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Where to start

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Minesalargeginplease · 12/06/2019 21:58

Well, as the title says, I don't know where to start stopping. Been unhappy and depressed a while and sought solace at the bottom of the bottle. It's every night now, I can't remember the last time I didn't have a drink in the evening. Seemed normal for a while, working mum having wine at the end of the day but it's not. A glass became a bottle, or 2. More recently its spirits, by the pint, sometimes half a litre. I get up for work fine, I excel in my career but it's not ok. Where do I start? Going cold turkey freaks me out. Thank you in advance x

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Glowy · 19/06/2019 22:17

MrsHas How are you doing

Glowy · 19/06/2019 22:19

Tigerjoy how are you

TigerJoy · 19/06/2019 22:39

I'm going to bed! AF today 😎

Also definitely sick - been off work all week and today I am like patient zero in some disaster movie 🤢.

Glowy, I know the temptation to "treat yourself" with a drink, but stay strong if you can. It's not really a treat and you'll feel so much better about yourself in the morning if you can resist - I know this sounds pants but I make a nice cup of herbal tea or hot chocolate but the easiest way is just to go to bed now if you can! I always find post-9pm the danger zone for me too..I think just a little night cap...

Anyway it sounds like you've done really well today so well done!

TigerJoy · 19/06/2019 22:41

And well done shakeitoff and mrsdogswalks xxx

Original poster
Minesalargeginplease · 20/06/2019 21:25

Today was going to be an AF day for me but I've caved in. My 5year old is not well and my hubby has been a narky git so I needed a bit of brain fuzz.

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shakeitoff · 21/06/2019 06:30

I know that feeling Minesalargegoneplease! I was AF but had a class so that is normal for me.

Tonight will be hard I want to be AF as I have a nice but busy Sat planned. Things like this is normally where I go wrong, think I will have one which turns into several and then feel rubbish the next day.

Original poster
Minesalargeginplease · 21/06/2019 07:03

It's so difficult, I think as long as we keep trying it's okay. If it was easy non of us would be in this mess x

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Glowy · 21/06/2019 09:45

I have to agree with you minesalargegin

Glowy · 21/06/2019 09:45

At least we are addressing the issues. It's a Start.

TigerJoy · 21/06/2019 09:48

Exactly. Any reduction in drinking is good for your health. And forming new habits is really hard! The key thing to slips is to seem them as just that - a minor detour on your journey, not a total derailment

LocksMyth · 21/06/2019 17:50

Epic fail on my part. A bottle of red every night which doesn't even touch the sides. I am hooked on that initial 'ahhhh, that's better' after the first sip.. and just carry on.
I am moving house soon, away from any local shops where I can cave in and buy wine on the way home.
God, this is harder than giving up cigarettes.
I'm not giving up though..

LocksMyth · 21/06/2019 17:56

Also uninstalled the dry days app.. I realised I was answering the daily prompts with a drink in hand.
You lot on here have inspired me more than anything.. Thank you 😊

TigerJoy · 21/06/2019 19:20

Help! I'm really in the mood for a drink. DP is working nights, I feel pants, TV is boring, I can't focus on a book. I feel like drinking to make the evening fun.

I thought just one- then just tonight - then I knew I'd be drinking on holiday because why not?! And then I'm back where I started.

Any tips on how to stay strong?

LocksMyth · 21/06/2019 19:42

Try alcohol free alternatives. On the back of being on this thread, I decided the only person preventing me from changing, is me.
So I went to my local shop as usual but bought alcohol free wine instead.
It's cheaper and tastes OK.
Hang in there with us all.. it's likely to be a bit of a bumpy ride but let's all support each other.

Glowy · 22/06/2019 00:46

I agree try alcohol free drink I tried it today ladies

shakeitoff · 22/06/2019 07:49

Fail from me yesterday evening, ended up out for a couple and then came back and had a couple more at home.

So just trying to do as many AF days as possible.

Might try something other then wine next time I go the pub in the hope that I can still maintain some will power.

nzeire · 22/06/2019 08:15

I love this thread. I stopped drinking altogether 7 years ago. I found I couldn’t cut down or moderate like a “normal” person. So when I decided I had to stop, for my health, my family and my sanity... I did everything there was available to help. AA, group counselling, one on one therapy, nlp, courses on living sober. I read everything, joined online groups and told everyone (not that they needed telling) that I was struggling. I eventually stopped with the help of s psychiatrist and a prescription of naltrexone. I said I’d do 3 months, then 6, then 12... then realised I NEVER wanted to be that person again. Ever. I never got hangovers in the traditional sense either, but Looking back, I see I was in a hazy bubble.
I used to think I drank because I was depressed, but it was the other way around.
Today, I’m so happy and grateful. Also amazed I cracked it. I still work at it everyday.

Good luck everyone. It’s a journey, that’s for sure.

Glowy · 22/06/2019 14:53

Nzeire What an inspiring Post!!
I m cutting due but not able to stop - lack of willpower I know. And going on an All-Inclusive Holiday on Next week:( Temptation
It will be an interesting week like a child in a sweet shop!!!

Honeybee27 · 23/06/2019 11:40

I'd like to join this thread please. I have posted similar today. I have been drinking heavily for the past few years. A glass of wine turned into a bottle and these days even that doesn't touch me so I'll have a few ciders or spirits after. To be honest that level of drinking at home isn't the issue (well it is but it's not what's spurring me on to stop).

The issue is that when I go out whether it's on a work doo, to a wedding or just to the pub on a Saturday night I end up losing track of the amount I'm drinking and that's when things get messy. The days I've lost to crippling hangovers and the stupid embarrassing awful things I've done when drunk just make me feel terrible.

I did the same thing last night and was vile to my dp. Woke up feeling shit this morning trying to remember what I said and did. It can't go on.

LocksMyth · 23/06/2019 12:10

I have gone 24 hours with no alcohol. I feel embarrassed that I find this to be such an achievement.

Alfiemoon1 · 23/06/2019 13:20

Can I join as well I am similar to you honey bee except I am ok when i am out I tend to be on my best behaviour. Don’t usually get hangovers but got a headache and feel a bit queasy today after over indulging last night. I to can be awful to dh when I’ve had to much which is not acceptable so I need sort myself out

Alfiemoon1 · 23/06/2019 13:21

Well done locks. I am ashamed to admit I can’t remember the last af day I had

Glowy · 23/06/2019 15:09

Welcome Alfie and Honeybe

Glowy · 23/06/2019 15:09

Well Done Locksmyth

LocksMyth · 23/06/2019 20:44

I am grateful for this thread as I feel less alone. Just admitting I have a problem with alcohol is hard.
I had a glass of wine today....

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