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Good News

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Ted27 · 07/09/2021 16:58

Its often said that adopters rarely post about good news. So I thought I would start a good news thread and ask MN to pin it to the top.

I'll start

My son is 17 and going into his second year at college studying engineering. He passed year 1 with Merit. A fantastic journey from special school into mainstream education. He has a Saturday job in a grocers. He is good fun to be around and he has lots of friends. We have had our tough times but the future looks bright. He is a fantastic young man and I'm very proud and privileged to be his mum.

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Ted27 · 25/12/2021 15:40

@Wormsarecool

thats lovely thank you

many people gave so much to me when I was starting out and since then, its good to carry the tradition on

merry christmas to you and your family

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Jellycatspyjamas · 25/12/2021 20:08

What a fabulous gift @Ted27, something to treasure.

My two have had the best Christmas, my DS has been an absolute joy - so appreciative of his gifts and really easy company. My DD usually gets completely overwhelmed but this morning (at 4.00am) said she was going to have the best Christmas. And she did, no sign at all of her usual anxiety, no temper or tears, she too has been appreciative of her gifts and while she was quite in need of lots of my time, she was able to regulate her emotions.

This week has been a very tough one for her, for non-Christmas reasons, and she’s coped amazingly well. I’m so very proud of them both.

stupiduser · 30/12/2021 18:42

I'm not sure I have ever posted on this board before but I have an 11 v nearly 12 year old adopted daughter. She has been with us as foster carers and then adoptive parents since she was newborn. This Christmas my beautiful girl has danced her heart out at her second pantomime. She was amazing and it makes me so proud every day to see her dance. I am so happy that she has found her gift and don't think she would have if she hadn't been placed with us. Her dancing is truly a gift to anyone who gets to watch her.

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Ted27 · 30/12/2021 20:11

@Jellycatspyjamas thats lovely to hear

@stupiduser - how wonderful, there is something so joyful in seeing dancers in their element, that's amazing for her and you

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gabsdot45 · 04/01/2022 06:52

My son turned 18 a couple of weeks ago. Coming up to his birthday he told me a few times that we are great parents and that he is so grateful that we adopted him because it could have been very different for him and how grateful he is for everything we've done for him.
He's a great kid Raising him has been a joy.

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Ted27 · 04/01/2022 15:55

@gabsdot45

thats lovely, 17/18 year olds can be quite charming when they want to be !

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dibly · 08/01/2022 23:36

Oh lovely thread. We had a really rocky start with a lot of rejection 7 years ago. But some interventions, time, patience and weirdly the help of Covid lockdowns have really turned things round for us.

I had Covid last week, luckily more like flu, but I kept my distance from DH and DD to avoid passing it on. 4 days later DD got a positive LTF and came running into my room saying ‘we can hug again now mummy’. She’s happy and sparky, DH will always be her main man, but I’ve forged my own relationship with her and it’s lovely.

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Ted27 · 09/01/2022 00:41

@dibly
how lovely, she sounds like a real sweetheart,

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Jellycatspyjamas · 15/03/2022 11:09

I’ve resurrected this thread to share my good news. My DD is due to go to high school next year and I’ve been worrying about where she would go. ASN provision here is very limited and while my DD is coping at a very nurturing primary school, the high schools are much less well equipped to support her needs, she falls in the gap between being academic enough to cope at mainstream (with a lot of support) but being very emotionally and developmentally vulnerable.

I met with her school and Ed Psych this morning to work out next steps and honestly thought I’d be trying to negotiate which mainstream placement would be least harmful for her. They’ve decided to seek a place for her at the local, fabulous ASN school on the basis of her extreme vulnerability. She’ll have a supportive, nurturing environment with the support to achieve academically as far as she’s able and to access specialist subjects in a mainstream setting where that’s appropriate. I’m so incredibly relieved for her, and me. Education is such a challenge for her, this placement will be perfect for her.

TheBareTree · 15/03/2022 11:36

That’s great news @Jellycatspyjamas I’m so pleased for you both

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Ted27 · 15/03/2022 14:00

@Jellycatspyjamas

fabuolous news, well done. One less thing to worry about

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Therapeutic70 · 15/03/2022 23:10

Great news Jelly

Jellycatspyjamas · 17/03/2022 08:36

Thanks, I didn’t expect it to be so straightforward - the LA needs to allocate her a place but the assessments are pretty conclusive so I have strong grounds for appeal if by some chance the LA don’t fall in line. It’s just nice not to have to fight for once.

simonsaidtouchyournose · 17/03/2022 15:22

How does your dd feel about it, jellycatspyjamas is she pleased or worried or other?

newusername2009 · 25/03/2022 23:04

I had parents evening this week for my child who was “likely to have developmental delays due to family history”, he is tracking as above average in many subjects and his teacher described him as a deep thinker.

It’s hard because I am so so proud but people just see it as boasting if I tell them.

Jellycatspyjamas · 26/03/2022 07:37

@simonsaidtouchyournose she’s ok about it, she would like to go to high school with her friends but knows she finds mainstream school very challenging particularly socially. A friend of hers is also on track to go to the same school which she’s happy about. She has an awareness of her difficulties particularly in terms of academics and thinks the extra support will help her but she’d also like to have the good bits of mainstream high school - which she imagines would be as she sees it on tv.

I guess she’s a bit mixed and I expect her feelings will become more complex as the time comes closer for her to go. I’m hoping the link in with the local high school might allow her some of a “normal” high school experience with enough support for her to cope.

@newusername2009 boast away, you should be very proud of your boy - how fabulous is it to see them flourish against the odds.

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Ted27 · 26/03/2022 08:25

@newusername2009

who cares what any one else thinks, you are right to be proud of your boy - boast away !

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Ted27 · 26/03/2022 08:33

10 years ago today I met a certain young man who changed my life forever.

We have had our ups and downs, he has struggled with many things, I have worried and cried. I expected nothing and hoped for everything.

I am so proud of the fine young man he is growing into. He is making his way in the world and I am so excited for what the future may bring for him.

I wish I could post his photo do you could see the dazzling smile that lights up my life everyday and makes it all worthwhile

love you babs and thank you for letting me be your mum

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newusername2009 · 26/03/2022 08:36

It’s so good to have a positive adoption thread! Thanks everyone

Chocapple · 26/03/2022 09:56

Aww @Ted27 you have brought tears to my eyes. Your love and dedication for Simba shines through this and every one of your posts I have seen in the last 3 years or so. You rightly deserve to be so incredibly proud of Simba and yourself. Xx

Jellycatspyjamas · 26/03/2022 10:31

@Ted27 how lovely - 10 years is a real milestone, you bring such wisdom to the boards borne out of all those worries and tears, and your pride in him is obvious. Take a moment or two to recognise all your achievements in the person he is, you’ve done an amazing job of being his mum.

dollardollardollar · 09/04/2022 19:56

My 6 year old has had his first play date with a school friend without me.

He managed really well and after a few movement breaks before bed, he slipped into his usual (inflexible) bedtime routine and is now just dozing off.

It's a really big milestone for him and us. Sometimes I am so in the thick of attachment parenting I forget to step back and see the progress we've made.

whybotheranyhow · 10/04/2022 06:01

nice to hear some good news on this for a change

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Ted27 · 10/04/2022 10:05

@dollardollardollar

fabulous! hope you used the time to treat yourself

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Mintyt · 10/04/2022 20:20

As I a married to an adopted man, these positive posts warm my heart