Tryers to be dryers spring into spring, not as much wine, beer or gin. We sow our seeds of hope for a dryer season, but if we drink, it's for a reason.

[Frouby]

Thread 5 for Tryers to be Dryers. A thread for those who want support for moderating or reducing alcohol. Whatever you hope to do, whether it's to have more dry days, or be less wet when you do drink, come and join us for support.

Absolutely no judgement here, just friendly support and chat, the odd swear (lots of swears to be honest). All welcome, new and old tryers to dryers.

[Flossie44]

Dion - how’s the ‘erbs going tonight mamma? 😂😂

[longestlurkerever]

Haha Frouby it's back! My long chatty post has vanished though! Waving to everyone. Especially Dion -i am well Impressed. Is this the answer we have all been looking for?

NC4 - hugs. I felt like that last week but it was at least partly hormone related.


Not dry tonight. Celebrating a few days off! Seriously hoping no deal is off and then I can have the whole week off. Otherwise working silly shift from. My cousin's flat on Monday. Will be in your neck of the woods Frouby!

[LouMumsnet]

Evening everyone. @frouby - thanks for your report.

We're going to hold our hands up here and admit we have no idea why your completely inoffensive post was hidden. There was absolutely nothing in it breaking TGs so we're just going to assume that someone here pressed the wrong button or something (but you know, TSSDNCOP).

Anyway, we hate to have cast aspersions on your good character, @frouby so just to reassure you that we've now reinstated your post and you're all good to go.

As you were, everyone, and huge apologies again for inadvertently derailing the thread.

[Dionysa]

I'll admit it, Frouby: I reported your thread in a 'erbal stupor 😂😂😂 Actually, I think your mention of Costco was probably triggering for people who don't get to go there.

NC4, hugs. I hope it passes soon.

Chooco, I'm sorry about your DP. Mine would give him a run for his money when it comes to selfishness, believe me.

Longest, I hope you get your week off for more reasons than one...

Doris, I can't wait to see what you think to the 🌿. I haven't had a single side effect (to my relief - my health anxiety also extends to worrying about the side effects of things). I sympathise with alcohol being the only thing you really spend money on for yourself. I don't do anything else to speak of, either.

Flossie, just sending love.

The next herbal report is a good 'un. Following the 175ml glass at lunchtime, I resisted for the afternoon. I didn't even have a drink before the NDNs (actually ex NDNs) arrived (partly because I was in a panic to clean the bathroom, but partly because something in my head was telling me not to).

Ex NDNs arrived. I offered them a drink, and they all went for elderflower fizzy stuff. So I did too (not least as I didn't want to look like an alcoholic). We switched to wine with food, and I had a small glass of the fridge-door white and a small glass of a red that I opened - but NOTHING ELSE. I am having a herbal tea now.

So overall today I probably did have half a bottle one way or another (as my two small glasses this evening were probably bigger than I imagine - the glasses are big, so what looks like a small amount is probably quite a lot bigger). So while half a bottle is not brilliant, it's a hundred million times better than anything I've managed in recent times. I'd normally have ended up having at least a bottle, and possibly more, in this situation. So I am a mixture of pissed off with myself (for having any at all) and pleased with myself (for not having more).

I am absolutely convinced that the weed is helping... though it's still early days.

[NC4Now]

Well this has cheered me up!! I blame Dion and the ‘erbs. It’s all gone tits 🤣

I do wonder if there’s a hormonal thing going on, or whether I’m just a middle aged, overweight, saddo. I’ve no idea where I’m up to in my cycle (seem to sync with Frouby and Dion though, so insights welcome).

Lots of wine tonight. Again. FML.

[NC4Now]

Well bloody hell Dion...

Breakthrough!!! Long may it last!!

[Dionysa]

I wrote a post to NC4 about periods, and it has disappeared. Maybe I'm hallucinating the whole thing 😂🌿

[NC4Now]

Dem ‘erbs, Dion....

[waterandlemonjuice]

Wow, am impressed Dion, lol at ‘didnt want to seem like an alcoholic’ as a reason for not drinking, I do that too 😂. I might try your weed stuff too.

Anglaise, wow, thats so soon, how brilliant, congratulations again 🙂

Lol at airport dream, especially the elephants, ha ha ha

I felt like shit today because of wine last night so I am AF tonight but not feeling proud of it, it’s easily done when hungover...was out for lunch and was offered wine but easily declined as was driving.

[NC4Now]

I’m totally spraying my pillows with lavender/weed spray tonight. I feel like a complete shambles. I’ve got work commitments but my head’s so far up my arse I can barely see them.

[Flossie44]

Hey frouby....bloody swampy is about again..hiding posts and smoking weed...

[waterandlemonjuice]

NC4, my period is AWOL too and I fear the fucking bastarding menofuckingpause so you have my sympathy.

[NC4Now]

Yes, yes.... anyone else cringe on recycling day?

[Dionysa]

I don't cringe on recycling day. Someone stole my recycling box, so everything is currently going in the ordinary bin. Out of sight is out of mind.

