Mindfulness, Moderating and Not Texting In The Kitchen !

[Amdone123]

Morning all..hope you're all ok. Well I had busy weekend. I didn't quite stick to my plans : I drank Friday evening ( didn't eat), and drank last night, too. I don't feel great today but I am looking forward to having a break. I know I want to get back to being af and all its benefits.
I was thinking that I am able to stay in and not drink. My next step will be going out and not going mad !

@Buntyforgirls, awh thanks 😊
Well done for just having 2 glasses. I know what you mean - just 2 can have an effect really. And you're on your way to managing Fridays already.

@Buntyforgirls
👏👏👏 Two is very reasonable! Well done 😊

I feel terrible. Today at 4pm family stuff kicked off. A family member is dying and this is causing a lot of tension because of various quite complicated dynamics. This afternoon I started having to handle lots of drama, phone calls, texts - it's only just been put to rest (for now) and what did I do? I poured myself a finger of whiskey. It's only a finger. But that's not the point. I didn't manage to fight the go to instinct. I'm pretty upset with myself and I'm angry with family members for reeling me into their drama and ruining me starting out on this "quest". It's not their fault I had the reflex to turn to alcohol though. I'm just disappointed in myself 😔

Still, I know it's probably normal to stumble a few times, so I'm not going to wallow in self loathing. Instead I'll just congratulate myself on the fact that I left it at a finger, and I'll start again. 😊

@Yayaga, sorry to hear about your troubles. It sounds awful and I think that actually under those circumstances you did very well. Just a bit of whisky is nothing really. If anything it would serve as medical to take away any shock.
You're still on your mission ; you haven't failed and yes, it's normal to stumble. Keep counting your days and keep reflecting. That's what I do. No self loathing so that's good.
I had wine but didn't go out even though the offer was there. And tempting. But I told myself that I knew how it would end. So I had a bacon butty, a cup of tea and got in bed !!
I feel OK today. I'm still trying and that's all I can do.
Be good to yourself today.

@YayagaYayaga Nice to see you on the thread. I think you've done really well handling a stressful situation. Sticking to a small amount shows self-control. Give yourself a pat on the back.

I on the other hand have been rubbish. Black-out drinking in the middle of the week. I'm just having to pick myself and try again.

One of the things I'm finding difficult is is the fact that I can't sleep at night when I don't have a drink. But I'm just going to have to put up with that until it settles down. I honestly can't believe I have got myself in this situation.

@youboozeyoulose, morning. Sorry to hear you're having a bad time of it. I sympathise with the sleep issue. When I don't drink I sleep better ( not perfectly but at least I don't wake up at 3am feeling sick, headachey, anxious). If I slept well after a drink, I would find it really hard to give up. I wonder if you could get anything from your gp ? Or even over the counter? There's nothing worse than not sleeping x

@Amdone123 To be honest I sleep better, it just takes me ages to fall asleep. Managed to get through yesterday without a drink. Hopefully I will be on here tomorrow having been AF free.

@Amdone123
Enjoyed your description of a bacon butty in bed, sounds luxurious and cosy which is something I think we need to do for ourselves. How have you been getting on?

@youboozeyoulose how have things been going for you? Look into valerian for your sleeping, it knocks you right out. You make a tea from it, but don't bother with commercial teabags. Get some of the root and steep it.

I've been doing quite well. On Monday I had dinner and drinks with a friend: had a large beer (Belgian beer, so strong) before dinner, then a glass of wine. After that, a whisky at a bar.
The family member I mentioned died and I had a whisky on that night. I thought the sorrow would tip me over the edge, but instead of tunrning to the wine, I got outside and did a little 'ritual' which is something I haven't done in years. It felt good.
I'm waking up with a blinding headache every morning though which I didn't experience when I was drinking every night. Wondering if it's related?

@Yayaga, hi ! I'm doing really well. I've had a great week, not drank at all and not wanted to. Winter's a pain for me. I just want to hibernate. Summer is great but bad drinkwise as I like nothing better than sitting outside in the sun with a glass or 2. I wouldn't drink wine in bed, or smoke obviously, so in many ways winter makes it easier.
I've been eating lots of superfoods too and my cooking has been super ( even if I say so myself!!). You sound like you've got it under control so well done and keep going. Oh thanks for the valerian tip. I'll look into it. I'm not sleeping at all. Thank christ I don't work.
Keep going folks ! We can do it !

@Amdone123 @Hohofortherobbers @Buntyforgirls @Mj20 @confusedaf29 @CH79 @Killthewinewitchnow Apologies if I have missed anyone. Been very quiet in here lately. How is everyone getting on?

