Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

I’d love to be able to run. I’d actually love to get back to the gym. This time last year I was lifting decent weights and feeling powerful physically, but I took a job which was too much for me in terms of shifts and mental load so enable me to leave a really bad marriage and put my kids first.

Overall I’m 100,000,000 better off than I was this time last year. I’m really bloody proud of my lot, and how far we’ve come.

I just wish I wasn’t so fat 😩

Has the hypnotherapy backfired dionysar?! well don’t spend the evening feeling guilty about it. Try not to overdo it and feel crap in the morning. I’ve actuslly managed to go to bed dry-hurray!!

Well I clearly can’t moderate. I was going to have a couple of glasses of wine last night and save the rest for tonight. Bottle sunk 🤦‍♀️
I’m going to have to be AF tonight now.

Well done Haggis!

Oh anglais, you are far from
Preachy. You are indeed inspirational though. I reckon we should all head over to Brittany and rock up at anglais’ gite Can you imagine the damage we’d do to our livers if we were all together 😂.

Frouby, that all sounds shit!! Totally shit

What happened with hypnotherapy Dionysa?

I am there! Will even go on a run if I have to! Love Brittany. Frouby, it does indeed sound shit. Hugs.

Urghh felt shit all day. 4 cans of lager is obviously 2 too many for me. Have had headache since I woke up.

Some goodish news though. Auntie coming home today, great niece sent home this morning though last I heard they were heading back to the ward as her chest is dipping in and out again so her mum was worried, but obs all OK so I think they are sending her back home. And poorly nephew ended up in hospital last night as well but he is doing much better and hopefully coming home too.

It's a nasty bug doing the rounds. I still don't feel 100% and have had it over a week.

Won't be dry tonight but aiming for moderation. A gin and maybe 2 glasses of wine. Have a busy weekend catching up on housework and jobs.

My post holiday detox hangover finally gone, although I did drink weds, I had 3 days af this week (won't be tonight). I woke with energy tonight which felt very new and refreshing. Will try and moderate tonight

There is half a bottle of wine leftover from weds. Wondering if i will resist opening another if DH and I share it. If I do that'll be my most moderate Friday for ages

Frouby good news about your Aunty.
Cotton well done on 3 nights AF after your holiday.
I've done 5 nights AF and will be damp tonight, cinema tomorrow night so no alcohol and DP back from Spain on Sunday and sex is always better sober so will probably have quite a dry weekend overall.

One of my gites is for 12 people so you are all welcome to come over, I'll do a bootcamp on how to eat and drink like a French woman (that is very moderately) and running will of course be an option. As will how to appreciate bum sex

Oh god anglais.....now you’ve got a fully fledged dp, and not just a forest man, you’ve got to do it 🙈😳 yikes!!!!

Yeah anglaise. I might take a rain check love. Being hungry, sober, and running with a sore arse is not for me 😂😂😂.

I will stick with being a fat lush but sat on my sofa not a rubber ring. Thanks tho.

Is bum sex obligatory in France?

Well I picked an opportune moment to update 😂😱

4 days AF this week and am trying to moderate this weekend - hopefully better than last.

Now Anglaise, when you say eat moderately I assume this does not include cheese? Oh good, thought not, proceed then!!

Well, it's my birthday weekend (birthday Monday) and I'm having some prosecco 🙄 not going to get drunk but feeling guilty! Probably have s few tomorrow at my dads for dinner then no more until Xmas! I want to control my drinking, just hope I can 😑

Frouby good news about your family. Happy birthday recovery! What have you got planned?
I had a half glass of wine left over as I was cooking tea, so I had it. It’s made me want more. I think I’m like a shark!
So far I’ve resisted. It’s horrid out so it’s easier to not walk round to the shop.
I’m wondering if it might be easier to moderate port. I’d forgotten about port till someone mentioned it the other day.

Sherry is good for moderating I think. I prefer it to port.

Thanks just a low key meal at my dads tomorrow, sister is coming down from London which is nice.... then a day out shopping in Bath with my mum on Monday and lunch 😁 hopefully AF! Xx

Hope you have a good birthday Recover. How are you feeling today?

Happy Birthday recovery have a great weekend. I'm originally from near Bath my parents still live there, a beautiful city.
NC4 bum sex not obligatory in France but certainly the norm, or more so than I remember it being when I was in the UK 16 years ago
HAhelp cheese in moderation too, but when I cut down on red wine the cheese consumption stopped too I'm sure that's why I lost 5kg

Childish snigger re bum sex being the norm!

DH and I have finished the leftover wine. Kettle is on.

Oh dear...

I have read all the posts, but am a bit muddled as a result of sherry. FML a thousand times over. I will try to respond to individuals when I get my sober mind around it all tomorrow morning - but what stands out, even now, is what a great tribe you are.

Spent the afternoon having le (sober) bumsex. Because you can't get pg that way. But I still manage to be upset/worried/paranoid about DP. Sherry is the Devil's work, really.

I have given up with the DC ever going back to school. DD is now ill. So I am in Week Five of half term. You couldn't make it up.

Anglaise, I suspect your cheese consumption was on a par with my consumption of crisps. I love them both equally. Could happily live without sweet stuff - but crisps and cheese are my undoing.

Now. So far as the hypno goes... I saw him yesterday. I had somehow become muddled, but the initial session was free. He was pleasant and competent, and I didn't have the feeling that I was brighter than he was (always a fear). So. We just had a chat. He said he had helped people who wanted to moderate (and said that such people are on the whole easier to work with than those who want to become completely AF, as they are arguably more realistic).

His charges are £75 for the first 90 mins, and £49 per session, if needed, thereafter. I gasped outwardly. I realise that this would be peanuts for some people - but it is immense for me. Though, that said, it would also be about 10 bottles of wine.

What was very forcibly brought home to me by the session is that there is potentially a way out, if I want to take it. Which begs the question (and I use this phrase in the correct sense of the word): to what extent to I want to find a way out? I drink essentially because I am anxious about DP. He is the only person I have ever loved, apart from blood relations. But he is a sod. How much do I want to find a way out, and how much does some strange part of me enjoy being in a relationship with someone who calls all the shots, all of the time????

Much to think about.

Sorry! This is very boring. Meanwhile. Frouby, I am v glad to read good family news at last. And Anglaise you are anything but preachy.

Dionysa not boring in the slightest. We are all dealing with things. It sounds really tough.

I’m still fairly new round here so I’m sorry, I don’t know your background. You don’t have to go into it if you don’t want, but if you do we’re here.

I left my husband four months ago, but spent probably five years trying to make it work. I just couldn’t do it on my own.
It’s hard, and soul destroying.

Sorry if I’ve got the wrong end of the stick, or if I’m projecting.

Hypnosis sounds interesting and it sounds like you’re asking yourself the right questions.