Tryers to be dryers spring into spring, not as much wine, beer or gin. We sow our seeds of hope for a dryer season, but if we drink, it's for a reason.

[Frouby]

Thread 5 for Tryers to be Dryers. A thread for those who want support for moderating or reducing alcohol. Whatever you hope to do, whether it's to have more dry days, or be less wet when you do drink, come and join us for support.

Absolutely no judgement here, just friendly support and chat, the odd swear (lots of swears to be honest). All welcome, new and old tryers to dryers.

Fucker wouldn't go Dion. I think it's either a reaction to his meds (BP and aspirin meds can cause it) or some kind of weird viral thing. The swellings gone down a bit now. He doesn't have a temp, is ok if s bit grumpy and says he's tired and achey, so am leaning towards viral.

Thing is with dh is he's like a Guinea Pig. Take your eye off him and he goes from well to nearly dead in a matter of hours. He still wants a curry though so thats good I suppose.

Absolutely no chance of getting him to a doctor though. Fucker is insured anyway. I'd get a lot of gin.

Anyway. He's ok, told him to have a quiet day tomorrow. Think he's just tired and been stressed the last couple of weeks and we had a really busy weekend last week.

Curry sounds like a good sign, Frouby, but I'm still sorry to hear it. Tired and achey does sound viral, but I know fuck all, really. I hope a quiet day tomorrow does the trick, though.

Me too m, he's a whingey fucker when he's ill.

He's just polished off chicken madras, pilau rice and a peshwari nan so I think he will survive the night. If not, it's his favourite and would be his last meal so winning I suppose.

Sorry, Frouby, but that's too funny.

Frouby just spat my wine out reading your last post. So that's at least half a unit less consumed. I hope your DH makes it through to morning without complaint too much.
Dion are your DC back to school next week?
Flossie I hope you had an easier day today and that DD is OK. And that your DH is more understanding this weekend
Longest you are being very kind to your friend and I hope she appreciates it. You have enough to deal with.
Nc4 how are you doing??
Not dry, some red wine and pizzas from OH's son who has a pizzeria. The pizzas are delicious and very unfattening. Or as diet as pizzas can be.

Frouby - howling with laughter. Hope dh lives to see another curry!!

Hey Madame F - how’s married life treating you?? Has it sunk in that you’re married yet?? Wierd feeling as I remember.

Longest - hope you have that relaxing weekend.

Dion - hope there’s some gin left in that hidden cupboard. Enjoy!!

I’ve had a better day today. Had hideous meeting this morn about dd. Multi agency. It wasn’t hideous in terms of nasty..but it was in terms of realisation of how bad things are. Hearing people saying it out loud is surreal. Like an out of body experience. Once I left the room tho, I compartmentalised it and moved on. I can’t dwell. This is our new normal..I need to adjust.
Dh seems better tonight. The thought of a weekend with no plans seems to be making him happy.
My friend is starting out as a yoga instructor. Is taking a class tomorrow so I’m going along. I never ever leave dd. In fact I can’t remember the last time dh had her alone. I’m nervous on one hand but I’m so thrilled to be having me time, if only an hour. Hopefully my batteries will recharge.
As for wine..the usual tonight. I can’t imagine ever being able to go dry while life is so hard!!

Enjoy your yoga Flossie! Let me know if it's good. I have never tried yoga but maybe should.

Frouby, so funny. I would die happy after a Frouby curry too I think.

Just got in after drink with friend/ neighbour. Our kids are in the same class and we help each other out a lot but had never been for a drink together. Was lovely but had to cut it short because her DH is on nights. Was hoping for a nightcap with DH but the fucker seems to have gone to bed.

Madame F. Good marriage perk there- enjoy your pizza x

Ah so glad your drink night was good longest. Hey if he’s gone to bed, pour him one too and drink both!!

