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Meeting my daughter tomorrow - at bloody last!!!

206 replies

pumpupthevolume · 21/06/2010 14:59

Hiya

Just cannot contain myself and need to announce to the world! We've been trying for a family for over eight years, and FINALLY we will be meeting our lovely daughter (13 months old) tomorrow!!!!

Hooray!!!

I will finally be a mummy!

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Just13moreyearstogo · 21/06/2010 19:05

Sorry - my mistake - 13 months old. She'll be so cute!

mumbar · 21/06/2010 19:13

congratualtions I'm really pleased for you and wish you DP and YOUR DD all the best for the future

shockers · 21/06/2010 19:27

Oooh, I'm so excited for you! Many congratulations!!! x

hellymelly · 21/06/2010 19:29

Congratulations,it is the best thing ever being a mother,and 13 months is a great age,really good fun.

5inthebackofthenet · 21/06/2010 19:32

How exciting! Congratulations and good luck for tomorrow.

Disenchanted3 · 21/06/2010 19:32

Oh wow massive congratulations

funkychunkymunky · 21/06/2010 19:33

Yay! Good luck!

mumwhereareyou · 21/06/2010 19:35

Brillant news, you will never ever forget the first time you hold her. Adopted our three nearly 5 years ago and can still remember the first time we met them.

hester · 21/06/2010 22:15

Brilliant news! Many congratulations from another new adopter (I meet my new dd in six weeks )

Let us know how it goes...

PosyPetrovaPauline · 21/06/2010 22:18

wow wow wow
brilliant news and all the best for tomorrow!!
lots of love!

mumblecrumble · 21/06/2010 22:31

Congratulations - such AMAZING news. Keep usposted!!!

KristinaM · 22/06/2010 00:05

congratulations and good luck for tomorrow

i knwo you didnt ask for advice but i cant resist...........

remember to learn EVERYTHING about her routine from her foster carers - write it down- and try to follow it as much as possible. unless it conflicts with attachment parenting

once she comes home, only you and DH should hold her and do all the care for her eg bathing, feeding, changing etc. once she is securely attached to you and knows you are her parenst, THEN comes the turn of granny etc

no parties and very few visitors for teh first few months. nice quiet days at home or to the park etc with you and DH. she needs stability and routine. no visits to all your friends to show her off, however tempting. no playgroup or toddler groups for quite a while

if she is still on a bottle then DONT wean her onto a cup, whatever the HV tells you. you must give her the bottle yourself and hold her in your arms, dont let her hold it

remember that parenting a child who has suffered so much loss and trauma is very different from parenting a child who has been with you since minus 9 months. you have nearly two years bonding to catch up on. you may need to ignore well meaning advice from bio parents

bratnav · 22/06/2010 00:10

Congratulations, how exciting for you. Hopefully she can now have a wonderful life with caring parents that she gets to keep

No judgement on her birth parents/interim carers btw, I'm sure they have done their best, but you sound lovely and every child deserves a permanent home.

Fruitysunshine · 22/06/2010 00:16

What wonderful news!! Congratulations - sending you lots of love and positivity!!

pumpupthevolume · 22/06/2010 00:21

Thank you all - I don't think I will sleep tonight but am going to try now... I'll update tomorrow evening.

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NonnoMum · 22/06/2010 00:31

Congrats.

Wonder if she is toddling yet? You'll soon find out.

maryz · 22/06/2010 08:51

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OnlyWantsOne · 22/06/2010 08:56

Oh how amazing, congratualtions thats fantastic

(dont ever ask on MN about liquid evil fruitshoots though )

Hope you have an amazing first meet of your little girl, oh thats made me feel all gooey for you

chaostrulyreigns · 22/06/2010 09:12

It's a beautiful day for you. Enjoy every moment.

I think if I was in the same position, my brain would be starting every sentence with "This time next week........"

Massive

weetabixwhiner · 22/06/2010 09:47

I'm welling up reading these messages especially Dr Spechemin. It's so heartwarming to know of a really happy ending is happening for you. So many good wishes are coming your way from us all. xxx[one for each of you!]

edam · 22/06/2010 09:50

Brilliant!

hester · 22/06/2010 11:36

Kristina, that advice is really useful. (Though I must admit I'm disappointed about not visiting parent and toddler groups for a while - I'll go stir crazy.) Any more where that came from? Given that I already have a birth child, who will be starting school and needing to establish friendships, go on playdates etc, it's going to be a bit of a struggle to meet both their needs - for now and the next 20 years, I suppose.

shockers · 22/06/2010 15:34

It is brilliant advice that I wish I had been given at the start with DD. It will be a short term sacrifice for long term benefit. Your DD will know who to come to first for comfort and love and it will help immensely with your bonding process.

twolittlemonkeys · 22/06/2010 15:38

Wonderful news! Congratulations! No wonder you're so excited All the best with your new family.

chaostrulyreigns · 22/06/2010 16:00

Wondering how it went?

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