Anyone else in Day 1 today

[enoughisenough100]

So after so many attempts of failing, I'm really hoping to succeed this time. Is anyone on day 1. I go through other posts nd read how well people are doing, but just can't seem to get past the first few days. The house is hectic nd I feel like by 5 o clock, I deserve to be opening a bottle of wine. I know I shouldn't nd would be feel so much better the next day if I can stop drinking. Just can't seem to crack it. Any tips on audio books that really worked? Other ideas? I think I've tried so many times I need to do something different. I know the first few weeks are going to b tough, any vitamins etc to give a boost. Any advice ? Help !!!

@Namechanged12344 that's such an achievement! Well done. I would love to get that far. Like you, I can't moderate either. It would be the ideal situation but I've just tried that so many times before and it puts me back to square one every time!! I have to say I was tempted this evening on the way home. But I didn't! It really is just one day at a time!

@enoughisenough100 well done for resisting tonight!! You will wake up so fresh and have a good sleep! When last did you drink? And you will get to 30 days trust me it's so wierd how our brains and bodies work. It's that first few days hurdle like up to day 4 and then it'll be easier and easier. I won't lie it's been bloody hard especially with so much stress past few weeks but I'm trying and eating chocolate and ice creams and AF beers. I even smoked a cheeky box but after reading the sober diaries I've stopped that too. Are you reading anything ?

@Namechanged12344 I'm on day 4, Wel I had a good few days built up before that and had 2 slip ups so day 4 now and so determined this time but early days yet I know! I am smoking a little at the minute too , I was afraid to kick both bad habits together so I think if it gets me through a few stressful moments ! I loved sober diaries, I had the audio version, I should go and listen to that again . I haven't found anything as good as that to sink myself into!

@enoughisenough100 that's great ! You are day 5 today whoop! Have you made any plans today ? I find when I'm super distracted to the point I'm thinking oh is that the time already I'm not going to think about drinking. I also read unexpected joy about 3 years ago which was my last proper stint but it got lost. I heard alcohol lied to me is good too. I have been going to bed so late these days since I stopped drinking but at least I'm staying asleep until morning. Before I'd comatose knock out at 9ish even tho my kids sleep later and getting angry etc and then wake up middle of night without a doubt. It's funny why we do this, put poison in our bodies which wrecks our bodies just for a few minutes of 'relaxation' but it's not relaxing us it? Wish noone invited wine and cigs! But don't worry about the cigs for now. I saw it as it's 2 addictions and giving up the drink was priority for me anyway.

*invented but also invited to the party lol

Morning, all, how are we doing ? Sounds like there's plenty of motivation here.
Well, I'm home now. Great night's sleep in my own bed. I didn't drink yesterday ( the 1 beer ), and I won't today.
It's 1st June and I'm classing it as day 1. I don't really want to moderate because like most people say, I don't think it really works long term. It can, and has, for me worked ( on a thread on here actually, was great ), but I want to give this another go.
So, day 1.

@Namechanged12344 I know I tried kick both bad habits before at the same time and it just never worked so think I'm just going to concentrate on booze for now. Well I sat down this evening with a cold fizzy coke nd crisps. I'm definitely munching more since giving up drink!@Amdone123 glad u did really well on holidays . Best of luck for day one .

@enoughisenough100 , morning. I find myself eating more sweet stuff when I abstain. I try to remember that it's fewer calories than a bottle of wine. I'm quite lucky regarding the smoking as I only smoke when drinking, so stopping drinking is a win - win for me.
Day 2.
Yesterday was fine. I was taking the dog out and made a point of leaving my bag at home. A tip I picked up somewhere. No money on you means no temptation to pop in the local off - licence !

Well done on the cold coke and crisps @enoughisenough100 ! I had AF beer (I'm pretty sure there's something in them still though I don't know like nothing happens to me like wine but I don't know it's an odd feeling) maybe it's because I'm absolutely shattered last few days with kids and appts and builders etc. Me and DH has a big fight last night too was awful he came home from work so moody and moaning about everything and anything and I just lost it. It would have been worse had I been drinking though. So I've now got to learn to bite my tongue but I grew up around shouty people lol so my go to is shouting. Anyway he's such a hypocrite I tell you he's got a nerve to talk about a messy house when we have builders in??? His desk and room are so bad but we have to sort out the sleeping situation I guess but we've always slept in separate beds before kids because we both snore! I wish I could get away on holiday just me and the kids but without him it's no fun according to the kids haha
Sorry went off on a tangent there. Just this place is good to write on tbh, have you checked out the freedom board yet it's really good. I'm day 31 I'm classing that as a month but triggering is bank holiday sun etc but I'm going to be strong. As are you!

Well done on day 1 @Amdone123 ! I searched for a moderating thread and saw you had made one before, great to those that can do it but I'm pretty sure for me and as you find with yourself we can't but it's better doing it completely AF as we don't have to worry about the one or when can I have the one etc etc you go girl! We can all do this.

We cross posted @Amdone123 well done for keeping the bag at home!!! Little tips like this make all the difference. Also I've been eating take outs the past week and eating so much chocolate I would never normally as the calories of wine would be my meal . I still remember going to good friends weddings getting so drink before the dinner and the speeches it's awful thinking back I wasn't bad but I wasn't good either....I wish I could turn back time but I can't! I really want to get a dog but my eldest is scared of dogs but I think it would be a good friend for him...

@Namechanged12344 well done on Day 31. You're doing brilliantly. Especially as it sounds like you've got so much going on !! Hope the situation with dh improves.
The freedom thread is great but I get a bit lost in it. I dip in n out though.
I'm sat here now thinking what will I do today ? Dangerous for me. My dsis had a celebration and received 6 bottles of champagne. She doesn't like champagne so has said I can have them. The bad news is she only lives 10 minutes away so I could easily go to her house. The good news is she's in America.
I don't want to drink and I won't. I just keep thinking that everyone is partying and I'm not. Dh gone to work, gone all day.
I need a plan for today before I push that feck it button.