Well Frouby, did he make it through the night?
I hope you enjoyed yoga Flossie. It sounds like exactly what you need. If you can make it a weekly thing it will do you the world of good. I love yoga.
Things are pretty good here. Epic fail on the booze front last night though. Tea time pints turned into four. Came home at 8pm, which would have been ok if I hadn’t nipped to the shop at 10 for a bottle of wine. FML.
I’m not drinking tonight now, as a result. I don’t feel rough, just greedy and guilty.
MadameForest do you feel different being married? I did a bit. I liked it.

OMG, just catching up. Flossie, your dh, omg I'd have KILLED him, I am sorry he's being so awful to you.

Frouby, do you think your sister is competing with you? Re buying a horse I mean. I wonder, sibling rivalry is a bastard.

Dionysa, I wish you had said that to your dp when he introduced you as his 'friend' - I'd stop the blow jobs unless he agrees tbh. And yyyy to the more you pay the less they're there on schools, my experience too!

MadameForest, you look GORGEOUS and so do your family, congratulations and thank you for posting photos, they are great!

I had tonnes of people here over Easter, have been drinking like an absolutely fucker so am even fatter than usual and I look shit in all pictures so the idea is 8 week BSD from next week so AF for most of those 8 weeks. Had enormous row with one of my family members (she was a horrible cow to me) so it was emotionally draining too.

Am pleased to report he made it through the night. So that's good. It's a funny virus he's got though. Was well enough to come shopping this morning (he loves shopping the weirdo) but just had a relapse when I asked if he was feeding the chooks. Bearing in mind I have just deep cleaned our room.

Jesus christ the filth. Inch of dust behind furniture and under the bed. And 3 big black binliners of clothes evicted. Feels much fresher though now. But am knackered, been doing it since 10.30am and just sat down.

Won't be dry tonight. M and S 2 dine in is on, so obviously we are indulging. Naice bottle of wine chilling in the fridge. Will probably have half and the other half tomorrow.

Am usually easily dry on sundays but am signing up to fat club monday so need to make the most of it. And ideally have an extra 2lbs of alcohol weight which will melt off over next week and get me a really good loss for the first week.

Definetly need to do something. Have more clothes that don't fit me than do. Fml. And I know its beer, and possibly eating shitty takeaways when I have had a drink as I cba to then cook what I have planned.

Off to feed the chooks in the wind and the rain.

Am very much looking forward to monday when the dcs are back at school. I love having them off, especially when the weather is nice but am soooooo ready for things to get back to normal.

Thank god for that Frouby ! . Was getting a bit worried.

Kids were feral this morning but have brought them to adventure playground thing to burn off energy. Is fab really, if a bit rough round the edges and they've done fave painting and pancake making. Is all free as aimed at keeping deprived kids off the streets but have booked it for embarrassingly middle class party for dd2.

Also will not be dry but is Saturday night after all.

Fucker should have passed last night way I feel. Useless lazy twat. Went to feed chooks and asked him to tidy the kitchen up while I was gone.

Was all his and ds mess. Plates from sandwiches, crumbs all over side, empty crisp packets, paint and glitter from a bastarding magazine dh bought him this morning that I said was too messy but dh said he would clean up after etc.

Apparently dh too ill. Sorry mate, if you are well enough to come shopping, eat poached eggs on toast, eat coronation chicken sarnies and fuck about with paints you are well enough to clean your fucking mess up. Last time I checked I wasn't the fucking maid and am sick of picking up after everyone.

So handed him his arse on a plate and stomped off upstairs and passively aggressively did the ironing in temper because that's supposed to be his job. But it hasn't been done for a fortnight.

Lazy fucking manchild.

So am going to have a bath, get my pjs on and see how long it takes for him to start making noises about being too ill to cook. At which point I will walk over the road, by myself kfc and eat it in the shop.

He's not that ill btw, he hasn't got a temp and hasn't felt the need to take paracetamol because they are in my bag because he took the last 2 last night that were in the cupboard. He's got lazybastarditus.

