Calling Time on Wine - 100 Day Reset | Thread 2: One Day at a Time - Together

[therockingbird]

Welcome to Thread 2 of Calling Time on Wine 100 Day Reset 🍵

If you’re here, you’re doing something genuinely brilliant. This reset isn’t about perfection, shiny lives, or pretending it’s easy. It’s about choosing ourselves one day at a time, even when life keeps lobbing chaos our way.

We’ve already proven we can sit with hard evenings, bad days, stress, boredom, celebrations, and still not reach for wine.

Thread 2 is about keeping the momentum going, supporting each other, being honest when it’s tough, celebrating the wins and remembering why we started when motivation wobbles. Clearer heads. Stronger bodies. 💪

So pull up a chair, grab your tea, water, or AF alternative, and keep going. You are not doing this alone - and you are doing so well. 💛

Morning.

@freshstart2026, I don’t know if you’ve listened to the podcast They Think It’s All Sober. I’ve nothing in common really with the two guys that host, but actually, they really resonate with me very often. Both are 4 years sober and in the music industry so not drinking in social settings is something they’ve both had to negotiate because it’s part of their work. I don’t think either pretend that there aren’t parts of drinking that they miss - it’s not all positive and rosy. They do feel like you did yesterday evening sometimes and how talk about how they’ve processed those feelings. This isn’t one of my drinking triggers so I don’t want to offer suggestions but I do think that if you listed the positives of being AF and the negative aspects, the first list would be WAY longer, just perhaps not yesterday. How are you feeling now?

How are you feeling today @Shanda5? I’ve had a few cravings this week too.

I can and do have all sorts of booze in the house and don’t even think about drinking but there’s one particular red wine I think would tempt me, and I genuinely drank that for the taste rather than the feeling, so I’m best not having that in.

We had friends round last night and they drink very little. One was driving so was AF and the other had one and a half small glasses of wine then drank water. So it was easy to be AF. I’m still tired today as we are quite late and has a much later night than usual. Plus I’m marathon training so ran a very long run that morning.

We are doing brilliantly people. Keep posting any wobbles as I’m sure we all are having them and can help.

Morning all on day 46. It feels quite astonishing really to have done 1.5 months sober. I’m so glad I joined this thread due to not finding a Dry January one - as the OP said, DJ is a pause, 100 days is a reset. It really does feel like one!

My gut finally feels almost back to normal but I’d say there’s a little way still to go on that. If I’d started drinking on February 1st it wouldn’t have had time to fully heal and restore. The same with my weight loss - I’ve lost 12lb so far but my goal is 21lb. Again, if I’d started drinking again I’d have had to abandon my target as alcohol plays havoc with my weight.

So after my major wobble yesterday, I’m relieved to still be here today, plugging away. Here’s to another day sober!

Thanks @needastrongone. I will give that a listen 🙌 I’ve just looked it up and some of the topics sound really good - “making peace with your sober self” and “is sobriety really worth it” are two that immediately stood out.

I SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT
Sorry for shouting but it was the first time in more than 2 years.
I was late to bed but still had 7 hours straight through.
The great reset starts here 😀

🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

Congratulations @Iamateadrinker - that is wonderful!

Im back and being dry after thinking I could moderate last week (felt terrible all weekend snd then went out Wed, had two glasses of wine, felt awful til Friday!) So it looks like its back to no wine for me, which actually feels great to make the decision and have the headspace.

Morning all, I've been following this thread but not been brave enough to post before. I'm on day 58 and delighted with that. I have so much embarrassment over my drinking behaviour and the affects its had on my family and reputation. I'm trying to forgive myself and prioritise self care but it's been very up and down. So good to read others experiences.

@Yearoftheskin
Amazing, well done
Re shame and forgiving yourself - I totally get it
But someone a lot wiser than me said " what would you think if a friend told you that story?"
i.e how would you react
No doubt you would be happy for them, proud of them, encourage them and tell them no shame is necessary as they had acknowledged their difficulties and was trying to do something about it.
I guess a lot of us can't acknowledge our struggles irl so the validation and support we get anonymously here is vital.

Been hiding from this thread a bit as I drank two glasses of wine last weekend at a social occasion. Totally agree with the comments on socialising, it is hard. I think Swifty posted a couple of weeks ago, you don't hang around a cake shop at 2am if you are trying not to eat cake. Anyway, I don't massively regret it as I was still very restrained, but I feel annoyed with myself that now instead of 45 consecutive days not drinking I have 8. I am quite competitive with myself, which is normally the way I stick at things. But it is still 44 days of not drinking overall, so I should be pleased with that.

I have also hit 2 stone weight loss since September. Not drinking has definitely helped me stay on track there, though I have really developed a sweet tooth that I can't seem to get rid of.

Forgot to say this is the first weekend that Friday and Saturday have been and gone and I haven't debated drinking. They just felt like normal nights. Even with the ambush of pink prosecco in the supermarkets.

