Stopping drinking for a while - part 2

[Patbutcherismyhero]

Hi all, a new thread as requested. Hope to see you all here shortly x

@fluckityfluckfluck I had weird ups and downs with it. It’s frustrating as you do feel at this stage you should be craving free. Boredom is one of your triggers- you need to get busy!!!

Hope everyone else is doing OK. 💗

Sorry you are replying crappy @fluckityfluckfluck , it must be very frustrating after been AF for so long .
But it is most likely down to stress / worry about work . Hopfuly once the dust has settled you will be fine again.
Try to stay strong .
I hope everyone else is doing ok.

I'm sorry @ErinBrockovich that's so annoying. Hopefully you have a garden to at least enjoy the sunshine whilst you wait.

Set for an amazingly sunny week!

Sorry @fluckityfluckfluck, hope the feeling passes soon. I'm on the freedom from thread too, that is useful for when the urge kicks in as others share and discuss, helps me remember why I made the choice to go all the way.

@BoxAndKnife and @BooksMusicSnacks how are you guys?

Have a good week all :)

Stay strong @fluckityfluckfluck you've done really well so far. Remember that feeling when you stopped counting the days because this is just the new normal for you now. Hold onto that.

Dp took a photo of me yesterday and I was seriously shocked with how much weight I've put on. I've cut back on the booze but I just can't stop eating. I look horrendous. Working from home has just totally messed up my eating habits and even with the very best intentions to cut out snacks and eat healthily, my willpower is non existent. I never stick to it. I am so greedy (suppose this is why I've gotten in states with booze before, I never know when to stop). But seriously something has to change because I feel genuinely embarrassed 😞

@NeedAUserNameAllTaken I’m feeling so stressed and anxious about this sodding result. I have a really important meeting tomorrow and I desperately don't want to cancel. But still no result.
I also don't want to leave it to the last minute to cancel as that doesn’t look good.
@fluckityfluckfluck you have done so well. I imagine having a drink now would hit you like a tonne of bricks.
I wish i could draw will power from somewhere or something. Finding other coping strategies is something I need to investigate. Thats the problem with this isolation, it takes away our choices.
I really really hope next week is a better week.

@Patbutcherismyhero sorry you are feeling that way
How was your week with the kids back at school? Has that made a difference?

@ErinBrockovich It's definitely given me a bit more structure to my day and I've been walking more for school runs. But no matter how much I plan ahead with meals I just can't seem to stop snacking and making bad food choices. I'll eat well all day then get a pang of hunger at about 4pm and raid the crisp cupboard! It's ridiculous that I can't just ignore the craving or grab a piece of fruit instead. I've told myself it's not that bad, I'm only a size 14. But it's not about sizes now it's about the way I look and feel within myself.
Sorry I'm deviating from the booze theme here but it seems I'm as addicted to junk food as I am to wine!!!

@Patbutcherismyhero so similar to me. Im not hugely overweight but i weigh more then id like to and I just don’t have any energy to address it right now.
I eat once the kids are in bed. DH does too. Like you say I could make healthy choices but I don’t.
Sigh.

Sorry @ErinBrockovich that is so annoying, its rubbish how long they are taking to process, not an efficient system at all. Sorry. Hope the results are at least arrived today.

Sending a hug @Patbutcherismyhero, lockdown has been hard on waistlines that's for sure. Hopefully all the walking etc will pay off soon. I have to just stop buying the snacks when I want to shift a few pounds, only way. Also walking A LOT like 20,000 steps a day seems to do it, not the easiest to schedule in though. I also walk in a weighted vest to burn extra cals and add muscle- more muscle means I can eat more

Hope everyone else is okay.

(I say this when I am also not particularly loving the size I am atm, might need to take my own advice!)

Hi gang. Waving a flipper here too!

I've been away on hols so haven't checked in on mumsnet at all, but I'm back now and not going anywhere for the foreseeable!

@Ihatebreakfast and @AlCalavicci, I am so sorry you both lost your DHs, my heart goes out to you both. You're both far stronger than you know.

@ErinBrockovich, sounds like you are having a crappy time but you're doing so well despite it all.

@fluckityfluckfluck, I started Mrs D goes without yesterday and around 90 days AF I recall she was cranky (after feeling "pink cloud"). Hopefully it passes. You're so close to 100 days and that would be such a huge achievement. As for your ExH, him, plus the kids, plus a 22 year old just ain't gonna work, so try not to give it any headspace.

Post hols, it's Day 2 for me here. I'm actually fed up of alcohol. Me & DH have said we won't drink the rest of the month and I'm tempted by sober October too. A friend of mine is doing 100 days AF so she will potentially be a good support. I'm torn between reading quit lit and not, part of me is sick of thinking about alcohol so would rather be distracted by a good thriller?! Should I just read quit lit when I have cravings …??

Hmm. I am back to Day 1. I don't seem to be able to get past Day 10 at the moment - no real excuses - DH tempted me with a bottle of wine, had some friends over who haven't seen for a while, the list of lame excuses goes on.

I am determined to do 30 days again as that really helped - no delf deception (mini bottles of wine are still wine). Gah!

