Wankerbastards and summer sunshine will make us want the bloody wine. But tryers to be dryers won't give up, and ice cold becks blue we will sup.

[Frouby]

Thread 7 for the tryers.

Join us for tips and support for encouraging a more healthy relationship with alcohol. Whether you want to drink less, or not at all, stay in your units or just cut down this is the thread for friendship, support, tips and ideas.

Absolutely no judgements here, but there will possibly be swearing.

Other threads are dotted around but I have yet to master a clicky link.

Frouby - you really should write a blog!! I feel your pain but you write it soooooo funnily 🤣🤣. It reminds me of the ‘mummy loves gin’ clips. I’ve got visions in my head now of your dh in the shed!! 🤣🤣. My dh decides occasionally (very occasionally) to sort out the garage. It’s full of shit. His shit!! But all he does is moan about it all.
This morning he went into the cloakroom and screamed about a hot tap being left on all night and how it had filled the room with condensation, how it was running down the walls. The waste of water. Etc etc. We (me and dd’s) quietly pointed out that he is the only one who uses said cloakroom, due to it being so rank. So in fact it was him who left the bloody tap on in the first place!!
I’ve never felt so smug 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Men are cunts aren't they? He's done nothing but whinge and bitch and complain about building these fucking shelves since I ordered them a fortnight ago. Because flatpack is shit.

I did point out that he's a fucking builder, spends all week building walls and cupboards and all I have asked for is fucking shelves in the fucking shed to store his fucking shite.

And then he built them and put them in the shed while I was taxi-ing dd around.

Imagine an 8ft shed. 8ft by 6ft. You have as a family 4 bikes. Bikes fit in shed down one side. He knows that the shelves have been bought to get the bikes in and out of shed easier.

So you have 2 x 8ft walls. 2 x 3.5ft shelving units. Where do you put the shelving units? Bearing in mind
A. Bikes

1. You are screwing them to wall so not easily moved

iii. Your wife has said she bought them specially as they go down one side of shed.

He screwed one in back corner. And one in opposite front corner. So diagonally across from each other. Meaning bikes don't even fucking fit in at all now.

I pointed this out to him and apparently it's my fault. Because he couldn't put them in right place cos that corner there is full of junk that needs sorting out. When I pointed out it was his fucking junk and he could fucking sort it he chuntered again about his day off.

Think my face said it all because he then started moving it to other corner. Fuck sake. So tomorrow me and ds are going to sort it properly, can empty most of what's in the cupboard under stairs into shed, then hopefully move business paperwork into cupboard under stairs then get rid of bookcase in back entrance (ooeerrrr mrs) and have a kallax there and some more coat hooks so I can tidy front hallway a bit.

In other news I got a fab bargain from flea bay. A solid oak sideboard from Oak Furniture land for £72! In immaculate condition and was only 10 minutes away. It's still selling on their webpage for £450. So chuffed with that. Will eventually completely redo living room with something completely different to what I have now, but waiting for ds to be a bit older before I change sofas and stuff so didn't want to spend a fortune but it matches what I have perfectly.

Completely dry tonight. But did have McDonald's for dinner. Was going to do roast chicken but DH was too exhausted from Shedding to even watch me cook it apparently so we had shitty McDonald's. Which is always disappointing.

Fatclub tomorrow. Have got 21 hours to lose 3lbs 😂😂😂😂. Fml.

Gah Frouby! Bloody IKEA. Bloody flatpacks. They should have their own tickbox on divorce forms.

Home. Even managed to sneak out to get hair cut. Bloody knackered now though. And dd1 has been hard work, wailing about holiday club. Think she's done in too. Wouldn't mind but it's expensive sailing one this week. If she's going to moan anyway she can go to the cheap one that makes my life easy.

AF tonight. Need to after heavy week and going on holiday on Friday. Or Thursday if I can face the extra day camping. Forecast looking a bit more dodgy so will reserve judgment.

Omg frouby. I’d nail HIM to the shed walls!!

Oh FML a gazillion times over. Probably just as well there isn't a man in the house, as I'd probably blame him for the period from hell which I am having now.