Ok @Amdone123 so have you taken the dog for a walk yet? Make that part of your plan and don't take your purse. And then plan on making a phone call to an old friend you would like to catch up with ? It's got easier as the days have gone on when I'm on my own. Get in to a good Netflix movie or box set and your DH should be home by what time? Does he drink? X

@Namechanged12344 , hi 👋. Yes, I had a lovely bath, took my dog out and I needed washing powder so I just took the right amount of cash to the shop !
I'd been thinking why do I do this to myself, the mental gymnastics, just enjoy yourself, blah blah. Needed to change my mindset. I'm not missing out. I don't need to drink just cos others are ( newsflash - some aren't !). And I'm abstaining because it makes me feel bloody awful the next day !!!
Bullet dodged.
Thank you ❤

@Namechanged12344 , dh doesn't drink, no. Well, the odd beer.

Oh that's even better then. My DH drinks weekends only but binges on nice red wine. I binged all week.

Also eat lots of choc or sweet stuff you like. Anything. It'll pass the feck it button if you are distracted.

You are doing so well @Amdone123. And yes noone actually needs it. Think of your great sleep you will have tonight and waking up fresh that's what spurs me on. X

@Namechanged12344 sounds like your having it tough! Hope things improve. You're doing amazing in day 31. I must def check out the freedom thread! @Amdone123 that's tempting knowing there's champagne there for you, but hopefully u can stay strong! I have been thinking , I know I'm doing one day at a time but I will have a work night out during the summer , I don't know if it's a long term plan for me or wat my plan is (not drinking), can you see yourself never drinking again, I really do find that idea impossible! I know for now I'm sticking to it though! Would just find a night out very hard I think.

Hi @enoughisenough100 that's the problem with the whole forward thinking thing. At the start of the 31 days this time(and all the other times) I always started thinking what about birthdays and then it went on to my kids wedding which isn't for years and years if they decide to marry anyway it's crazy the thinking of it all. Sober diaries helped me clarify these feelings as she was going through the same thing all the thoughts and feelings etc. I took each day and now I'm here but I did decline a few outings as I knew I might have been tempted. The first time I went out with 3 friends they were all getting pissed on wine and it was a bit awkward but then I was fine and felt ok going to sleep and waking up whereas they all were a bit worse for wear. But they're normal drinkers. I would have drunk before , during and possibly after wouldn't remember a conversation I had with anyone in depth. Just snippets and then they wondered why I was asking the same question again the next time and so on x

Yes, definitely best to take it one day at a time. Or even 1 hour at a time ( me, this morning!). I think the idea of never drinking again scares some people. I have had nights out sober ( or when moderating, just 2 glasses), and the thinking about it was harder than actually doing it.
If it helps, just try to see it as resetting your relationship with it ; giving your body / liver a break. Then evaluate, see what you want to do moving forward.
I do know from experience that the first few days are the hardest. I found that the longer I abstained, the less I thought / craved it.
It is hard work, though, no denying that.

Yeah I hear ya ! My longest AF journey was 10 months. Kicking myself I didn't continue but bygones and that. Moving on and up! I tried moderating once or twice but just wasn't for me. I need to get over the whole feeling sorry for myself why can't I be normal but it's hard.

@Namechanged12344 , wow, 10 months. Still, you've done it once, you can do it again.
I wish I didn't have this problem either. I was talking to my dsis and she's the same with food. She can't have sweet stuff in like I can't have alcohol in. Once she starts, she can't stop, etc. I guess we're only human.
I was tempted before. Again. But I put some lovely food in the oven instead and now I'm fine.
I actually can't be bothered sometimes going to the shop for it. I think that's a good sign.

Morning, all. How's it going ? I had a lovely night's sleep and woke feeling really happy and positive, so well rested. And my skin is glowing ( sorry for being vain, but I'm like that !).
I need to go shopping so I'm having a cup of tea, then I'll go. I won't buy wine. It's not on my list !
Awful day here. Well, a lovely day for ducks, but never mind.
Have a great day, folks and thanks for yesterday. This thread is helping me so much.

Hi @Amdone123 had 2 close family birthdays today so was hectic but I loved I could enjoy waking up and watching one of my family open presents and actually feel good and fresh. Whereas other half had necked a bottle of wine last night and wouldn't wake up. And when he woke up he was moody. I'm like that's the wine he's like no it's not. God he annoys me but as I said on the other thread people who don't have the same 'issues' as us just don't get it. It's not oh she'll have some again soon or 'it'll be fine in a few months ', 'detoxing are we?' etc no I'm not I'm not drinking for the foreseeable . He's definitely missing me drinking with him but the way my brain is wired is different to him I could say it 30 times a day but he still wouldn't get it!
So pleased to hear you are happy and positive and your skin is glowing I LOVE THAT! Keep at it. We are here for you.

@Namechanged12344 , thank you. Well done to you for standing your ground. It can't be easy. I know on other threads people have said that when partners or friends are being difficult, it says more about them. Stay resolute, you're doing amazing.
Had a wobble before. Made a nice lunch, I'm OK now. In fact, my ds just popped in and asked if I wanted anything from the supermarket, and I said no ta. I didn't hesitate or question it. Just no.
Bit bored today so tomorrow I'm going to pack my rucksack, sort a packed lunch and walk to a local beauty spot. I'm not taking any money with me !!
Thank you for the support. It's really kind.
I must admit I do feel great. Often when I do this, I start drinking again. Then I'm back to square 1. One day at a time.