Mindfulness, Moderating and Not Texting In The Kitchen !

[Amdone123]

Morning all..hope you're all ok. Well I had busy weekend. I didn't quite stick to my plans : I drank Friday evening ( didn't eat), and drank last night, too. I don't feel great today but I am looking forward to having a break. I know I want to get back to being af and all its benefits.
I was thinking that I am able to stay in and not drink. My next step will be going out and not going mad !

I know @Hohofortherobbers giving up smoking was I think possibly harder than drink unsure which one but it was so hard. I don't even have the funds and I didn't realise how pricey they were...spending money to shorten your life hey but same can be said for booze I guess. Ok I'll chuck. Thank you

Wow I am absolutely knackered today ! Busy day at work just got home but want to sleep but kids etc etc but hey I'm not drinking whooop day 4. Funny you mentioned the blip @Amdone123 on that other group as one has blipped again which is fine we are all human but the one who had a bit of a pop at a newbie is being quite hypocritical and it's really upset me but I think I'm in that phase of no drinking for 4 days and the emotions and things that come along with it are all at the top so I need to meditate or do something as I have this internal rage I need to get rid of. Things between H and I aren't great I think it's because I wanted an apology for him locking me out that day and he hasn't. I have said say sorry but he won't and sent me on a wild goose chase yesterday too all very strange and feeling of narcissistic behaviour

Same here, I am shattered. I slept really badly. The 2 glasses of red wine weren't worth it. Well done on Day 4, that's brilliant. Just take one day at a time. Sorry to hear your frosty relations haven't thawed. My dh is working again so I'm sat with the dog - it's lovely !
I'm looking forward to my break away as I'm hoping with all the walking, I'll sleep better. Plus, aforementioned very much loved dog can be a pain at night as he sleeps on my feet. Hard to rest sometimes.
Hope your dh sees sense soon and apologises !

Evening both, still here, 3rd day done. I slept atrociously last night, had my covid booster yesterday and tossed and turned feeling achy all night long. So heading for early night tonight. Hope you get your apology @soberoct and you sleep better tonight @amdone123

Sorry you haven't slept well @Amdone123 it's strange because at the time of the drinking motion you feel it's ok and all will be well but the sleep is just rubbish!!!! Why oh why and also I feel as I've got older it's getting worse. Then I start thinking about all the times I've got drunk, next day mortified when I was younger so why didn't I learn then? No-one knows. Lol. H went out and didn't tell me after work so I'm racing around like a blue arsed fly while he's sitting in a pub ...fuming. also fuming thinking why is he allowed to drink and I can't. I was tempted by the 100s of bottles in my house but didn't. Got angry internally and started looking at counselling websites. @Hohofortherobbers well done day 3! So sorry to hear you also slept poorly the covid booster sounds like a bitch! Hopefully you will feel better by tonight /tomorrow! X

How was your sleep last night @Amdone123 and @Hohofortherobbers ? Hope your arm is better and the side effects have worn off! Day 5 and I'm feeling bit lighter. H and I are slowly resolving.. x

Morning ! Oh, that's good news - well done on Day 5. I slept really well, thanks - I've been up early, got loads done and I'm booking in online today for my hols, so super excited.

Omg booking online is so fun!!!! And exciting. Are you heading to Europe or beyond? @Amdone123 . X

Spain. If I don't miss my granddaughter or dog ( or dh 🤣) too much, I'll venture further afield and for longer probably in the future as I don't really have anything to keep me here !
I'm looking forward to walking - I'll probably do about 3 hours every other day. I can walk forever!