Hi 👋

Checking in still dry on day 46 🥳 well done to us all, especially those who have had a blip and managed to stop at a couple of glasses don't think I could have done that. We are all still here plodding along on our journey each day bringing us a new learning opportunity. This week the voice inside my head has shown up a few times saying go on have a wine or oh it's valentines day treat yourself to thar Aldi champagne you like. I've ignored and tried to work through. I really don't understand because I don't want to drink alcohol and prefer my dry life hopefully the voice will get lost soon enough. Last night I had a bottle of rose shloer it's funny how much I look forward to and enjoy my weekend treat of Shloer we played card games me, dh and ds and had a good laugh. Woke up fresh and rested this morning even though it was a late bed last night after 1am. Usually I would get up on a Sunday full of regret and guilt being all super mum/wife cleaning the house like mad and then making a roast dinner or just letting the hangover ruin my day and sit on the couch doom scrolling feeling horrible. Have the house to myself today woke up around 10am still in pjs feeling calm and peaceful enjoying coffee, orange juice and jaffa cakes. House is all clean and fresh because I am so much more productive during the week even the washing basket is empty! I've not lost any more weight but my God have the inches dropped off me I am literally half the person I was 46 days ago, I have bones and divits and my bra is now too big and all gappy. To be honest with you guys I never want to drink alcohol again and saying that doesn't freak me out or make me panic like it used to but it does make me doubt myself like am I capable of it ? I really don't want to let myself down. So I plod on not for the future that's not a given but for me for today. One day at a time that's all I need to do.

Thanks guys 💐

Wow@Ladymuckypuddle losing inches is fantastic. Funny how some of you have lost weight/ inches galore and some of us nothing or barely anything. Unfair! But well done you

@SwiftyFifty thank you, I am hoping that when I start back exercising this week the weight loss kicks in unfortunately I am still in the obese category. Typing this as I am making chocolate brownies 😳

You deserve one! Some…

I don't think I have lost weight just from now drinking, based on having done Dry Jan several times and not losing, or even gaining, then. But not drinking helps me stick to the plan I am doing, which is basically limiting myself to around 1500-1600 calories a day. Given that a bottle of wine is about 600 calories, that doesn't leave me enough room for enough food when drinking!

Oops, meant to haven't lost weight just from not drinking. Not, now!

Day 41, my face bloat has gone. I can see my cheek bones again.

That's fab @Icecreamhelps it's great to see changes isn't it 😀

@GoodNamesOnly 600 calories in a bottle of wine is crazy. I would rather have a big mac now 🤣

Morning folks. I’ve just done my Monday morning weigh-in and after losing nothing last week, I’ve now lost another 4lbs, taking my total weight loss since December 29th to 1 stone and 2lbs! Needless to say I am sooo happy and can’t quite believe it. I only have 5lbs to go until I reach my goal!

In not such good news, I’ve had a few last minute emergency “life” things pop up - including the washing machine conking out, which means I will have to make an unexpected payment to get it fixed. This sort of thing really stresses me out but I’m trying to remain calm and accept that it’s just one of those things.

Happy Monday all!

@freshstart2026 amazing weight loss! Well done. Crap news about the washing machine but.. these are the type of things sent to try us. It would have happened regardless - we just need to remember that. I had a bit of a wobble on Valentine’s Day, just feeling a bit sad about being single 🤷🏼‍♀️ it would have been so easy to just knock back a few wines and forget about it but the moment passed quickly and was forgotten.

We are heading this week into 50 days!! That’s a huge accomplishment for us all, I’d definitely say my mindset has shifted. Had it been just dry January that wouldn’t have been the case.

half term here this week - couple of things planned and the rain has stopped! 🥳

Thanks @therockingbird - I am absolutely chuffed. The best bit is I hardly feel like I’m dieting really. Michael Moseley is a genius!

It’s odd how I had lost nothing last Monday then whoosh. This happened to me once in early January too - I plateaued then had a great loss the following week. It just shows it’s worth sticking with it and not losing heart!

I’ve also been thinking about my gut. It finally feels almost back to normal but that’s taken 46 days. I think I’ve said before, I honestly felt like I had IBS at the end of last year. It was clearly so irritated by all the alcohol I was consuming. It’s scary how much drink can affect your other bodily processes isn’t it? But also sooo gratifying to see them heal.

Morning everyone, just checking in and thank you all for the inspiration to keep me going. I've never been a big drinker, but drinking was a habit and I felt now I'm quite old I don't need bad habits that impact on my health. At the moment I'm hoping to keep going and I've enjoyed telling people 'I don't drink any more'.

My focus today is my dd's wedding in July. I am thinking I shan't drink at the wedding even though it's a big celebration and a lovely event. I'll be partially in charge of my granddaughters for one thing, keeping an eye out and making sure they are okay (one is 3 one will be 4 months). I want to remember the event clearly and also wake up the next morning knowing I didn't say anything out of place or stupid and best of all remembering. I want to stay dignified! But I feel I need to make that commitment now and plan how I'll manage that, what I'll say when anyone offers to get me a drink. I think I'll be best if I don't even have a sip of alcohol, rather than say I'll have one glass. So it feels a bit miserable in some ways to say this, but I shan't drink at my daughter's wedding.

Fantastic @freshstart2026! I too am noticing the weight suddenly go whoosh after not moving for a while (although have lost nowhere near as much as you!).

I love a sober wedding @thisoldcity. Always grateful towards the end when everyone else is slaughtered, and always have fun!

@thisoldcity I understand where you are coming from. Unless you say to yourself I won’t drink until 8pm or something? By which time everyone will be merry and it wouldn’t be obvious if you then go a bit tipsy.
Or stay sober and don’t do what friends of mine did ( massive drinkers) at his daughters wedding ( he was married before)
Him and his new wife got drunk and then really angry about wedding stuff they felt they weren’t included in, stormed out of the wedding during the meal drank drove home with two kids in the back got pulled my the police and lost license and never spoke to his daughter again even on his death bed ( drink related )
Weddings seem to bring out the worse in people. I reckon if you give yourself an option to drink really late into the day, you probably wouldn’t even bother at that stage??

Thank you @GreenCherriesand I hope that's how it will be. I haven't actually been to a wedding for years and years, so I'm just trying to get my head round it.