I caved in and took DD to Macdonalds as a result. I also had lots of a bit of wine, because I had period pain to make up for three months of no period pain.

At least I haven't had to deal with flatpacks.

Frouby, Flossie is so right. You need to write a blog. Everyone's life is a bit shit, but you just write it up so well. You'd have a million readers.

Hugs Dion. Period pain is the worst (apart from man pain). McDonald’s isn’t horrific. Least it kept dd happy. Win win.

I’ve had a bottle of wine tonight. That’s a bottle a night for about 3 weeks now. Promised myself that my diet starts tomorrow. It’s sil’s wedding in Nov and I have to loose weight. It’s hard to fit into their family at the best of time. But looking fat and unhealthy isn’t an option!! So I HAVE to either be AF, or choose gin over wine....

Flossie, you are a love. Sad to say that I also enjoyed a McD's veggie burger. Wine has that effect.

I do normally choose gin over wine because of the calories. However, I had finished all the gin, so was finishing all the wine. The only thing left now is whisky, which I hate. Though that doesn't mean I'll ignore it, when desperate.

Why do we do this?

I have never, ever regretted an AF night. I have never, ever been really pleased to have a non-AF night. So why can't I have AF nights every night?

Hi, I need to stop drinking but finding it difficult, 9 days is my limit, why is it so hard! I am sick of it, sick of the feeling of failure , sick of every day worrying whether I have enough wine in the house for the night, just so so sick of it. And the final nail in the coffin is my friend who is 36 has been told she has liver damage and needs to go for a scan but she is continuing drinking, she has all the signs of end stage liver damage, weight loss, vomiting nausea ,muscle wasting, extreme tiredness, and I'm scared for her, I can see myself attending her funeral In the next few years and I'm angry! Angry at alcohol and also angry at her! And I'm being unfair and selfish , She has a a teenage son. And selfishly I don't want that to be me, honestly I'm so worried right now, I've buried my mum and dad and I don't want this again! How selfish am I! Alcohol is evil!

Drama - I’m so sorry about your friend. That’s incredibly sad. Alcohol is indeed evil. It gets you, captures you in its claws and is incredibly hard to set yourself free from it.
9 days is amazingly good tho!! I’ve only managed a max of 2 on a trot in the last few years. You aren’t being selfish. You have recognised the dangers, you can see it’s flaws and you can say them out loud. That shows how aware you are. It makes you far from selfish.
We are all here with the same fears. I am too incredibly fearful about the damage to my liver. I take medication that puts weight on my liver also, yet I still drink!! Why?!
Can I ask how much your friend drinks?
I’m sending you huge hugs. Stay here with us, we are here for each other in a non judgemental fashion.
🤗🤗

Can I please join? Habitual drinker here. Usually on at least 5 bottles of wine a week. It's so easy to just sit down in an evening and polish one off. These days I barely feel the effects and don't get hangovers anymore but I'm starting to worry about my health and I know I've put on a shit load of weight. Today is day one for me. I'm not saying I'm going to give up completely but I desperately need some encouragement to significantly cut down.

Drama, I'm so sorry to read about your friend. I second everything Flossie has said. 9 days is about 8 more than I can manage in a row. And you are saying out loud that you know that alcohol is a problem. I do think it's a big step to say it, and not to minimise it, excuse it, say that you could stop any time you wanted, etc. We are all here because we all know that we need to try to drink less. And the lovely thing about this thread is that nobody judges anyone else, ever.
This all applies to you as well, Catspyjamas!

I’ve just spent time on the British liver trust website. Fml. Woke up with beer fear last night panicking over liver damage again. So have read some stories of people who had liver failure caused by alcohol. Am hoping it will help me in my quest to stop. I’m so fucking scared about this right now. I always lecture my kids about healthy eating etc and I’m a complete food snob when it comes to ‘what I put in my body’ so why do I then wash it down with a whole bottle of wine!! What a hypocrite!!!! It’s really scaring me now. I’m literally drowning my insides with poison....then topping it up for good measure!! Wtaf!!!!!

Fml.

ShedGate continues here.

