Yellow eyes and skin

[Bunny2607]

Evening all
i’m posting to see if anyone has experience with what might happen next here please.
i share a son with my ex and he goes to see ex once a week overnight. I called round to ex’s house earlier to drop some things off for my son and his eyes and skin were yellow, he was glowing. I said to him you need to get checked out but he said its just because he is tired.
he does have an alcohol problem although wont admit it. It was the reason i left him when son was little. He just can’t leave it alone. He was in hospital approx 4yrs ago with pancreatitis and was told then by the doctors never to drink again but he hasn’t listened.
so now today has come and he is yellow, he said he’s been like it a couple of days. I’ve urged him to get checked out and said it could be his liver or pancreas, and sent a screenshot from the nhs website saying to seek urgent medical attention if you have yellow eyes but he said he will see how he is in a few days.
my question is, I’m assuming he is yellow because of how much he drinks but what is his body doing? If he sought medical attention what is the answer to fix the jaundice is it medication or antibiotics? If he doesn’t seek medical attention how serious is it? I know nobody can diagnose over the internet and i will keep telling him to get medical attention but i’m also trying to work out what might happen to prepare myself with my son as well. Before when he had pancreatitis he was in hospital a month so if this happens again i obviously need to manage my son who has autism and is used to seeing his dad every week. Obviously i am concerned for his dad but also trying to plan for my son.
thanks in advance x

Once he's home , so you think he could get out to sit in a park for an hour or so , or maybe a local cafe ?
That way he sees his son and you are there as well .

Evening everyone
just thought i’d come back to see how you are getting on @BMW6 its been a few weeks now since your DH passed how are you?
my ex came home. He is seeing my son for 4 hours at a time supervised at the moment. He has been told if he has another drop of alcohol he will be dead, so far so good but still early days. I have found out that while he was in hospital his mum was planning his funeral as he was told there was a chance he wouldn’t make it out of there and also a 50% chance he won’t survive for 6 months. Apparently tests and stuff he is having at the moment are promising but you never know i guess.

Fingers crossed things continue improving @Bunny2607 . Hopefully seeing his son is motivating for him. How do the visits feel for you?

Liver failure. It’s dangerous

Yes i think it is helping motivate him seeing his son and i also think he is getting more enjoyment out my son and life generally. I’m nervous to be honest about how it will go moving forward, my worst nightmare is that he builds trust up with me to have son overnight again and relapses and just drops dead or becomes seriously ill at home and my son witnesses it. we are a way off him staying overnight so i’m hoping if he is going to relapse or start drinking again it will have happened before he sees son unsupervised and i will know, i can tell when he has been drinking. So just baby steps really.

Hi Bunny thanks for thinking of me. I'm OK - some days not so good but I think I was so mentally and emotionally prepared for this, so glad I was.

All the admin has been done, he had a Direct cremation and his ashes are sat on my hearth awaiting scattering in the next few weeks.

I feel rather like a shipwreck survivor - washed up on a beach, taking stock, adjusting to the new situation.

Each day I make myself do at least 2 actions (apart from normal stuff) before I can retreat into a book. All His clothes have been donated apart from his favourite jacket and shirt, which I'll keep for now.

The bedroom carpet is being taken up in manageable strips and put out with the rubbish, so that's ongoing.

I so hope your child doesn't see what I saw, ever.
I'd be very wary at any suggestion of an overnight unsupervised stay - my DH died within 2 hours of asking me to call 999 and he became irrational within 1/2 hour.

I'm sure your ex doesn't intend to drink currently as he must still feel so ill, but I knew my DH would be tested as soon as he started feeling better physically - and he failed immediately pretty much.

I meant to say, I agree the documentary "Rain in my Heart" is very well worth watching - shocking and sad, but I wish they'd make 16 year olds watch it at school.