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Wankerbastards will upset us that try, but we will still be dry. Or dryer at a push. It's a good job we are not in a rush.

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Frouby · 23/05/2019 08:15

Thread 6 for the Tryers to be Dryers.

Support thread for reducing alcohol, stopping alcohol, monitoring alcohol. All welcome, absolutely no judgement. Whatever your aims with alcohol come and join us here. Lots of swearing but no judging or criticising.

Previous threads dotted around but can never do clicky links.

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spellingtest · 02/06/2019 19:20

Hello everyone. I've been a lurker but desperately need to join for some accountability and moral support. I'm definitely a bored drinker. I make excuses for drinking too which is pants. I too have a secret stash.

We went out for a snack and a drink this afternoon. DH asked if I wanted another glass of fizz but I declined. Not like me at all. I have half a bottle of rose in the fridge which I normally would have started on this afternoon whilst DH was out mowing but I didn't. Now having a gin but that's lasted nearly an hour which is a vast improvement.

My DH hates it when I get trolled. I need to moderate but I'm rubbish at that.

MelanieCheeks · 02/06/2019 19:26

Oh I need to join you good folks! Off to read the full thread...

CottonSock · 02/06/2019 19:43

Water that's crazy.. I only have pics of my kids and dh in our house. I also am not great at eye contact. Not everyone is.

Hello new people above. Melanie and spelling test.

I don't much fancy wine tonight. It's calling me from fridge though.

MadameForest · 02/06/2019 20:30

Hi Flossie I hope the traffic isn't too bad, it's the end of a Very Long Week-end here and because the weather has been good I imagine the traffic from the coast and back to Paris is horrendous.
Back from lunch, which typically French style started at 1pm and finished at 7pm, we made our excuses due to children needing to be fed at home, but most others are staying for a game of palets and more food after. The DC have their uses!

NC4Now · 02/06/2019 20:37

Families are bonkers. Do all sisters like drama and being in the limelight? I can’t imagine having pictures of them on my mantle piece!!
I don’t have any sisters but my best friend is as close to. Our parents are/were best friends, I called her grandma ‘grandma’, known her since I was born etc etc
We bicker like sisters too but I love her really.
The wedding I was at on Friday was her ex’s. That was a huge dilemma as he was my friend before he knew her but it all got very toxic between them. I’ve tried to support her as best I can but it would have been a snub to turn the invite down and all the old gang travelled back to be there.

Struggling through day 2 here. Both kids in bed by 8, so I’ve just started watching National Treasure. It would be better with wine...

NC4Now · 02/06/2019 20:38

Also lolling at eyeing up the French folk 😂

MelanieCheeks · 02/06/2019 20:44

Getting through this evening alternating glasses of wine and water. Planning to be AF Mon-Thurs.

IrisAtwood · 02/06/2019 21:16

Had a secret drink (double rum and coke) - the last of my alcohol. Partner has a lovely big bottle of JD in the cupboard - which I won’t touch because it’s his and he’s lovely.
Still wondering what to do.
Looking at my thighS makes me think I should go AF. I am also very busy for the next two months with stacks of marking and I have to be clear headed for that. So decision made I guess!

Flossie44 · 02/06/2019 22:10

Seriously....I saw this really frumpy French woman in her car and thought ‘surely she doesn’t take it up the arse?!’ 🤪. This is what my life’s come to during a 6 hour journey with no stops and mental traffic!!

We’ve made it back to Brittany, Madame. Currently in Pol du Leon camping reading for the ferry tomorrow pm. No food left in our camper, so dished up 4 pots of super noodles!! Bottle of wine for me, and beer for dh!! Sums my life up 😂😂

NC4Now · 02/06/2019 22:13

That’s it. Shop’s shut. I did it!!

Tomorrow’s challenge is to do it without eating my body weight in crisps.

spellingtest · 02/06/2019 23:06

So the rose was hit, along with another bottle. I would be better if I did get hangovers.

On the plus side feeling relaxed and know I'll sleep like a baby which I won't after an AF night

NC4Now · 02/06/2019 23:41

I’d totally go in for supernoodles and a bottle of wine for tea. You’re living the dream Flossie.
I think I read somewhere that in France BJs are seen as more intimate than normal sex, so whereas here it’s a grade down, there it’s a grade up. Crazy Europeans!

Back to school for DS2 tomorrow. I thought I’d have issues but he was knackered, almost fell asleep on the sofa at my mums and took himself to bed at 8 with uniform ready and bag packed. I popped in at 9 to take his headphones off and he was spark out.
Fingers crossed....

Flossie44 · 03/06/2019 00:34

NC4 - dh probably wishes he was French right now!!

Flossie44 · 03/06/2019 00:35

Bum sex and blow jobs!!

longestlurkerever · 03/06/2019 08:12

Agh, patronising dishwasher engineer is here. He keeps telling me off for the way I use my appliances. He tried to make me "promise" not to run it at night or use the eco wash mode. I think I have met him before. Either that or there's a dishwasher engineer "type". There's something about being in the kitchen in my jammies that makes me lose the sliver of authority I have. But I can't keep my mouth shut either, end up arguing. Am in hiding.

longestlurkerever · 03/06/2019 08:13

Handyman has also sacked me off as he can't be arsed. Will have to just live in squalor.

longestlurkerever · 03/06/2019 08:40

Agh hiding didn't work. He tried to leave without actually investigating the problem I told him about. Told him i would complain. He said he didn't care. I got cross. Fault like came back on just as he was leaving. He was a bit meeker after that and may have fixed it. Fucksake though. I just want to pay people an honest wage for an honest job without all the added bullshit and attitude. Why is that so hard? I have found a plumber that's a decent guy and he charges through the nose but it's worth it compared to the reasonable priced wankerbastards I have encountered before.