In my experience the only thing that works is not keeping the alcohol or sweet /junk food in the house.
That's reliant on your partner/kids being on board though. It's hard, maybe impossible, if they are bringing the stuff in.
I'm "lucky" my partner is a miser and won't buy any food or sweets off his own back.
I bought 6 bags of M and Ms last week. Got the sweet stuff out of my system. I'm done with it.
Day 32 or something AF, but only cos it's not in the house and no one's going out!

Morning all. Day 92. I've been eating really badly and feel like crap. School is very very very stressful at the moment. Although my head/SLT are amazing and we still manage to laugh. DS has a wrist split for two weeks after falling off his chair at school yesterday and in the next week I have an audit, a finance budget meeting and then finance governors meeting. Despite the fact that there is little time to do my actual job due to Covid stuff.

Anyway - I'll stop moaning. Onwards....

Morning all. I’ve managed to shake off my grump. DC are back in school and I’m being productive. Lost 2 pounds this week as well, which must be stress related. Had to cancel my business meeting but making efforts to undo the damage of the past week’s isolation. For once my house doesn’t look like a toy bomb went off.
@fluckityfluckfluck day 92, what an achievement. Work sounds busy, must be so much easier to focus and plan without the hangovers. Have you managed to get out with Sid much now he’s had all his jabs?
@Cherrymix I’m also trying to do 30 days again. Last time I made it to 26. I’m now on 5.
@HotelRoomforOne you made the 30 days! Good on you. What’s your longer term goal? Are you feeling the benefits health wise?
Have a good one all.

@BooksMusicSnacks I’m quite enjoying reading the short summaries on ‘one year no beer’ on Facebook. I’m not much of a big book reader but these are quite useful to pick up tips.

@ErinBrockovich thank you. As for long term, I can't see myself ever drinking at home again. That is where disaster strikes for me. I am still dismayed by my complete lack of self control, not just for alcohol, but for everything. I really hope my children don't inherit this from me or that I manage to teach them to have some self control themselves.

One day in a few years I would like to be able to drink a single pint with my friends or a glass of champagne on NYE. But as of now I still don't trust myself to stop again. Maybe I never will.

Health wise- I still don't feel great. I went from drinking 6 bottles of wine a week with beers on top, to nothing. The only thing that really improved was my sleep, which has been transformed.

I'm still overweight, with a gut, and very anxious.

This worries me as it means it is my brain that has a permanent problem with anxiety and depression, it wasn't just induced by the alcohol. The problems are all upstairs and now laid bare, which is a very unsettling feeling.

In short my life is still a mess, but I can see a way forward. While drinking I was in thick fog and becoming a full blown alcoholic. It would have started becoming very obvious to everyone around me that I was.

Your 26 days were a great achievement and health gains would have been made that aren't undone by one instance of drinking, it's great you are still here with us!

Have a good weekend everyone, whatever you're up to!

Hello everyone , I have been missing for a bit due to my laptop really messing me about ( words / keep disappearing of the screen so it makes it hard to read / write any post except very short ones where I can guess what is been said .
I am up to about day 85 so I am going to aim for 100, I think .
@BooksMusicSnacks >>chucks a sardine over

While I was trying to post that last msg this kept on happening
I am using my phone now rather than my laptop

You are doing amazing @AlCalavicci - very annoying re the laptop. Hope you manage to sort it. This thread seems to be causing all kind of tech issues!

How is everyone else doing? I'm sorry I've not been commenting on individual posts recently, life has ramped up so much since the start of Sept.

My 100 days is next Friday. I've ordered my fave chocolate cake to come on the shopping delivery. Haven't ordered wine.

It has gone a bit quite on here the past week or so , I hope everyone is doing ok .
I must admit I am getting fed up of drinking the same thing now , ( Ghost ship) I am finding really hard to get hold of the only AF cider I like and I dont drink wine often and dont like the AF ones I have tried .

I could of made very short work of a couple of pints in my locals beer garden this afternoon.

And my sodding laptop is still playing up

I've been not posting so much as I'm such a grump 😂 Didn't want to be negative nelly.

I'd really love a decent af wine. I'm getting through a lot of Heineken zero and the clean gin. And I'm eating enough to undo all my hard work losing the weight. One super stressful week left - once my fiancé stuff is out of the way, governors meeting Thursday, I can hopefully relax a little.

Sid is a nippy bugger! My hands are shredded. But he's doing awesome otherwise - off lead for three walks over the weekend and doing amazingly. Currently snoring beside me

@AlCalavicci have you tried www.drydrinker.com

They do loads! The Thatchers AF is lovely and I got mojitis too 😁

@fluckityfluckfluck , Aww dont hide in the corner , I know the stress of work and family can get you down sometimes but we are still here to natter ( whinge ) to .

@Goingdooolally , thanks for that link , someone else on here told me about them on the previous thread and I shied away because the beer and cider I drink is about 40p a bottle more on there and I though I had to pay the delivery carge for each box but rereading it is was wrong it is a fixed price no matter how much I order so I may give them a go on pay day

@fluckityfluckfluck oh I remember puppy teeth ! like flaming needles ! but he will grow out if it , so glad he is doing well