On A Mission To Moderate or Absolutely Abstaining? Join us for encouragement, support and non - judgemental chat *2024*

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I'm on day 25 AF, drinking so much tea and fizzy water.

@Bigbus 2lbs is amazing! Mine was actually over two weeks as I didn't weight in last week as I had an 11pm deadline. I was pleased but I'm still annoyed at the first digits (13st!!) but at the same time it's going to take me a while to get past it

@endlesswashing that's brilliant, well done. How have you found it overall ?

erm I've come back 😳 Totally fell of the wagon with the worst day being Sunday, i spent yesterday feeling so ill it was ridiculous! So I'm here to try again! Yesterday i only drunk enough to stop me feeling even worse later in the day, and tonight i am trying to limit myself to 1 every half an hour. Instead of rushing it I'm going to try and spread the cutting down over weeks. It really is a pain that i drink so much i cant just stop because once i start i struggle to stop, but i really just need to get a grip and sort it out now!

@mickandrorty ahhhh, welcome back. At least you've made that first step, so well done.
Let us know how you're getting on, and we'll help you along the way.

@Amdone123 not too awful surprisingly. There have been a few times when I could easily have had a few and felt like having a couple but I didn't dwell on it and kept myself busy or just drank more tea! I set mini goals so it doesn't feel like a daunting task. Next goal is to get to 30 days.

Day 2 here ... h re at motivation reading the thread and for me the weight loss too !
So found out dh had told me a pretty enormous lie tonight which really hurt me. He is prone to being quite sparse with the truth . We have champagne and brandy in the house amd I was tempted to knock back a triple brandy just because I was so stressed but I made a brew . So proud of myself ! Do love a brew x

@Easterdaffsx well done !
Day 3 tomorrow for you.

Day 5 came about very quickly. I'm feeling that I won't drink Friday night, but I may Saturday. That will have been a 7 day break, so all good.

Day 3 here, should be ok cos the kids are here and I hardly ever drink around them, maybe once every few months if that.

It's when I'm alone and bored I give in...

Thank you @Amdone123 It is helpful seeing everyone else's experiences here. I managed to stick to 1 every half an hour last night which means I had less all night than I would drink in around an hour normally, although I'm not sure if having a horrific hangover fresh in my memory helped! Sleep last night was awful though it took ages to get to sleep and then i only slept for 4 hours.

@mickandrorty no problem. What are your af plans for this evening?
I had an urge earlier but I've deliberately left my purse at home, so I should be OK.
It's because tennis is on, I've a few things to sort financially (not a problem but it stresses me, for some reason) and a certain someone is annoying me.
At least I can identify the source , instead of reaching for the sauce 🥴

@Amdone123 that's some great willpower! I am trying to stick to my 1 every half an hour and making a new recipe to keep me busy, how about you anything planned?

@mickandrorty I'm at work til 7pm ish. I use the term 'work' lightly.
Tennis is on, then bed. I'm very boring.
I want to drink this evening though, definitely. I won't because I don't have it in, I rarely go out for it and I've got no money on me.
I'm trying to hang on til Saturday pm when I'll probably cook, too.

Good evening everyone and welcome back to all the returners. I hope everyone is having a good evening (or morning if you’re in Australia!).

I plodding onwards. I have half a bottle of my favourite Prosecco in the fridge and I’ll have a drink later when I’ve finished all my chores. It’s planned and when it’s finished that will be it. We always have wine and beer in the house so my moderation has to be willpower based! The play-it-forward hangover fear is my biggest help!

Hi guys, I’m really struggling at the moment, what with family and relationship issues I just feel completely lost. I wonder what the point is. I’d really love a drink so much.

I seem to have gone backwards emotionally and I’m not even drinking.

I just feel that I’m on my own in this world, with no direction or hope.

@Touty so sorry to hear you're feeling so down. Is there anyone you can talk to ?
You can always post here, we'll try to help. ❤️

@Touty I know how you feel!

Day 4 here and it's starting to get hard. Not because I'm desperate for a drink right now but I've got from now until Sunday afternoon by myself...and that means getting drunk at least once! Not even got much on at work to distract me.

@OhShitImNearly40 I'm with you !
I'm on day 6, which is good, but I'm going shopping after. I'm going to get a nice bottle of something and have it after work, watching the tennis.
This means I won't drink tomorrow evening.
I've always planned my drinking - I used to find it quite pathetic. I still do really but hey ho, that's the plan.
What will you do, do you think ?
A plan's not a bad idea, really 🤔

@Amdone123 A plan's not a bad idea. Are you just cutting down rather than stopping then? Not sure what I'm going to do. Avoid the shops I suppose and stay in, cook myself something nice.

I was going to go for a run to distract myself but I did that already!

@OhShitImNearly40 yes, I'm just looking to cut back. Admittedly, I'm happier when I don't drink but it's hard to give up completely.
Sometimes I think if I have a 5 or 6 day break, that's good. I'll only have 1 bottle this evening too, whereas in the past, I would never have just bought 1. Always 2.
Avoiding the shops, yes - I'm glad it's not just me !

@Touty hope you're ok ?

Can you get some alcohol free stuff in?
Have you things in place to distract you? (Apart from MN!)

PS Tho going for a run is a bit much.... 🤣

@Amdone123 thank you ❤️
Im still sober, the cravings come and go.

I just feel a bit lost in life, just questioning everything, my relationship, where I live etc. I just feel that OH and I are not very compatible, I feel that life is passing me by sometimes. I definitely feel a lack of human connection and social contact , which is not easily fixed as I live in the sticks.

But I do like the peace and quiet here; I went back to the UK for a few days last week and it was so noisy, but idle I moved back there I think it would be easier to entertain myself and distract myself from the noise in my head if that makes sense.

I don’t know, I’m just writing what comes into my head here.