DH flatulence - wwyd?

[NutsForMutts]

DH of 20 years aways farted a lot in bed, and anywhere, and habitually overeats and drinks.

I have always hated it, find it super disrespectful and stinky and a total mood killer. Have said this many times and pleaded.

The newer thing is him absolutely blasting it out, around me but even moreso every time he goes to the bathroom. The sound rings out through the house.

In a talk about our relationship recently, I mentioned the sound was causing me a feeling of distress on a daily basis. Nothing has changed.

What would you do?

Ok we understand the issue, OP. Is there a spare room you could move into? What do you want the outcome to be?

“So we don’t do it in company”

Why not @MyFriendNorman ?

Have it sound proofed and make sure he closes the door

I think the outcome I want is for him to grow a caring gene. What really happens is I either suck it up or we separate and I have a peaceful life. Separate bedrooms are possible but seems like calling time on the relationship and then there is not a lot of reason to live together once DC are both gone.

Why would separate bedrooms be calling time on the relationship? I know very committed couples who have the luxury of sleeping in separate bedrooms.

However, that’s not going to stop his behaviour at the dinner table etc is it? Or impact his underlying lack of respect for you?

Whenever I read a post like this it seems as though the issue at hand is not the only issue and is symptomatic of a wider un happiness in a relationship. Unless I am completely wrong OP.

For some it’s the brassicas and onions though

Your teens must never want to have mates over with this Neanderthal?

I think you’re bang on the money. It drips off every post - neither have respect for one another. He seems to not give a flying fig fig his wife thinks of him and the Op is thoroughly disgusted by him (and rightfully so).

You're missing my point that even without my "long litany of health condition"s I could not do it when younger.

Frankly, I find it weird that so many posters are so judgmental of something that for many people is out of their control (OP's DH aside!).

If someone has to contort and force it out, it is entirely within their control.
Everyone farts, and everyone has them slip out, it happens. You excuse yourself and thats the end of it.
But sitting right there and pushing them out day in day out is not ok. People judge the pushers not the accidentals