Anyone doing Dry January 2021?

[MyGhastIsFlabbered]

I was going to go sober this year...but for various reasons (excuses) it didn't happen. DP and I have agreed to try Dry January as we are both drinking too much. Anyone else fancy coming along for the ride?

@foofooyeah

Damn, I failed today. Grumpy and tearful so DP poured me a glass of wine and I had half of it.

To be fair it didn’t really help, but it did taste nice.

It's only half a glass at least you didn't have the bottle, just get back on it tomorrow and maybe add an extra dry day on

Still not drinking here too. I feel a bit of a fraud as I haven’t felt unwell or had cravings. I have been eating more but dh scoffs at this suggestion and says I always eat tons - he might be right. It’s hard to square how easily and how much I drink and how ok I feel stopping abruptly with the damage that it does. I have been reading some of the health negatives and need to keep those at the front of my mind. I don’t know why I have to read them when I have plenty of alcoholics in my family and have seen some of the grimmest repercussions. I am really cross about the money I have spent at the moment - I budgeted for it as an essential. How stupid.

And foofoo I agree that stopping at half a glass is amazing.

I spent all of my drive home from work talking myself out of dry January and deciding I’ll get through this weekend dry then go back to weekend drinking, but as soon as I was home with a cup of tea I felt happy and strong about keeping it up the whole month! Someone said about the ‘adult full stop’ to the day that a glass of wine feels like, and it’s so true!

I think that not drinking has really helped me feel less anxious. I’ve started a new job, plus had PMT this week, which would both usually contribute to huge anxiety for me but I’ve felt fine. I’ve done daily yoga too which I’m starting to look forward to.

I have cracked this evening, but my very much loved Dad passed away earlier so I'm giving myself a break. Will crack on again tomorrow.

@DefNotDeadYet absolutely. Sorry to hear about your dad. Go easy on yourself.

Am sorry Defnotdeadyet that’s really hard x

Defnotdeadyet.

My condolences. Look after yourself.

So sorry about your dad DefNotDeadYet. He died today?

@DefNotDeadYet I'm so sorry, that's awful, how very hard for you.

DefNot
That is awful. I'm very sorry.

@DefNotDeadYet

I have cracked this evening, but my very much loved Dad passed away earlier so I'm giving myself a break. Will crack on again tomorrow.

Sorry for your loss. Do whatever you need to do. Zero judgement from anyone on here.

Thanks everyone... yes, he died earlier this evening. Covid! I was just glad I was on the ball the last few days, feel awful for succumbing this evening but I'll get over it.

@DefNotDeadYet so sorry to hear that. Hugs.

@DefNotDeadYet so sorry for your loss. Definitely do not give yourself a hard time - I think most of us would have done the same. Be kind to yourself.

So sorry to hear that @DefNotDeadYet. What an awful time for you. Do you have people to support you IRL?

So sorry for your loss @DefNotDeadYet and definitely do not beat yourself up about having a drink, be kind to you.

@DefNotDeadYet

Take care of yourself

@DefNotDeadYet - So sorry about you dad. 💐

Sp sorry to hear of your loss @DefNotDeadYet

Thank you everyone... goodness, I hope my news hasn't killed off this amazing, supportive thread. I have lots of real life support and will be dusting myself off today and getting back on the wagon.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

@DefNotDeadYet

I have cracked this evening, but my very much loved Dad passed away earlier so I'm giving myself a break. Will crack on again tomorrow.

So sorry to hear about your dad. Take care of yourself 💐

Wow you sound amazingly strong @DefNotDeadYet I spent months after my DM died just throwing wine down my throat in increasing quantities trying to get it to help. literally saying why isn't this helping. And drinking more. It was awful. I'm so sorry for you.

But it's not a derail. I think it's important that we acknowledge reality and so important that we don't turn so self congratulatory that people who have slipped (for whatever reason) don't feel they belong.
Personally I'm super impressed with the 'get back on the wagon' people.
I slept okay for the first time last night, heading into day 7.

@mrsnibblesisahero

Wow you sound amazingly strong *@DefNotDeadYet* I spent months after my DM died just throwing wine down my throat in increasing quantities trying to get it to help. literally saying why isn't this helping. And drinking more. It was awful. I'm so sorry for you.

I was the same. My brother committed suicide just before Christmas and I was downing 2 bottles a night on average for about a month. just to drown everything out. It's not healthy but I knew that. That's why I needed to take hold of myself this January and deal with it before it became a permanent habit.