Flossie, Swampy can piss off and get his own Amazon Prime trial. My weed is precious, and I'm not sharing it with him. 🌿

[waterandlemonjuice]

Just found this while looking to buy kudzu

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-35381041

[NC4Now]

Ahh, gotta love them neighbourhood thieves.

Water the bastardfuckingmenopause looms large. I’m only 42 and my ma didn’t get it till 55. Pointless hormone bastards. I’m not even having sex, let alone babies. A few years of normal would go down a treat.

[Frouby]

Recycling day was a massive trauma here this week.

We swapped last month from a blue box (plus a couple of bin liners usually full of carling cans 🙈) to using a big black wheelie bin for glass and cans.

Problem was we already had a weeks worth of cans and glass. Then 5 weeks to wait for black recycling to go.

We ended up with black recycling bin with plastic and glass and tins, plus blue box plus a bin liner full of tins.

Have told dh if it's full again this month we need a can crusher to hide it all. Or he could cut down.

Do these 'erbs come in a powder or pill form? Wondering if I could dope the fucker as an experiment 😁.

Glad my post reappeared. Felt like a rebel getting posts zapped.

Not sure I like my new shark hoover. Fucker got headlights. Floor is crumb and fluff free but my skirting boards are fecking flithy apparently.

Housework is a bastard. Solve 1 problem and another starts.

If anyone fancies a roadtrip I still need to go to Ikea. Am debating going after school today with ds. It won't end well but need to get his room sorted asap. And he will be happy with a potato masher whereas dd will start looking at lamps and fucking sparkly shit.

[Dionysa]

DS and the potato masher. I luffs you, Frouby.

PMSL about the hoover with headlights.

Water, I read that one too. I then spent ages trying to find the most potent version of Kudzu currently available. I definitely made my one glass last longer yesterday lunchtime (in fact, it lasted all lunch, where I would normally have necked it instantly, in anticipation of the next one).

Will see what today brings.

I hate the perimenopause. The post I wrote to NC4 said I had a two week period, and am having another one five days after the last one ended. FML.

[longestlurkerever]

My periods have been totally mad all my life so I have no idea where I am with peri menopause. Apparently I have polycystic ovaries, which puts me at risk of all sorts of health joy, and is probably the cause of the three miscarriages I had when ttc dd2. The one positive is my period only comes around every six weeks or so so I get slightly longer of feeling relatively ok.

Woo brexit is in the medium length grass. Everyone is demob happy. One of my team already emailing round looking for new work to do, chill out love it’s a sunny day! I don’t have to get up at silly o’clock on Monday woo. Well probably will anyway because of sharing a room with dc but my aunt is going to take us sailing, woo.

At dr with dd2 on way to a Yorkshire. She is constantly snotty and can’t pronounce all her letters. I keep being fobbed off but nursery say I should keep pushing for a referral. Who knows really?

[leavingAqaba]

Hi all Dion seriously, this is exactly my situation. MenoPAUSE my English arse. Pause - you know cessation, interrupt, lulll, hiatus, halt, respite - that kind of shit, not periods longer than you can imagine with 5 minute gaps between them.

[Frouby]

Dion hes a fucker for cooking utensils is ds. His favourite toys as a baby and toddler was a spatula and a whisk and a potato masher. Spent a fortune on baby toys. All that lamaze and fisher price shit. He was never happier than sat in the wilcos washing up bowl with a set of 50p utensils to play with.

Now going to ikea Saturday morning. With dh. Fml. Am hoping he doesn't start buying shit as well. He's working locally today and just been home with 10 hanging basket plants from somewhere, a man apparently. I suspect he's been in fucking B and M again. Going to have to start frisking him when he comes home.

He's bought about 20 kids windmills and bastarding dinosaur bunting for the allotment. Fucking bunting round my shed, the chicken run and the fence. And if I could harness the wind power from the wind mills I would have enough energy to power lights and a kettle on the plot.

I wouldn't mind but our plot is next to the main fence on the school run, so all my mum mates know it's my plot. They think I am a bit odd anyway because I have chickens and sometimes smell of horse shit, and usually have hay or chicken feed or dog poo bags in my pockets instead of lipstick or tissues.

And now my back garden looks like fucking Ballamory. Fence is a duck egg blue. Shed and little fence mid blue. And my decking is slate grey.

I like neutral and tasteful colours. Fml. Think dh going through a mid life crisis or something.

[Frouby]

Fucking look. Scuse the washing, cant get to it because hes just finished painting it.

He spent 3 hours yesterday doing it. Was stood with a can in his hand admiring his work, when a flock of starlings flew over and shit all over it. He was fuming 😂😂😂

[leavingAqaba]

the thing is frouby you know we are going to demand to see the kiddy windmills and dinosaur bunting now don't you?

[Flossie44]

Frouby - deffo dinosaur bunting pic needed now please 😎

[longestlurkerever]

Haha I like Balamory chic. My house is painted blue. One of the neighburs did comment about it all looking a bit Balamory and I just said "thank you".