Tryers to be dryers spring into spring, not as much wine, beer or gin. We sow our seeds of hope for a dryer season, but if we drink, it's for a reason.

[Frouby]

Thread 5 for Tryers to be Dryers. A thread for those who want support for moderating or reducing alcohol. Whatever you hope to do, whether it's to have more dry days, or be less wet when you do drink, come and join us for support.

Absolutely no judgement here, just friendly support and chat, the odd swear (lots of swears to be honest). All welcome, new and old tryers to dryers.

Morning all

2 35ml gins last night. I did go for a long dog walk with ds when dh cracked open a can of lager so I wouldn't mindlessly gulp down a few hundred calories because 5pm seems too early for gin.

Had a busy day yesterday. Blitzed the house, organised dh (painting the fence. Still). And glossing the bathroom (badly). And doing the ironing (pretty well, hes a good ironer when he gets going).

Have a busy day today. In fact I am so fucking busy the next few weeks I think I am going to meet myself coming back. The kids want to ride over easter which means turning feral ponies into something rideable. Its planting season at the plot. Billions of seeds to get in, plus beds to prep. I have more work than I can cope with. And it's the year end for the business. The kids break up on Friday. And I want to get ds room sorted with more storage and an overhaul and my room needs a bloody good sort out too.

I think I am going to have to start setting my alarm for 5am to get some work done first thing so I have more time in the day.

So may have to start working when everyone is in bed, which will at least keep me off the drink a bit.

Dion - I think our posts crossed last night and I’ve only now looked back..
Wow!! That’s incredible!! Well done you!! You seem like you’ve got this. And how the hell are you doing it with warring children in your ear all day?? The joys of holidays hey!! You did make me laugh about eyebrow tutorials. My dd has a YouTube answer for everything!!

Flossie I am really glad your sore throat turned into a virus but wish your DH would take better care of you

Flossie, I think they did cross! I love the idea that I've got this 😂 However, two nights out of three feels like an immense achievement for me (know it's not really that good, but still...). Bloody YouTube. If it's not YouTube, it's Instagram Influencers with my DD.

Frouby, I love the way you have organised your DH. It's things like fence-painting that make me think a live-in man might be useful. My DP's contribution to this week was to send me a bottle of red via courier.

The herbs, for those who have asked... are in fact one herbal thing, called Kudzu. I found it by randomly Googling 'how to drink less'. It comes in various strengths, and the one I bought on Amazon (made by Planet Herbs, or something - can provide info when home, if anyone wants it) is supposed to be the best.

I am full of optimism now. 😂

Hope everyone has a good day.

Really interesting Doinysa check this out.....
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4510012/

Hi everyone lost my posting mojo after a stupid piss up two weekends back followed up a worse one the following weekend FML

Leaving - thanks for that link, really interesting.

Dionysa - looks like you might be on to something! Shall we do a bulk order 😅

Frouby - good luck with horse training. I’m terrified of them!

Flossie - hope you are feeling better today.

I had a call from my insurers yesterday to say the other driver is claiming for personal injury. FFS she is such a scammer - her car barely had a scratch and mine was only dented by her boot handle sticking out. It was a very low level, low speed collision. Anyway, my insurers are looking into it as they believe there is a case for her being partly at fault. I’ve sent loads of photos. At the end of the day it doesn’t affect me but it makes me cross to think she’s just pulling a fast one!

I'm so annoyed with myself. I did a dry Jan and Feb and then totally made up for it in march.☹️ Felt awful, physically and mentally - full of self loathing. Promised myself a dry April. Practically bare Knuckle fighting the wine witch every night. Gave in last night, despite feeling great and proud of myself all day. I'm back to being full of self hatred and wondering why the fuck I can't do it. There was literally no reason for me to give in last night. None. Why can't I fucking do it? I didn't even enjoy the wine itself, but I kept ploughing on, knowing full well I would be hungover to fuck this morning (true) and hating myself (true) and I find it so hard to get through a hangover without thinking 'fuck it. I feel terrible. Might as well have a glass of wine to feel better' so making it even harder to not give in tonight. Ffs!

I'm back to being full of self hatred and wondering why the fuck I can't do it. There was literally no reason for me to give in last night. None. Why can't I fucking do it? I didn't even enjoy the wine itself, but I kept ploughing on, knowing full well I would be hungover to fuck this morning (true) and hating myself (true) and I find it so hard to get through a hangover without thinking 'fuck it. I feel terrible

Tombaker, you are another one who is writing for me.

Though I am now reformed, thanks to the Wonder Herb . Thanks for the link, Leaving. I hadn't seen that one, but it ties in with the other stuff I've read. Still, I've only managed one night since it arrived, so who knows what will happen tonight.