Phew frouby!! Kept checking in to make sure he’d survived the night!! 😬. By sounds of it tho, he’s treading on thin ice today 😂. Love your updates 😊

NC4 your day yest sounds my kinda day

Longest - I used to love it when ds was younger and was obsessed by indoor soft play. I’d sit with coffee for hours while he entertained himself.

I went to yoga. Was amazing. Came out floating on a cloud. Then left dh to it and had a nanna nap this pm. Such a chilled day!!

Will be having wine tonight. Stupid question really as can’t contemplate not having it currently. Guess it’s a case of ‘how much’, not ‘if’ 🙄🙄

I am on the wine now too, needed it.

Dh is making a big deal of cooking tea now 😂😂😂. Obviously bollocking worked, amd as Sheffield United have just been promoted to premier league he's miraculously recovered from whatever was ailing him.

Not enough to read instructions on M and S food though it seems.

I keep meaning to do some yoga, and pilates as well. My core is shot to shit after 2 c sections and I need it for riding but it's finding the time. I suppose if I stopped drinking every fucking night I would have time, but even doing fat club a G and T is only 3.5 syns so if it's a choice between a freddo and a gin I am not going to be eating a small frog shaped chocolate 😂😂🍫🍫🍫🐸🐸

I like being married. When I think of it I get a warm fuzzy feeling. A bit like drinking red wine 😂
Not dry tonight had friends around for an apéro.
Frouby both my DC were CS and it is possible to find your core. The plank is one of the best exercises to do, build up gradually and you will be amazed how long you can last. I run and it is very important to have core strength as well. Swimming is good too and slightly less boring to do.

Omg I can’t do a plank!! My arms shake like mad!!

I like swimming MadameForest (loving the new username btw) but it's finding time again. It will come back once I start riding regularly, you definetly need a good core for balance and posture and just holding everything together. Am going to rely on muscle memory and hope mine don't have amnesia.

But would be useful to have a little bit before I start regularly riding a baby pony. Your core is what keeps you on if the shit hits the fan. I used to have to be told something had bucked, and could sit the spookiest of spooks and the poppiest of jumps and the sneakiest of duck outs, but now I suspect if she farts a bit too enthusiastically I will be on the floor.

The frsutrating thing with getting unfit is you know what your body should be doing it just can't physically do it. I used to be able to sit and squeeze from my seat but I will be all ponyclub kicks and flaps.

But am hoping it comes back quickly. Usually do about 10k steps a day, over half at an energetic pace according to my app, and have lots of stamina so hoping that helps. Also fatclub. And less alcohol.

I like being married too. Most of the time.

Frouby - totally agree. The worst thing is knowing your body should be able to do it but it just won’t!! I used to run half marathons. Good speed. Won medals. Now when I run, my head thinks it needs to be at one speed, while my body is merely trying to put one foot in front of the other, while my pelvic floor is trying to stop myself weeing!!
I’m going to continue with yoga. It was so good for body and soul. It put me in a good place today.
I too like being married most of the time. When he’s nice he’s nice, when he’s bad, he’s a wankerbastard too!!

Thinking of booking dd1 into pony riding summer camp Frouby. Bit pricey but i need childcare and it's her birthday in the holidays so can call it a present. Have booked sailinf/canoeing camp already and the rest can be the cheapo adventure playground one, though i will probably cave and book circus skills or some other nonsense.

Dd2 has requested a rainbow themed birthday party so have been indulging myself on Pinterest. Going to make rainbow pizza and rainbow fruit salad and do a rainbow scavenger hunt and the traffic light games with more colours.

Been roped into cheering someone on in the Marathon tomorrow.normally try to avoid that because it's a slog. Piano has been cancelled so free to get wasted at boozy friends ' but will try not to.