That's great about walking @Amdone123 ! I would love to walk but have a dodgy knee/ankle/foot! I can walk but it starts to hurt after a while.saving up to get some custom orthotics in the meantime I live in trainers even at work I have plain black but they don't support that well. I'm feeling so so tired as done a lot this morning and haven't been sleeping as much i.e. sleeping after midnight up at 630 and it still doesn't feel enough. Spain will be awesome I do love Spain we used to go to menorca every year and one of my fav cities is Barce. We are off to Italy soon bit worried about the drinking there but as you say one day at a time. I'm feeling better without the booze. I feel more productive. X

Hi there, slept really well thank you! Arm much better. Just had a tap on the shoulder from our wibecwutch but I'm beating her back with a becks blue. Planning to drink moderately tomorrow night as out with a friend. I am also booking online holidays .... But for next year. Glad relations are thawing between you and dh @soberoct. I went to Rome earlier this Yr with dh, where are you going? Foods so good there!!!

Hey @Hohofortherobbers glad to hear all well with your arm and sleep! I am feeling absolutely wiped out this evening and then my DS decides to want spaghetti right now after saying he wants chips .. I know I need to set boundaries with him but feel if me and H aren't on same page then no point and the kids are conflicted. He is quite trying even as a baby and now he's 8. We are off to Sardinia. We've been before beautiful. We were in Italy in the summer too (don't ask!) That's where I was drinking from noon basically. Having done 2 months AF prior. That's why I'm scared! Never been to Rome would love to one day but without kids hehe well done for beating her back with the blue!!! I beat mine with a stick and a Corona 0%. Hope you have a lovely time with your friend tomorrow night. I have been invited out too but they are heavy drinkers and the wine where they go is so shite. Lol so I'm not going I don't think anyway.

Afternoon! Glad your arm is better @Hohofortherobbers , and well done for ignoring the ww ! @Soberoct and you for still being af. I think I'll get some corona af when I'm away. Bet it's nice with a slice of lemon. And, as I don't really drink beer, af beer tastes no different - I have zero expectations!
Well, I drank yesterday. I planned to really from the moment I got up. I walked the dog, cleaned the house, then got ingredients to make lasagne, wedges and salad. I got 2 x wine. I knew I wanted to drink as I'd also checked in online so my excitement was high ! I had a great day and am now wondering what or even if, there is a problem if I drank with my eyes wide open, so to speak.
I'm not feeling too good today. Tired, mainly.
The downside of my drinking was that I woke at 2am, looked at my lovely dog, and was full of anxiety at the thought of leaving him for a month. 😪

Hi @Amdone123 your day sounds productive but also I used to think I was ok after a period of abstinence and being very aware of when I would want to drink, the seed seemed to have been planted daily from waking so daily I drank. But with me it just got more and more excessive and I don't know how many more day 1s I can do now. I mean everyone dreams to moderate and I hope you will be able to. Sorry that the sleep/alcohol/2am crap happened and are you going to Spain for a month? That is exciting !! I would also normally be on 'holiday mode' and think I will drink so it's all normal feelings. Where will your dog go and when do you leave?? X

Hi, yes I was thinking about this the other day. I can abstain for a period of time but that's when I want to / in the right frame of mind. But when I want to drink, there's not an awful lot that can stop me !! I'll keep working on it. Being on here is helping, so thank you for your support. Are you not going out then ? I think you mentioned you weren't keen. It's awful here, not stopped raining all day.
Yes, I'm going for a month. I leave on Thursday 13th. My dog will stay at home. My ds will move back home for most of it and my dh is here evenings, too. Dog is in safe hands, they both adore him - it's just me being a daft mare. I actually do need a break from the dog so don't know why I'm fussing. Probably thee alcohol making me anxious!!

Hi @Amdone123 no it got cancelled last night anyway, there's a lot of odd illnesses going on around these ways I'm hoping me or kids don't pick it up! I am out tonight for dinner forcing myself to go with a friend but the seed of shall I have one with my dinner is planted ? It's day 7 for me today AF. It's been better with h because of it I think...are you going on your own then? What a brilliant adventure! I hope I can do this later when kids are older! You will miss your dog but fun times ahead!!!

Hi @Amdone123 and @Hohofortherobbers how Re you guys ? I did drink last night and tonight. To excess on Saturday but not tonight. I planted the seed of not drinking this morning and said to my self go get some ginger beer and put in a wine glass etc and I didn't get the damn ginger beer and ended up the wine. Oh well. I'm planning on not drinking all week now I hope I can do this and im really hoping for the support!