Frouby · 03/06/2019 09:12

Feel your pain Longest. My washing machine/tumble dryer engineer is an absolute knobber.

He's petrified of my dog. She's a whippet and soft as shit. He won't come in until she is shut outside. Which makes me dislike him anyway.

He lectures me on how to use both appliances.

He lectures me on cleaning both appliances. Apparently I must keep them clean. And pour expensive cleaning stuff in washing machine with every load. Asked him if it was provided by washing machine manufacturers. No. I must buy it. I bought a box, used it a couple of times then when he lectures me I just point at box and say 'oh I do'.

He gives me the creeps.

He also doesn't listen to me when I tell him what it's doing. Or not doing. So now when he turns up I just smile and say 'oh it's not working, but you are the engineer so I am sure you will tell me why it's not working'.

He is Canadian which is fine. But tells me every fucking time he comes he is Canadian and sometimes gets mistaken for a famous Canadian rock star, but he never tells me who just smiles and nods. Apparently Meatloaf isn't Canadian 😂😂😂. Nor is Brian May. Or Mick Hucknall.

He once came on the morning school run, phoned me to see where I was. Pointed out I had told them I was available anytime other than school runs. Any day. He was arsey to me, said he didn't have time to wait but would be back at 3pm. Pointed out it was school run time again so he asked if I would leave door open for him. Said I would but dog might eat him but would be back for 3.15pm.

He came back at 3.20pm.

He's a proper weirdo knobber. Can't wait for this washer to properly die so I can get something other than a Hoover/Candy and a different engineer sent from the insurance company.

Just me and ds today, no car as DH using it for work. Going to do some housework, do the huge pile of ironing and maybe potter on the allotment for an hour or two. Have a horrible headache though, and felt rough all day yesterday. I wasn't that drunk Saturday and didn't think I drank a lot but obviously my tolerance for beer has disappeared and I have a 2 day hangover. Won't be drinking it again in a rush, will stick to gin. Looking forward to a much dryer week.

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NC4Now · 03/06/2019 09:29

I don’t have a dishwasher and am seemingly lucky with appliances. I’ve had my tumble dryer since 2000. I’m dreading it dying in case I replace it with a spontaneously combusting variety.
They don’t have the best reputation but Hotpoint has always served me well.

longestlurkerever · 03/06/2019 09:39

I am mourning my last washing machine. I inherited it from previous owners of previous flat and it was a zillion years old. It used to go wrong regularly but you could fix it yourself by draining it into a bucket. It finally properly died and I got it taken away by John Lewis who delivered expensive and less good replacement. It didn't work either and I realised it was the plug socket and not my trusty old machine that had died. Dear old faithful. Dishwasher has always been a wankerbastard. This is actually wankerbastard mark II because they replaced the first one. I carried on paying for the silly insurance because it goes wrong so often but they send the engineer from Hades every time. He always comes at dawn too. He pointed this out as an objection when I said I'd have to wait in all day if I had to make another appointment. So if it breaks again and he's later than 7am I will be taking him to task.

I shall have to drink wine tonight as MIL will be here. Will try to be moderate though. Need to pop out and buy second hand bike from friend for dd2's birthday. Am soft touch as she's also getting a whole new bedroom but I was suddenly worried that wasn't a "proper present".

leavingAqaba · 03/06/2019 11:50

I would dearly love a dishwasher but I don't like the sound of the knobheads who "fix" them. Why the fuck can't you use it at night or on eco mode longest? I'm a total control freak with our washing machine and our cleaner is banned from using it due to non eco friendly practices; I know she does use it though because she moves the programme and doesn't move it back again. Our kids sometimes tell me they miss our previous home but if you ask why it's because they could watch Cartoon Network anytime they wanted when I was at work. This was also banned and I knew it happened because the babysitter never turned the channel back. At least cover your fucking tracks people.

leavingAqaba · 03/06/2019 11:53

Btw totally accept that everyone will thing I'm a knob for having a cleaner Grin in my weak defense it's part of our work contract dishwasher would be better

longestlurkerever · 03/06/2019 12:54

I have a cleaner too. She's a bit rubbish, to be honest, but I can't sack her because she cleans next door too and I'd bump into her all the time. She's also trustworthy and reliable (she's a better babysitter than she is cleaner) and that is worth quite a bit. I can't increase her hours though because she's such rubbish value, so house is a constant shit tip. Luckily mil is here once a fortnight and will clean my surfaces and put away the laundry mountain in return for the opportunity to pass judgment on my failings, which I consider a fair trade!

leavingAqaba · 03/06/2019 15:06

fair trade Grin our cleaner is rubbish too but she is employed by the organization we work for and not by us, I just don't want to get into it and I'm a soft touch about people working in my home partly 'cause I'm embarrassed by it.

leavingAqaba · 03/06/2019 16:37

And thanks for mentioning Fleabag. I watched both seasons and loved it.