I adore swimming, especially outdoors. The lido is open year round now but the fun sessions start this week. You can take ridiculously huge inflatable unicorns in and feel like you're on holiday. Friend is over from Paris with her kids so suggest we all go, but she sounds a bit unsure.

Have booked holiday in menorca for October. Any of you been?

Confession: even though I’m well on the way to not being married, I still very definitely tick MRS as my title. It feels proper, grown up, befitting. I like it. I can’t make myself go back to Miss. That’s not who I am anymore, and Ms, well...
I’m quite content being a Mrs, even if I’m a slightly fraudulent one.

Do it Longest. How old is she again? Our local riding school does stuff like that and dd loved going when she was younger even though she has always had her own ponies. It's nice for them to spend time with other ponymad kids and they have a blast mucking out and grooming and riding etc. Riding is expensive but is so good for them and such a lovely way to spend days. On our yard it's only me, yard owner and 2 other liveries so we don't really have other people to ride with and I do miss having other folk to talk to.

But then I like the peace and quiet as well. Though that's usually shattered by ds😂.

Dsis posted a photo the other day of her new horse. It looks very thin and poor, poor bugger. My other dsis has been invited over but not me. I wouldn't have gone anyway but am pretty fucked off with her. She is making a huge mistake, it will end in tears and I was only trying to help her not make that mistake. And my mum has pissed me off as well. She agrees with me, knows it won't end well and said I said nothing wrong. But said I shouldn't say anything else as dsis gets so upset. So I won't say anything else, won't offer my advice because it's not wanted and won't get involved in any way shape or form. Which is what I told dsis.

But then last week dd came and told me dsis has been texting her to ask if she can borrow dds riding boots and hat so her stepdaughter can ride. Cheeky fuck. Was fuming that she asked dd and not me. Dd said no, she knows we don't loan out hats or boots (cross contamination risk on the boots, hats fit better if they are your own) so just said she would be using them herself. And then dsis asked if we had any old headcollars/buckets/brushes/tack if she could have it.

If I had old gear I would pass it on but it's the fact she has gone to dd and not me. Dd is 14 and an adult asking for something dd will know I won't be happy with puts dd in a horrible position. Have told dd if she asks for anything again just tell me and I will deal with it, or just say no, we only have 1 set of everything and we use it.

Anyway. Today I need to clean all the upvc window frames inside and the windows, blinds are being fitted tomorrow. Yay. Looking forward to everyone being back at school and work and hopefully getting some work done myself. Got the year end to do for the business plus loads of my own work to do. House is more or less fettled now, every room has been deep cleaned apart from the Cupboard Of Doom and my paperwork cabinet, which I am replacing with a kallax when me and cousin get time to bomb over to Ikea. Not making the rookie mistake of going with dh and the dcs again 😂😂

Quite right too NC4, it's all about self I'd these days and the French obtain Mme by virtue of seniority so why shouldn't we? Mind you I remembe hating it at first when I stopped being addressed as Mademoiselle.

Friend has given me an out on the marathon watching front which I have grabbed with both hands hurrah. So having leisurely breakfast in the garden now Storm Hannah has done one. Will see if DH will watch the girls while I pop for a swim.

Crossed posts Frouby. She's 7, but will turn 8 in the summer holidays, god help us all. It's a bit of a hike to any kind of pony riding place but i can get to Trent park on the tube (wrong direction for work but hey ho). I always end up in this drama - there's a holiday club at work and at dd2's nursery, both of which are dirt cheap and run all day, and instead I am forking out a fortune and bombing around London for clubs that run 9 till 3. Her little face though when I mentioned it. I am hoping she likes the sailing one as that's on a gritty urban reservoir down the road. She might get a shock after trying it out at ulley.

I am in awe of all your spring cleaning. My house and garden are both in shocking states. I did hack back a load of brambles yesterday. Felt like prince charming rescuing Aurora but am now cut to ribbons.

Drank too much wine again. Getting out of control. Evening swimming and running instead here I come. Maybe.