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notamumyetbutoneday · 2026-09-30T17:32:03+00:00

I am in shock so excuse the muddled thoughts i knew something was wrong as I hadn’t heard from my friend today. We text every day. I last heard from her at 5 o clock yesterday. No messages were delivering to her phone and her facebook account had gone. I messaged her pet sitter who said my friend had called her last night and asked her to had the pets unexpectedly. at 3pm she rang to say she had been arrested at home last night and taken to a police station where she spent the night in custody it’s insane it’s like a bad dream she wouldn’t do anything wrong she is a professional woman with an upstanding job i was in shock I couldn’t speak her solicitor was driving her home she was crying and couldn’t/wouldnt tell me what it was shes with another friend now who lives closer who said she’s asleep what on earth has happened I don’t understand why she would be arrested at home?? posting under an old username

RaggedRocks · 20/10/2026 12:56

Perhaps she was so drunk she has no idea what happened on the way home.

timetochangethering · 20/10/2026 12:57

HobgoblinNorFoulFiend · 19/10/2026 12:43

A member of my family was convicted of being in charge of a vehicle because she went to her car to get her coat outside a pub because she had decided to stay with a friend having had a drink. The police and the court gave not one single shit that she had no intention of driving, even though her friends were witness to the fact she had been invited to stay over with one of them.

I think it's really interesting the total shite people come out with to justify their drink driving...There is zero chance this is true, she will have been stopped and breathalysed and come up with this so people don't think she was drink driving....

I have also been told by a convicted drink driver that they weren't over the limit, then they had an accident, they hadn't been drinking, well only half a bottle of wine, less than half a bottle of wine, only a glass really, but somehow was over the limit and yada yada

Redheadedstepchild · 20/10/2026 12:59

Youlostyourlemons · 20/10/2026 12:48

I still wonder what would have happened (if what she says is true) if she went home and just went to bed or she just peeked out, saw the police and just did not answer the door. I mean they can't come back the next day and do the test as that would be pointless. It really baffles me they went out of their way to call her her house and remove her from the property after a breath test at her own door.

It's obviously not the whole story. I think OP - if she does decide to support her friend - which I think would be a good thing to do, as long as OP is up to it, is in for a very long and confusing time with a real life drip feed of background information, possible mental health difficulties on the side of the friend coming out before things get better and clearer.

Something's up. Being taken from her home to spend a night in custody is quite serious, I would have thought?

(I'd forgotten that bit but I just read the first post from 30th September and refreshed my memory.)

RaggedRocks · 20/10/2026 13:00

She needs to accept she is just a common or garden criminal and plead guilty and not waste public time and money. Serve her ban go on any courses they make her do and stop pretending she is too MC to be a drunk driver. Bangs gavel.

Persephonia1966 · 20/10/2026 13:06

timetochangethering · 20/10/2026 12:57

I think it's really interesting the total shite people come out with to justify their drink driving...There is zero chance this is true, she will have been stopped and breathalysed and come up with this so people don't think she was drink driving....

I have also been told by a convicted drink driver that they weren't over the limit, then they had an accident, they hadn't been drinking, well only half a bottle of wine, less than half a bottle of wine, only a glass really, but somehow was over the limit and yada yada

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It might be that she was refusing to do a breathalyser test. The police can't force you to do one at the side of the road/in your home but refusing without a reasonable excuse gives them grounds for arrest. I know that that's not what the OP was told but it's the chain of events that makes the most sense. And would also explain the time delay between leaving the bar and being breathalysed. I can see why if you were worried about being caught DOI it might make sense to try to refuse since it buys time for your blood alcohol levels to go down. But in this case not enough so it backfired.

