Flossie my dsis is in a similar situation. Her dd has epilepsy and has serious, life threatening seizures. She is also allergic to diazepam which is the go to seizure recovery drug. To the point she goes into respiratory arrest. Only my sis and her partner and her older son can issue the alternative medication. Or a paediatric doctor. Not paramedics or normal a and e staff. It must be administered within an hour of the seizure starting to prevent long term damage. Or even death.
This means dsis has to be local to dniece and although dsis will potter around walking the dog or nip to the local supermarket while her dd is at school, she carries 2 phones and the meds with her at all times.
It's a very stressful way to live.
And I know what you mean about your dh just swanning around. My dh does the same. I work from home, do all of the everything else and am constantly busy. Dh gets up, goes to work, comes home and is done.
He drives me to drink the fucker.
Am starting a new regime next week. I am not keeping running around and picking up after lazy fuckers. Am having a fuckit bucket. And a fuckit chart. Everything I pick up goes in the fuckit bucket. Every unnecessary mess I clean up, like the bathroom left a mess, or wiping spilt milk up, or pots left in the sink will go on the chart.
Whoever has the most fuckits gets to wash the pots after sunday dinner.
Fuckers.