@ArseInTheCoOpWindow
A few quick points:
This thread is not representative of all academics, or the people your daughter will be working with. You're taking it very personally!
It's anonymous so more robust than in real life. Many of us are here to share moral support due to being under threat of redundancy, and being pulled in every direction. Researchers need to raise money and a very low percentage of bids get funded. We need to publish and it's difficult to control how quickly that happens. We need to work with some seriously challenging colleagues, PhD students and managers. And student demand is endless.
This part of the forum is not set up to support parents, but female academics - many of whom are older and managing both children and elderly parents.
What many of us are trying to figure out is what the proposed weekly check-in is designed to do? Apologies if you have said - am busy & may have missed it.
At any rate, the personal tutor is likely to have a calendar with bookable slots which can be attended online. It's still early in term, depending on the institution. He may not have set it up yet.
If so, your daughter with your help could book a slot each week for the whole term. She should prepare a list of specific questions, and when they are answered, she can end the meeting.
She could also contact the course administrators to find out when his office hours are and how she can book slots.
However, if he doesn't teach the course she has questions about, it will be generic advice to email the module leader, read through the materials, make a study plan etc.
It would help her to get used to checking the VLE/library resources thoroughly before adding academic questions to her list. Many questions can be answered by reading the module guide/lecture slides/VLE blurb for the readings.
Effective students always come with a list, or are clear about the specific issue for which they want advice.
If she wants a weekly check-in to feel seen, recognised, valued - well, so long as he has set up his office hours, that will be possible. Most academics are kind to students. But at some point she will have to take the step to book it or accept the invitation/calendar link - and think about what it is she wants from the conversation.
In my experience, some students just wanted to 'let me know' their circumstances/challenges but didn't actually want anything to happen as a result - they didn't want to be advised on requesting extensions, or how to contact wellbeing services. I accepted that they often simply wanted someone in my position just to listen and say that they were sorry - and did that as well as I could.