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Meeting my daughter tomorrow - at bloody last!!!

206 replies

pumpupthevolume · 21/06/2010 14:59

Hiya

Just cannot contain myself and need to announce to the world! We've been trying for a family for over eight years, and FINALLY we will be meeting our lovely daughter (13 months old) tomorrow!!!!

Hooray!!!

I will finally be a mummy!

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dolphin13 · 22/06/2010 16:21

Well

SherbetDibDab · 22/06/2010 16:29

Congratulations to you and your daughter. Keep us all updated.

FabIsGettingFit · 22/06/2010 16:37

I wouldn't stay in for months on end. It is neither realistic or fair to expect you to do that. By all means take things slowly but once she is home she is yours and you should act as such.

shockers · 22/06/2010 16:45

I don't think the advice given was to stay in for months on end. It was to ensure the bonding process was well underway before introducing other people into her life.

FabIsGettingFit · 22/06/2010 16:50

I was going on this post -

"no parties and very few visitors for teh first few months. nice quiet days at home or to the park etc with you and DH. she needs stability and routine. no visits to all your friends to show her off, however tempting. no playgroup or toddler groups for quite a while."

shockers · 22/06/2010 16:58

I wish another adopter had given me that advice when we brought DD home. I felt mean telling her to get off all my nice friend's knees, although I was uncomfortable with it. I didn't insist that we were the only ones to see to her in those first few really important months. It would have helped us both to bond.

maryz · 22/06/2010 18:57

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FabIsGettingFit · 22/06/2010 19:04

I do know all that, maryz.

maryz · 22/06/2010 19:11

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Peona · 22/06/2010 19:29

Congratulations!!! Try to post during intros to Mumsnet or Adoption UK as I remember intros were really emotional and we didn't have internet access where we were staying. I could have done with the support and you're too tired generally for family/friends phone calls, plus you spend hours on the phone to your social worker, at least we seemed to. P x

hifi · 22/06/2010 19:43

hope it all went well,very emotional i expect.probably too late but dh and i wore the same outfits we had on in our photos and dd seemed to recognise us when we first met her.
we also had some of dd toys on each floor when she first came to us. she settled better when she didnt see foster carer leave.
we kept her to ourselves for 2 weeks then we went out.really shocked by all the attention and questions,"which hospital did you have her?" threw me. we got first dd at 14 months.

shockers · 22/06/2010 20:58

I've been thinking about you all day! Hope it went well. It's a surreal feeling isn't it? Playing with a child you don't know and all the time thinking... you're my daughter! Please update us all .

pumpupthevolume · 22/06/2010 21:28

Where do I start? I think this was the best day of my life!

We were incredibly nervous beforehand, but then as soon as we saw her little face peeping round the doorway, I knew that this is my baby and I'm her mother. She obviously knew something strange was happening and was a bit unsettled (as expected) but then relaxed and started smiling at us. We suddenly realised that the two foster carers and the social worker had snuck off into the kitchen, and we were alone with our daughter!

We carried on cooing at her, and she carried on smiling at us and showing off... She even pulled herself up and started bouncing on her gorgeous chubby legs... then slipped and banged her head on the chair leg!!!

TBH, we didn't know what to do, wanted to rush to her and pick her up, but started worrying about the etiquette, since we hadn't even touched her to that point! Then mummy instinct kicked in and I scooped her up and tried to comfort her - in vain, but that's to be expected really. So took her to foster carer to soothe. It got us all talking about how to deal with this, and how awkward this can feel.

Later on, they gave her to me in the garden, and I held her properly for the first time. Magic. She smiled, she played with my hair, she looked at me with her fantastic eyes. I am officially in love. Cannot wait to go back tomorrow - am counting the minutes. It feels like this is going to work, and we are going to be a new little family unit.

[soppy grin]

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ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 22/06/2010 21:31

Oh, lovely. I did hope you'd have a chance to update us this evening.

blowninonabreeze · 22/06/2010 21:31

Oh what a lovely post.

Enjoy tomorrow and best of luck for your new lives together.

Runoutofideas · 22/06/2010 21:33

That's fantastic ! Best of luck for your future together.

PictureThis · 22/06/2010 21:36

What a beautiful description of a wonderful day and what a lucky little girl. Wishing you all the very best for the future.

PosyPetrovaPauline · 22/06/2010 21:42

(virtually sobbing) How lovely - you all deserve one another !

Ponders · 22/06/2010 21:45

Love that she started showing off to you!

Your instincts are great pumpup, & you will be a lovely little family

shockers · 22/06/2010 21:47

This is the start of something momentous.
Try to keep a diary of your meetings and your feelings... trust me, she will love to hear it when she is a little older! x

Lotkinsgonecurly · 22/06/2010 21:47

I've just cried. God how lovely. Huge hugs and best wishes for tomorrow. Please update us on how it goes.

chaostrulyreigns · 22/06/2010 21:49

Well pump I only "met" you and your circumstance yesterday and I wept copiously through your post about your perfect day.

I cannot begin to scratch the surface of the emotions you must be feeling.

Enjoy your learning curve.

isthatporridgeinyourhair · 22/06/2010 21:50

That's so wonderful

VerityBrulee · 22/06/2010 21:55

Reading this thread has made my day

So happy for you.

foureleven · 22/06/2010 21:57

you have made an old bitch of a mumsnettter cry!

Congratulations, what a lucky little girl xxxx