Private diagnosis for schizophrenia?

[YouAreMyRain]

It's me again.
I have posted a similar thread in children's MH on here but there's not much traffic.
I thought some people on this area may (unfortunately) be able to help.

I have two adopted DD. DD1 is 8yo, under Camhs, lots of MH issues. We have had a horrendous few days with her trying to drown her sister (6yo) in the bath and saying that she wasn't angry, she just had a "feeling" that she "had to hold her head under the water until she stopped breathing".
I have spoken to Camhs and PAS, who were considering removing her as a risk to the other children (I have a one yr old DS who she has previously threatened) but have changed their mind.

Anyway, the main reason for this thread is that I am concerned that she is showing early signs of schizophrenia or a personality disorder.

Camhs in our area have said that they would not diagnose either of these until late teens or early twenties as the personality is still fluid until then.

I would be happy to pay privately as she may need meds and specialist treatment etc but I don't know how to find a private child psychiatrist who would do so. Any thoughts?

How you doing Rain?

Is it me or are Post Adoption Support getting a bit rattled?
I've just had an email from them that contains the following "points"

" You need to consider other factors that may be impacting upon your ability to manage all three children at present.

In your recent email correspondence you are sharing very clear safeguarding concerns with us and it is important that the Area Team make a full assessment of your ability to continue to meet the needs of all three children."

They seem to have forgotten that they are called Post Adoption SUPPORT ffs!!

I am the one asking for help here! I have already shared everything with the safeguarding team and it was PAS that failed to do a safeguarding referral when I considered that one was required. Now they are questioning my parenting.

I have asked them what they consider the "other factors" to be and I am awaiting a response. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Seriously, you could not make this up!

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Not posted much before - but saw this and thought you might want to make very clear via email (so there is a paper trail) of one of your points

I have already shared everything with the safeguarding team and it was PAS that failed to do a safeguarding referral when I considered that one was required

They may be trying to shift responsibility/blame (sorry if these wrong terms), and I'd have thought you want this point documented and acknowledged by them, if at all possible.

I hope someone more expert comes along with more advice - it sounds awful.

Thanks. I definitely think that they are trying to somehow blame me. If they think I can't meet the needs of my children, they surely should be offering some support!

Hi Rain so very sorry your 'support' is so CRAP!

I agree with justwhatwasithinking you need to make it clear to them.

Also, you are parenting all your kids to the best of your ability and only one of them has these issues. Your dear daughter has problems and you are trying to help her and they should be trying to help you.

If my advice is crap ignore it but if it were me I would want to point for point clearly state where their information is wrong or misleading or misses the point. You have rightly asked them to explain. I think whatever they come back with just explain again how you are coping. I think you are amazing. You have coped with a marriage breakup, new relationship and a new child. All normal things most women could cope with (hopefully) although stiff tough and demanding. But you also have a child who has made threats, accusations, attempted suicide! These are not normal things and not easy to cope with at all. Are they seriously going to suggest the other things in you life are more demanding than this?

Good luck.