[quote youboozeyoulose]**@Amdone123* @Hohofortherobbers* @Buntyforgirls @Mj20 @confusedaf29 @CH79 @Killthewinewitchnow Apologies if I have missed anyone. Been very quiet in here lately. How is everyone getting on?[/quote]
Hi!
To be honest I've not had many boozy nights until last night.
I'm now feeling really anxious! Why do I do it... 🤦‍♀️
Sitting here thinking I want to stop or at least be able to moderate.
Though I'm sure in a few days I'll be less anxious & the circle will start again.

How's you?

Hi, I've been on the dry Jan thread, slipped into my daily half bottle of red throughout Oct, Nov and Dec after some valiant moderating throughout last year. Dry Jan was a relief and reminded me of the benefits of not drinking, I fell off the wagon this weekend, had a bottle of wine over Fri and Sat. Back to dry now. Come onto the drier than a tena lady thread, it's a busy thread and has a couple of last years posters there too.

Hi all.
Just wondering if anyone is still on this thread?

Hi !!! I started the original of this thread of what feels like a life time ago…. After a very drunken night where my anxiety went sky high!!!!! God I can’t believe how much my life has changed since then!!! Nice to be back on the thread though!!!

how is everyone.
how are you @ERN79 xxx

Hi, everyone ! Hope you're all well.
I'm doing quite well. Well, I'm actually doing really well. I drink nothing like I did before. I still have my bad days, then I panic and it all gets blown out of proportion, if that makes sense. I then look at my journal and know I'm doing well overall.
Just been away for a week and did really well moderating. No massive hangovers like before.
I'm considering sober October so if anyone's up for it !

@Amdone123 @Buntyforgirls @CH79 @DirtyDancing @Hohofortherobbers @confusedaf29 @youboozeyoulose How are you all?!!! How’s everything been!!!!
im sorry I disappeared off the thread!!!! Had quite a time off it 😕 but I hope everyone’s doing ok xxx

@Mj20 , no need to apologise ! I took time off social media too - can't remember when or for how long. Sometimes we need to !
I did enjoy our thread - along with lots of other avenues, it really helped me.

Hello! I recently thought of our supportive little circle when I came back from holiday and needed some company in a few dry days! I'm OK, I'm not moderating as well as I'd like, but I occasionally have a few days off. What's been happening with you all, sorry you've had a time of it @mj20 do you feel like chatting?

its so lovely to hear off you both @Amdone123 and @Hohofortherobbers!! how have things been going with you @Amdone123 and @Hohofortherobbers soubds like your still being mindful? We can only do our best….

so…. It’s not alcohol related at all really. But I had to move in with our in-laws whilst we were between houses which wasn’t ideal…. (That made me very mindful of the booze Tbf) but then my lovely mum went into hospital (she’d had a lot of health issues) but after a month we were told there was no more they could do and she was terminally ill. So she had to go into a care home (only 71) and 12 weeks later she passed away. This was 6 months ago and it was just awful. After she died I actually stopped drinking for 8 weeks…. I was with her at the end and when I drank I’d just end up sobbing and reliving it.

I actually thought about this little group several times but I Diddnt know where to begin. I noticed someone had posted recently and thought I’d come back on and speak to you all again 😊xxx

@Mj20 , so sorry to hear about your mum. Sending you love and strength.
It's awful when your mum dies ( any parent, depending on the relationship), but when it's your mum and especially if you were close, it's very difficult.
That was my first thought when I heard about the Queen - not about her being head of state,etc, but her being someone's mum, grandma, great grandma.
I was thinking of my mum this morning - she passed aged 59, 25 years ago. I still think of her daily ❤️❤️

Sorry to hear about your loss @mj20. I could be tempted for an Oct reset. I need yo get in the right mindset. At the moment I'm generally drinking half to 3/4 wine a day but I'm currently feeling OK on it. Had nearly a week off end of Aug and definitely felt better for it though.

@Hohofortherobbers , hey, up for October reset, if you want?
We can go ahead!!
This forum is amazing, if we work together.
Are you up for October- no alcohol?
It will be ok for me, I hate winter etc x

Hi been lurking for a while. Would like to try sober October too!

@Soberoct , hi and welcome.
That's great. I'm actually having a 10 day break starting today as I've nothing on. It's so much easier when I've nothing planned.
I think last October, I managed 3 weeks which wasn't bad !!

Thanks @Amdone123 for the welcome. I've been pottering around the boards for a while now unsure what the hell I'm doing but have also abstained recently for 8 weeks and then a few days sounds awful but I am definitely getting better ! My aim is to moderate but I'm not sure I can ..