Mindfulness, Moderating and Not Texting In The Kitchen !

[Amdone123]

Morning all..hope you're all ok. Well I had busy weekend. I didn't quite stick to my plans : I drank Friday evening ( didn't eat), and drank last night, too. I don't feel great today but I am looking forward to having a break. I know I want to get back to being af and all its benefits.
I was thinking that I am able to stay in and not drink. My next step will be going out and not going mad !

Hi @onemoreforme yes sleep for.me on AF nights is until 1am but then I'm pretty sure I read that it's better sleep then if we were drinking. When I gave up recently for 2 months my sleep got better and better. I'm also not beating myself up. Just trying my best

Morning, I need to find a home for me.... I really need to cut back on my drinking. I've hit a stage now where I'm drinking every night, probably two glasses or more in the week and then more again on the weekends. I'm bloated, tired and frustrated. I'm not sure I have the willpower to stop drinking altogether but I'm going to try and just have a drink on a Saturday night as a starting point. The focus of my day is getting to a respectable time to have a drink.... I can't remember the last time I had a 'dry' night.

Hello all!!! Have been quietly keeping an eye on the chat and keeping up to date with everything and have decided to join back in if that’s ok….
@Amdone123 @Hohofortherobbers @Buntyforgirls (Not sure if any other OGs are still on here) will remember I started a thread many months/years ago when I was in a out of anxiety after a big night!!!! I’ve been quiet because my mum died and just fell a bit reclusive if I’m honest!

anyway! Here I am today…. Mildly hungover! So feeling the anxiety bubbling! Which is so ridiculous as I’ve had a lovely weekend and been fine! Friday night I had a bottle of Prosecco and enjoyed my evening with DH, then last night DS was on a sleepover so I had an unplanned bottle of red! DH abd I cooked and chatted, planning Xmas a bit etc and it was lovely…. But I was also texting crap in the kitchen to SIL and I just hate how today I cringe at everything I said etc even though it’s not too diff from how I normally am tbh! Anyway I need to be accountable and moderate so here I am back on the group! I tend to only drink at weekends but when I do it’s prob more than is good for my mental health 🙄
I’m enjoying reading everyone’s stories and experiences. @TripleTipplePipple hello- sorry your feeling crappy! One day at time!!!!

And should I add I’ve obviously slept rubbishly both nights so now I’m cross with myself about that too!!!

Hi @Mj20, so sorry to hear your mum died, I hope you've had lots of support around you.

I am feeling a bit crappy but I'm off to meet a friend in a minute for a long dog walk and I'm going to try and reset my life a bit from today. I've lost my mojo. Hopefully I'll find it somewhere underneath a pile of leaves in a country park. That, or I'll find a pile of someone else's dog poo that I've trodden in 😂

Thanks @TripleTipplePipple im very lucky to have good friends and my little family but my extended family are a bit of a nightmare! Which has been an added layer of stress!

A long walk sounds perfect!!! Just what you need! Rather than wallowing in the hangover I’m going to plan my day a bit so I get some structure! Let us know how your feeling later!!!! Xxx

Morning all ! @Mj20 , sorry to hear about your mum ❤️. Hi Tripple, enjoy your walk. I'm supposed to be walking today but not sure I've got the energy.
Well, I'm back from my holiday. I had a lovely time but glad to be home. I was out last night, a party that was cancelled through covid. My friends come from all walks of life but this particular one is super successful as are all his friends ( barristers, surgeons !!). They're lovely people but I realised last night I always drink too much in their company !! Definitely anxiety. Which is stupid as they don't judge me at all. Anyway I'm similar to you today TrippleI need a fresh start. I'm not going out til Xmas, so plenty of time to recharge.
I know I feel so much better af, so I'm now on day 1. Please join me !

Im with you @Amdone123 i have so much to get done between now and Xmas so can’t be wasting my days hungover and lethargic! Day 1 here we go xx

@Mj20 , that's great. I'm sure the others will join us.

@Amdone123 I’ll join you!

@Whitecistus , great !
I think it's 40 days ( and nights) til Xmas, so now seems as good a time as any.
Also, I've put so much weight on. And it's definitely the alcohol as I don't eat rubbish food. Yesterday I had a new dress, new boots and a lovely tan, but just didn't feel 'right'.

@Amdone123 Ok perfect
totally feel you on that one. Nothing fits anymore or if it does I just look like mr blobby!

Sorry to hear about your mum @Mj20 hope you will get through it all, your extended family sound tricky I know the feeling grrrr. I too think I've sent some wierd texts but actually it's how I speak it's the alcohol that makes us like that. We had people over last night until late and I mixed my drinks and today felt a bit hellish but forced myself to go out to the gym and had to take kids to activities but I'm over loading on carbs...I have a few things on between now and Xmas so am worried about those events but if I don't just keep drinking at home I might be able to just drink at the events I don't know! Hope the walk makes you feel better @TripleTipplePipple and glad you had a good holiday @Amdone123 hi @Whitecistus !

I will join you @Amdone123 the walk was really lovely. So...
Day 1 here. Even DH said this morning he feels like he needs a break from it. We have an open bottle in the fridge and an open box in the cupboard but he'll probably finish those off slowly then we won't replenish. I'm trying to be super productive today and will work up to a very early night tonight. We've had 4 nights disturbed by kids being ill and we all a bit knackered

Hi @Soberoct 👋🏼
I always find it hard to start these drink free periods on a weekend! How ridiculous

@Whitecistus yes I completely understand 100 per cent. Luckily we didn't go for our usual pub lunch so no booze. Altho one time I did go I had a Gordon's 0% and tonic was like the real thing!

Oh that’s good 😊 I usually have a couple whilst preparing the roast … must be good!

I don't often get this feeling of when you have drunk too much the night before I always always just drank again the next day. But today I did have a fleeting moment of should I but made a green tea instead and I have for a headache still! Someone mentioned they haven't had a dry night for a while same here but tonight will be one in a long time. I was also speaking to a woman yesterday and she said she decided to give up alcohol as she was approaching menopause as it made her super depressed and anxiety etc and she feels she is more productive and life is generally better the past 3 years she's given up.

I've reached that point in the day where I'm thinking about having a drink and knowing that there is a bottle in the fridge open is making it very hard!

@TripleTipplePipple I’m not going to lie, I caved at 5 😞 I think if there hadn’t been cold booze in the fridge it would have been easier. But no excuse
I will try from tomorrow
feeling super deflated, couldn’t even manage one day

@Whitecistus so did I but only at 630 when i took the kids up to bed. I'll finish my bottle of sparkling and get going tomorrow. The house is nice and tidy, everything prepped for tomorrow so I'm hoping for a stress free straight forward day that'll make me less likely to drink. I'm also going to bed at 9pm latest tonight!

@TripleTipplePipple ok let’s do this tomorrow 💪🏼

@Whitecistus agreed!

Hello all!
Happy Monday!!!! So day 1 achieved! And of course I slept brilliantly because A/F…. Wish I’d don’t it Fri and Saturday night too! But hey one day at a time!!!
may for your msg @Soberoct nice to hear from you and agree- others have told me alchol and M-pause aren’t great!!!!
@TripleTipplePipple its really hard to start a fresh when there’s a bottle in the fridge!!! It’s like starting a diet at Christmas when the house is full of goodies! Onwards and upwards now!!! @Whitecistus and @Amdone123 hope you guys are both ok! And here’s to a happy Monday for us xxx

Thanks @Mj20 and well done on day 1!
my day 1 is today 🫣