Canshop, that is so annoying. Someone ran into the back of me a while back. He apologised profusely and I said not to worry as it was only minimal damage, and we then moved on. I'm really sorry you've ended up getting involved with a CF.

Evening all.

Well, it's 8 o'clock and I have had 40 ml of red (I know this because I was using the same measuring cup for something else!) Now on Beck's Blue. Determined that these bloody herbs are going to work. But the evening is not yet over.

How is everyone else?

It is a very interesting prospect, this herb of yours. Keep us posted.

Not much to report here. AF tonight I think. Wine is tempting but off on holiday on Thursday and need to get some AF days in. Am knackered to be honest. Bath and bed would not go amiss.

Wow Dion, you are really going for it this week.

I am going for gin. It's better calorifically than lager I suppose but still. Had 3 x 35ml but have done now.

Dh just done a lovely steak for tea and am now stuffed.

Treated myself this morning to a new hoover, one of those shark cordless stick things. Am hoping that a new hoover will encourage me to do more actual hoovering. Its doubtful to be fair.

Cousin just been and dropped the most disgustingly rich and sticky and calorific cheesecake off. So my diet today had been steak with potatoes, mushrooms and onions and pepper sauce, followed by toffee cheesecake washed down with the remnants of my 3rd gin.

Sigh. Size 16 summet clothes for me then.

I am Mrs Smug now 😂 Well, that and Mrs Bloated after downing Becks Blue too quickly. DS offered me some of his wine because he poured too much, and I said no thank you!!!!! I can't believe I said that.

I would have been saying yes please to cheesecake, though. All we had for pudding was some decaying satsumas.

Longest, I am heading for an early night too. Knackered, and up early tomorrow.

Bloody hell Dion!!!!!!!!! That’s incredible!! I need some of those ‘erbs

Having a complete health anxiety day today. Really am worried sick about myself. Just having a wobble and anxiety ridden few days. Whenever I’m poorly it makes me look at other parts of my health. I’m convinced my hearts going to stop!! I’ve had probs in the past, have an electrical issue and murmur. Both of which no doc is concerned about. But I’ve had this stupid virus which has made me question everything. Just ordered a blood pressure monitor to collect from Argos tomorrow!!!!! Apart from alcohol, I’m really healthy. I eat clean food, have gone veggie and don’t really do processed crap. But then I ruin it with Pinot Grigio!! Fml

Anyone else have visions of dion and her herbs with a splif the size of a super tampax? 🌿🌿🌿🍁🍁🍁

😂😂 frouby....yup....Dion, you spliffing away??

Dion, what are the herbs?
I hate my kids today so when a friend invited me to go to go tile shopping and then to the pub I went. And left them at home. (They are old enough) Am drinking wine now too. Epic fail.

Sorry, have read now, you've said, Kudzu!

Flossie, much sympathy, it’s not surprising lovely given whats going on with your dd 💐

Canshop, fucking cheeky fucker, how annoying

Btw Flossie I had high bp and ordered a monitor and after a few days AF it reduced loads

🌿🌿🌿 I can't find a smoking emoji, so this will have to do (though I think it might be a hummus wrap). 🌯

It'll be 🍄 next

I am all zen and AF (the 40 ml aside). I mean. I'd normally drink about ten six 40 ml gins, not one 40ml of wine. This feels like a triumph.

However, I'm seeing friends tomorrow lunchtime and evening, so the weed will be sorely tested. However, my liver will be grateful for the past two days of rest.

Flossie, I am really sorry about your health anxiety. I know what it's like, and my poor DS also has it. It's crap.

Well into the school holidays now, with acres more to go. FML.

Water, it sounds as if you needed it.

Will NC back now, before I forget!!

Pmsl at name change to absolutely spliffing 😂😂

Spliffing 😂
Might be time to crack out my pillow spray. 🌱

I’ve been at an awards thing tonight. Free booze & dinner. Managed to not disgrace myself. I’m calling that a win.

Back again same old shit. Same old drinking to cope. Really think nothing will change unless I do something to change it

So I'm blaming this on all the spliffing talk here.....I missed the messages last night as I was busy having an anxiety dream which was nothing to do with the catch up drinking I was doing yesterday evening after two AF days obviously I was in an airport somewhere ready to board an international flight. At the last minute I decided that the doorstep of hash I had perhaps shouldn't accompany me on the flight after all. Last minute change of plans, you know. So I set about finding my friend who I had been hanging out with at airport earlier (and had already pinched a bit of the hash). Didn't want it to go to waste and I knew my mate, who bore a striking resemblance to Anthony Bourdain, would be happy with it. What a stress trying to catch up with the guy, and worrying about missing my flight (which I have already boarded then got off), he'd only wandered off to the airport zoo. Not only that my friends, the bloody elephant enclosure. As we all know that is at the far end of the zoo down a whole bunch of steps.

Possible moral of this story: don't drink arak.