Less wets, more dry, sometimes damp. We are tryers to be dryers. Thread 3!

[Frouby]

New thread for those wanting to reduce alcohol. Always supportive and friendly. No judgements, just support to get to where we feel comfortable with our relationship with alcohol. All welcome.

Am a bit rubbish with clicky links but there are previous threads.

Oh dear trying by to stay away from the G&T is so hard tonight !
Will keep busy .....
It's horrid last night was easy in comparison .

Flossie so sorry lovely. Will talking it through on here help, or you can pm me anytime. Poor you and your poor dd, be kind to yourselves xx

recovery well done. A dry day is always briliant no matter how hard it is.

Damp here. 2 cans of bastarding fattening lager. Feel shit, coughing my guts up and auntie had her second op today. Shes doing OK, on HDU at minute but hopefully on a normal post surgical ward tomorrow.

Oh Flossie, I am so sorry. Like Frouby, I'm always here to listen and hand hold of you need.

Also big hugs to Frouby and Recovery. What a tough time everyone is going through. Xxx

Oh no Flossie I'm so sorry about the long journey and the pointless consultation, big hugs to you and DD and have a safe trip back to Cornwall tomorrow.
recovery early nights are the only answer at the moment you did so well today, stay strong
You are all really brave with all the shit happening.
Frouby you are moderating really well at the moment don't be hard on yourself!
And well done to everyone else who is resisting temptation and managing a few AF nights

Thanks so much. Was just a sad sad appointment with a different outcome than we’d hoped for. And basically v little hope of recovery :(

Oh Flossie 😢
So sorry to hear that.
I’m doing ok these past couple of days. Went to fireworks last night and had hotpot and mulled apple juice. Tonight I’m so exhausted a cup of tea and a ginger nut has been enough. I just want the day to be over.
I’m determined to get through to at least Thursday before I have a drink. I can do that. And no more massive sessions at the weekend either. That might be harder.

I am so sorry Flossie. That's really difficult to read, even. I will hold a candle of hope for you that a better treatment will come along, so you can feel whatever you need to feel. X

Flossie that is sad, I know you were hoping for some answers and hope of treatment on DD's condition, what downer that must be for you
NC4 stay strong you can make it through to Thursday! Do you feel any benefits at all? Better sleep for example?

Anglaise I have been sleeping better, yes. Monday night wasn’t the best example as I took strong painkillers before bed. I’d walked miles over the day and my back was hurting, so yesterday I had a bit of a codeine hangover, but last night I was in bed with my book and slept well.
I think without drinking I’ve realised that I’m actually quite stressed.
My mum keeps alluding to how much I’m dealing with and I’ve been like, ‘nope, I’ve got it all together’. And I have, mostly. But there’s an underlying stress level I’m not acknowledging.
One to think about.

NC4 I'm definitely stressed. There's no one huge factor but DH has a chronic illness which means he can't pull his weight at home or work (the latter means finances are becoming more worrying), DD1 is being a pain and I am starting the process of getting her assessed for SEN. I work for the Government and can't escape the political shit show that's going on and really worries me, perhaps more than it should, along with Trump/Russia/Iran the list goes on, and then there's DM and her unsuitable partner. She was supposed to be coming to visit today but has had another setback health wise. I feel a bit like I'm drowning

Flossie, I'm sorry you had such bad news in London. Did your daughter sit in too? I can't remember how old she is.

My detox hangover might be getting better on day 3. Problem is that I'm out tonight. Trying to decide if drink allowed. I'm back on a diet too.

Flossie am so sorry your appointment was not at all what you wanted. Stupid question but how are you feeling today - are there any other avenues that could be explored?

Seems there are quite a few struggling with big issues in life at the moment and finding it all very stressful as to be expected. I hope worries ease.

Am doing ok this week (but I have found weekdays relatively ok to be AF) but definitely need to plan differently for the weekend. The fact that I'm now picking up DD from an overnight at a friends house at 8.00am on Saturday morning is definitely a strategy but am not sure a career change to taxi driver is really the best option over all!!

Yesterday I appeared to have switched from wine to olives/salt... I made an olive and thyme focaccia loaf and practically needed to be tied down to stop myself eating the whole thing...

Manic - but by the bucketload for you, Flossie. Will be back on here later...

Day 3, it has been easy to stay sober today, feeling a bit brighter. Only one lot of diazepam taken, no yelling at the kids and everyone is in bed alive, hurrah! Hope everyone else is doing ok x

Recovery day 3 is brilliant, well done, you sound a lot happier!
Day 4 AF here, will be AF tomorrow too. I'm missing DP this week (he is in Spain helping a friend out with their house) but prefer being completely AF in the week especially with the 6am wake up I have.

Well done both! I was AF yesterday and Sun and moderated Sat and Mon. Had tacoit with the girls after work which was nice and I resisted a beer, though may have some wine tonight. Will try and resist he reward impulse though!

Recovery, Day 3 is absolutely brilliant. I have not managed it. Managed 2 days, but a friend coming round last night meant Day 3 was a write-off. Day 4 (today) likewise, though no good reason. You are doing fantastically. I know it feels hard, and you evidently have a whole lot of horrible stuff to deal with - which makes it all the more admirable. Hang in there.

Depressingly, the reason I had the half bottle I found in the cupboard is that I've had a horrendous headache all day, and I wanted to see if wine would help it. It did. Sigh.

I’m wavering. Feeling stressed and fed up. I’m absolutely shattered too and just want a bath and bed. Actually I really want wine. Trying to stay strong....

Tomorrow is DS1s GCSE presentation. That’s a day I never thought would be a celebration so I’m going to allow a drink tomorrow- but not an almighty skin full.

NC sink into the bath... you'll feel a lot better for it!

NC4 just do bath bed and a cup of tea, you will feel great tomorrow having done a few AF days consecutively. Stay strong 💪 you can do it!

I’ve done it. 😃 I’ve shooed them all to bed. There’s no booze in the house and I won’t go to the shop in my pyjamas.

Having a nice cup of Earl Grey and a gingernut and trying to pretend I didn’t scoff a whole pizza for my tea 😱

I’ll deal with that later.

Yeay! Well done NC4. I'm afraid I'm on wine glass 3 but the first two were very small. Had some bad news that a friend's little boy has been diagnosed with leukemia. In fact it's the friend I mentioned the other day who is now wholly AF. Am feeling positive for them but still.

Well done on those doing AF!! That’s brill. Recovery - you’ve done so well.

I’m currently drinking!! Had just over half a bottle. Stopping at that. The last couple of days have been emotionally horrific. I’ve wanted to drink!! But I’ve stopped myself before finishing the bottle each night!! Quite proud!! Feel out of control. But weirdly have remained more in control than I thought!! Seriously, yesterday, I wanted to get so trashed that I wouldn’t remember a thing!! But I was too tired!! Thank god!!

Wow Flossie, you're amazing, well done!