownership or overall direction.it evolves. if you wished only plaudits and praise perhaps not post on open forum.or aibu.

and we have great wine, we're just not sharing. Me and sm are a couple doncha know?

aye!a couple of whit....

im not part of a couple either.i dont travel in twos.

Well in theory I am as free as I can be as my kids are older teenagers so can go out whenever I like, funds allowing.

In fact just this week I decided to do a little test to see if I am being paranoid. So I am not going to phone anyone or invite anyone to anything and see how long it takes for me to be remembered by my frends!

It's sad really. I don't want to end up a lonely old woman, and I am worried about what will happen when my kids leave home. I am a sociable person and like to go out to things.

I really am at a loss to know what to do about it.

You know what runnybottom? Scottishmummy is at least fairly amusingly demented. You, on the other hand, present yourself as a woman (or man) so filled with bitterness and hate that you find it necessary to embark on a witch hunt of anonymous internet posters. Your posts are humourless, nasty little insights into what must be a very sad existence. Maybe you should address your own issues before commenting on others.

Transfer much? PMSL at me being the one filled with bitterness and hate!

Do have another read of the thread and feel suitable ashamed at your bizarre and random attacks on me. Hello Pot, I'm a kettle, and I just thought I'd mention you're black.

Oh, shut it Runnybottom - you're a thug.

oh and before you badly psychoanalyse me further, you may want to take some of your own advice.

Just for the record. You. Do. Not. Know. Me. This. Is. An. Anonymous. Internet. Forum. You. Are. Confusing. It. With. Real. Life.>>>>>>>

really? a thug? defined as an aggressive or violent young criminal? Or a 19th century Indian assassin for hire? Why's that then?

Take your own advice runnybottom and re-read your comments on this thread. Then ask yourself why you wasted an evening of your life spreading your vileness all over a thread that a lot of people found useful/relevant. Nothing bizarre or indeed random about my replies to you, you have repeatedly attacked me and I have responded. I guess you are a bully in rl and don't like it when you're challenged.

See runnybottom? You're not well liked, I wonder why?

I'm hurt. No,wait I mean bemused and amused. You namechanged found a friend who was rude and this somehow means I'm am not well liked? Did you hurt yourself on that massive leap?

I'm not the one sitting home alone crying about not being invited to parties, so I guess that means I am well liked. And you are....not so much.

Don't worry yourself about my wasted evening, I'm very productive and managed a good few hours of work between amusing myself here. Now stop crying into your gin and find a lighthearted thread to buzzkill join, theres a love?

No, I didn't name change, there really are people out there who find you as offensive as I do. No, I wasn't sitting at home alone crying about not being invited to one party, I was out with some other friends. No, I am not currently crying into my gin as a) I don't drink gin and b) you are of no consequence to me. And this, if you remember, was a thread I started, and which a number of posters responded to in recognition of the situation I described, and one which you saw fit to contribute your unwanted, irrelevant poisonous opinion to. So you be a love, will you, and don't stick around where you're clearly not liked or wanted. I'm sure there'll be a thread along soon about sending single mothers to the workhouse or some such that you can contribute fully and productively to.

"maybe not smug, as such, but --don't know they're fucking born"

You do sound charming...

Scottishmummy - you write very much like an ex of mine whom I have very fond memories of (a particularly filthy scottish man )

I think the OP was badly let down by the failure of her word striking out hyphens .

"My friends are smug, privilaged fuckers who don't know they are born. I would love to be invited to their BBQ's but they don't invite me. I don't know why?? My child goes to his dad's on the weekend and has a lovely time. I have to sit here feeling sorry for myself because I am not liked resourceful enough to find some friends of my own. But I am not jealous".

Tell me again seven. Which part of your post do I not understand??

at Dorie. That wasn't my post! My post is up there, shouldn't be too difficult to scroll to the top of the page, or to read posts properly, before bungling in with your ill-informed opinions.

Am mighty bored of you and your tiny band of compadres now, would be different if your venom was tempered with even the slightest hint of humour. Am off to pick up DD from pre-school then lunch with a bunch of married and single friends . You keep polishing your broomsticks and directing your anger/resentment/bitterness at anonymous posters on the internet...

So which part of your post do I not understand?

Would these be the "smug, privilaged, don't know they are born, married fuckers" you are to be having lunch with?