The pile of junk DH 'sorted' yesterday is the same, the exact fucking same pile of fucking cunting junk I moved from the old house shed 4 cunting fucking wankerbastard years ago. It's the same fucking tangle of wires and old screwdrivers and boxes of fixings and I know it's the fucking same because it's still in the same rubber fucking trug I put it in last time.

It's on the tip pile. Shed is now chock full but organised. Cupboard under stairs is organised. Rest of house is fucking chaos. Fml.

Have managed to lose 3.5lbs overnight which is fucking bizarre. Had a few wees but not 3.5lbs worth. And a disappointing poo but it doesn't add up to 3.5lbs worth.

Did dtd though. If I shagged 3.5lbs off poor dh is gonna be shagged to death. Might have another go tonight and weigh before and after. Wonder if that's why slim people always look satisfied, it's cos they shagging lbs off every night.

Drama, that's quite a shocking story about your friend, I am so sorry. Welcome to you and Catspyjamas.

I have finally bought a bike! Bit nervous cycling on roads but was lovely taking dd1 to the sailing club as is through park then round the reservoir so am really hoping she wants to join. I also cycled back from the shop (it was a second hand social enterprise place) which was beyond dad's friend's house that was such an arse to get to by car or public transport last week and it was easy! Hoping this will help me lose a bit of weight, though Frouby's patented method sounds good too!

Mil here tonight so will probably have wine but will try to be more moderate. Coming down with a cold which is annoying when about to go on holiday

Omfg frouby that’s hilarious!!!!! God if you shagged 3.5lbs off then it must’ve been a good one 😂😂

Frouby - let me know the outcome of the before and after weigh-in!! It might make me less tired at bedtime 😉

Flossie thought I were great! (Rita, Sue and Bob too quote 😂😂😂).

It was make up sex cos he didn't do my shed properly, so obviously had to prove he was still a good husband by ensuring I got a good rogering. Can do it every night if it will make me skinny 🙈

Bloody love that film frouby!!

Ohhh yes, I love that film too. I've now got the Gang Bang song stuck in my head.

Frouby, I wonder if thinking about DTD can make you thin as well? If so, that would explain why I am thin, as I spend far too much time thinking about it when DP is not here.

Congratulations on your new bike-arrival, Longest!

Oh God, Flossie. I do this too. This morning, I was absolutely convinced that I could tell from looking in the mirror that I have got severe liver damage.

AF tonight, because hangover. So not much of an achievement.

'Make your own fucking tea' is a favourite saying here. Love that film so much, but find it very dark now I have dcs of my own. We grew up in a similar estate and it's very true to life.

Just back from picking dd up from dragon boat training. She's very in demand, the coach who teaches kayak polo is after her doing more training then doing some actual matches with them. And the bloke that does slalom wants her to have a go at that later this week.

Poor girl will be knackered lol. But at least she is enjoying it and feels part of it all. They had a different GB coach up tonight training them, says he's very pleased with her drumming and was shocked a quiet, shy little thing could roar so loud. She says she gets it from me the cheeky mare 😂😂😂.

Dry tonight because of picking dd up. And was dry last night so a nice 2 in a row. And will probably be dry tomorrow as well as both dcs kayaking.

Hoping ds horrible cough a bit better tomorrow so we can get to the ponies for a couple of hours.

Today is the 3rd AF day I’ve had in in August, which isn’t good. Didn’t drink last night or today and don’t want to drink tomorrow either. Aiming to get to Friday night AF, which will make it 5 days AF if I do it. All the wine is in the garage again so that helps. Will read you all now.

Wow loads of AF here!!!!! 🎉🎉

Day 1 here too!! First time in absolute weeks!! Prob down to the liver damage stories that are on the liver trust website, and not at all down to willpower 🙈

Oh God, yes, Flossie. I think the liver damage thing has played a role with me tonight too.

Water, I think it's also my third AF day this month, and they have all been caused by hangovers. I've finished all my wine and all my gin, so maybe that will help or maybe it will just mean I go to Tesco tomorrow

Fab about DD, Frouby!

That’s DEFINITELY why I’ve put on weight this year. The lack of sex. Nothing to do with the booze at all...