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138 replies

Minesalargeginplease · 12/06/2019 21:58

Well, as the title says, I don't know where to start stopping. Been unhappy and depressed a while and sought solace at the bottom of the bottle. It's every night now, I can't remember the last time I didn't have a drink in the evening. Seemed normal for a while, working mum having wine at the end of the day but it's not. A glass became a bottle, or 2. More recently its spirits, by the pint, sometimes half a litre. I get up for work fine, I excel in my career but it's not ok. Where do I start? Going cold turkey freaks me out. Thank you in advance x

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Minesalargeginplease · 02/07/2019 20:13

Keep up the hard work glowy x

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Glowy · 02/07/2019 23:35
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Dogwalks2 · 03/07/2019 22:20

Well done Glowy, how’s things mines a large, I’ve not done very well started drinking everyday again but not as much (that’s still a lot). Waiting for my holiday then have to really go for moderation or soberista. Think I know the answer but don’t like it. How come I can be top of my game for everything but booze?

MissLadyM · 03/07/2019 22:39

I was starting to drink a bottle a night, sometimes two at the weekend. I exercise and am trying to lose weight so realised I had to knock it on the head. I plan on having a few cans of gin & tonic at the weekend and might buy a mini bottle of wine. I don't trust myself with full bottles!

UserUndone · 04/07/2019 13:27

Right. I haven't RTFT so apologise if this has been suggested but I'm in the same boat. I've now been told I have a fatty liver.

I've started using CBD oil instead of spirits to help me sleep. It also helps prevent seizures.

I've been having a bottle a night for 30 odd years. 😣

Glowy · 04/07/2019 18:37

I had a drink free day yesterday, first time in years!!
having read A bit about surfing-the-urge on Sober Recovery I think helped.
Planning on 2nd Drink Free Night tonight. 🤞🏼
At the Gym right now.
Let's all try a step at a time.

OwllwOOwllwO · 04/07/2019 18:54

I've recently decided to become sober. I was drinking every night and was drunk on Saturday which has resulted in me losing my relationship. This has been the turning point. I dont want to be an alcoholic. I haven't drank since the early hours of Sunday. My liver has been sore for a few weeks. I'm glad I've stopped but I really "need" a drink with my emotions so high at the moment

Peppermint65 · 09/08/2019 15:53

Hey ladies, joining your club.
My dad got seriously ill 5 years ago and since then regular drinking from a glass of wine to a bottle almost every evening.
I also had my own health problems and after my father passed 2 years ago I cannot get over it, feel very guilty and my work, demanding female boss, dealing with household and other life challenges are adding up, so only in bottles of wine I find some relief.
No hangover whatsoever and visible signs apart that my wight has increased stable and I can lose the 3-4 kilograms I have extra. I literally panic if I do not have wine in the house, situation on holidays is different as I am happy and not at work.
Uploaded the app and will start from next week with one day free.

I had half bottles before yesterday when my crazy boss gave me more orders (she is ordering and we have to obey), so I could not stop before finishing the bottle.

Intending to have 2 glasses this evening and relax.

Do not want alcohol to ruin my life too, I am happy drunk, but need to stop.

Glowy · 09/08/2019 23:20

Peppermint I feel your pain but please try to be strong.

Surf-the-urge is changing your habits go for a walk instead of your usual just change your usual routine.

Have a soft drink

Or water down the wine?

It's not easy I know m.

Peppermint65 · 10/08/2019 06:12

I only had a glass last night as physicly I dont crace it, it is the psycological need of calming down and going through all tasks.

Luckily dh doesnt drink and he never comolained, but I know there is an issue and will be reducing feom week to week.

This app is great!

Glowy · 10/08/2019 08:33

Good to hear you are trying Peppermint - it is hard but you will get there.

BuckingFrolics · 10/08/2019 08:59

I quit alcohol after drinking to excess in the way many of you describe, about 12 years ago.

The only way is not to drink alcohol. All these "I'll cut down" schemes do not work in my experience- bargaining with yourself about booze just showed me how big my problem was. You're still using and relying on booze to

Stop you feeling bored
Stop you feeling angry
Have fun with friends
Have fun and treat yourself on holiday
Treat yourself for having done a days work
Stop feeling sad

Etc

I'm not judging- I did exactly that. Trying to cut down and "manage" ie be in control of something I am not in control over, simply led to feeling angry, upset, helpless, useless, powerless, afraid, ashamed etc because My managing Strategies failed every time.

The only thing that worked for me was a mantra "one drink is too many and a thousand drinks is never enough" and "woman takes a drink, drink takes the woman". Oh, and therapy to address the loneliness anger and boredom that I had been self medicating for.

Life without alcohol is so much better. I grieved and still do , that I cannot drink normally. But the fact is I cannot. One drink and I want to keep drinking until I'm absolutely pissed.

Good luck to you all. I'm reminded how awful being stuck on that merry go round is. You can all do it. Step away from the bottle!

Peppermint65 · 10/08/2019 12:31

Bored?

Never have time to be bored!

It is dealing with ppl that I dislike at work for me!

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