Hi @soberoct. I've drunk Fri, sat and tonight moderately. I'll be dry Mon to Thurs so we'll do it together, how are you @Amdone123 ?

Very early morning to @Hohofortherobbers @Soberoct , pretty similar here. I went out Saturday with my dsis as I hadn't seen her for a week. I had every intention of drinking beer and eating and whilst I didn't drink wine, I did drink prosecco (11 % as opposed to 14 !!). Still drunk though. And yesterday I was tired and fed up. Went for a meal and had 2 glasses.
I reiterated to myself yesterday that I am so much happier not drinking so much so that I had a thought that I could not drink when I go away. But that felt too drastic. Whatever I do when I'm away, I'm going to have a really good think about how drinking is making me feel. I think it's partly the menopause, but I'm fed up now.
I definitely need to get away, so I'm glad I booked - even if it was a bit impulsive.
I know when I'm away, I'll feel fitter and healthier. I'm not a winter person so maybe that's adding to the depression.
Staying positive and I know I'm lucky to be going away.
Hope you're both OK. We can definitely all 3 of us be af for the next 4 or 5 days ?

Hi @Hohofortherobbers and @Amdone123 yes we can do this please if I have any cravings in going to be posting on here so dear god I hope I don't this week we have a hectic week too unfortunately but we have to try!
I hear you about being fed up etc and the constant battle. I too am not a winter person and get Some sort of SAD so I'm glad you are able to go away yay! Just think of the fitness and fresh air and your walks! I am going to try hard to get to the gym I pay for...but there doesn't seem to be enough time especially when h is working at the office so noone to look over the kids. Anyway have a good day and I'll be back later! Oh also have you seen GP about menopause ims pretty sure I'm peri and got some stuff from boots for hormones can't say it works yet hehe!

Hi guys @Amdone123 and @Hohofortherobbers hope you are good tonight? I am AF as planned yay had to have a lucizade though lol so sugar rush. Are you busy packing @Amdone123 ?

hello everyone do you mind if I join?

I quit sugar and processed foods 18 months ago with the exception of wine and it seems to have effected my wine off switch completely, it was always a bit defective anyway but not this bad. I’ve been lurking around the alcohol board for a few months now but it’s all quit or nothing so I really like this thread. I don’t want to stop completely, I just want to enjoy a couple of glasses over the weekend but I find myself having more and sometimes during the week too, especially during school holidays when I don’t teach as much.

Its interesting how many posts allude to having sugary treats to avoid drinking whereas I seem to be going the other way.

I did manage to only have 1.5 glasses at dd wedding by mainly drinking fizzy water which I was pleased about but the motivation for that was embarrassment 2 days earlier from having 1.5 bottles with SIL.

Morning @Billybagpuss , hi and welcome. Of course you can join us.
Well done on giving up the sugar and processed food. I see what you mean about going the other way ! I hate junk food and sweets but when I abstain I can be found with a family size bar of chocolate and a packet of sweets. I sometimes wonder which is worse !!
Well done for only having 1.5 at the wedding. That is something I'd have to do because like you said, the motivation would be not to do something embarrassing. It's still difficult though so well done.
Yes, this is a lovely thread. No judgement and everyone just completely honest. If you want to moderate, maybe make a plan for the next 7 days, share it here, and we'll encourage and support you. Also, moderating means different things to different people. Do you want to have 2 glasses then stop ? That would be my moderating, too, but if I switched to lager, I'd still count that as a success.
@Hohofortherobbers @Soberoct , hope day 1 went OK ? I was fine but I'd drank that much Saturday, I definitely didn't want to drink. Today will be af, too.

Welcome @billybagpuss and well done @Amdone123. I didn't do as well, I had a bottle of wine in and drank half of it. There will be some AF days this week though. Always here to chat too.

@Hohofortherobbers , at least you only drank half. Can you tell my glass is always half full 🤣.