Persephonia1966 · 20/10/2026 13:07

Persephonia1966 · 20/10/2026 13:06

It might be that she was refusing to do a breathalyser test. The police can't force you to do one at the side of the road/in your home but refusing without a reasonable excuse gives them grounds for arrest. I know that that's not what the OP was told but it's the chain of events that makes the most sense. And would also explain the time delay between leaving the bar and being breathalysed. I can see why if you were worried about being caught DOI it might make sense to try to refuse since it buys time for your blood alcohol levels to go down. But in this case not enough so it backfired.

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Sorry that was meant to be @Redheadedstepchild I quoted the wrong person

HobgoblinNorFoulFiend · 20/10/2026 14:46

timetochangethering · 20/10/2026 12:57

I think it's really interesting the total shite people come out with to justify their drink driving...There is zero chance this is true, she will have been stopped and breathalysed and come up with this so people don't think she was drink driving....

I have also been told by a convicted drink driver that they weren't over the limit, then they had an accident, they hadn't been drinking, well only half a bottle of wine, less than half a bottle of wine, only a glass really, but somehow was over the limit and yada yada

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Nope. This happened as described. Another member of my family was also there. I’m not a drinker myself and I have no sympathy whatsoever for anyone who drinks and drives.

VickyEadie · 20/10/2026 15:07

MsMacheath · 19/10/2026 23:12

I think I probably know zero people who drink anything if they will be driving. The limit is lower in Scotland but even before it was reduced I never took anything if I were driving. Husband is the same and our friends.

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I have a friend I meet occasionally to go to watch football. We both drive there from a distance (me 2.5 hours, friend 3+ hours), have a meal and chat beforehand then watch the match. Friend usually has a glass of wine, I stick to water - every time. The total time until we get back into our cars after she's had the glass of wine is about 5 hours. She drives all the way home, I stay in a hotel, but that's neither here nor there.

I just cannot drink if I'm driving.

MsMacheath · 20/10/2026 15:13

Bitsostuff · 20/10/2026 12:33

It is legal to use the minimum force necessary to prevent a crime being committed. Taking away a drunk persons keys is a proportionate response to a potentially dangerous situation.

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That is so not correct. The only option available to bar staff is to suggest not driving and then to phone the police if the person drives off.

Bitsostuff · 20/10/2026 15:16

MsMacheath · 20/10/2026 15:13

That is so not correct. The only option available to bar staff is to suggest not driving and then to phone the police if the person drives off.

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Has it ever been tested in court? Can you link to the case law?

MsMacheath · 20/10/2026 15:50

Bitsostuff · 20/10/2026 15:16

Has it ever been tested in court? Can you link to the case law?

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Oh fgs. Do you really think a licence holder and bar staff have the right to imprison members of the public? Or take their belongings off them?

They have right to do this and their actions if they attempted to would be criminal. Police have the right to take keys in certain circumstances and if correct procedures are followed.

MsMacheath · 20/10/2026 16:25

MsMacheath · 20/10/2026 15:50

Oh fgs. Do you really think a licence holder and bar staff have the right to imprison members of the public? Or take their belongings off them?

They have right to do this and their actions if they attempted to would be criminal. Police have the right to take keys in certain circumstances and if correct procedures are followed.

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They have no right to do this

BlazenWeights · 20/10/2026 16:50

LivelyGreyShark · 20/10/2026 00:01

I dont think anyone would argue with don't drink and drive - but it sounds like this woman wasn't pulled over whilst actually driving, has not actually been charged so far and not found guilty, it could just be that she picked up a couple of glasses of wine, but put them down without finishing them and an over zealous staff member called the police - I make at least two cups of tea a day that i start and never finish because i get distracted, then again maybe she was drinking and drove but sounds like its just an investigation at this stage so maybe wait to see the outcome.

I literally never finish my tea 😂 said as I sit with a half drunk cup of cold tea by my side.

Youlostyourlemons · 20/10/2026 20:03

RaggedRocks · 20/10/2026 12:53

They would have had to be following her or suspect that she caused an accident to enter her property to breathalyse. They could use force to gain entry if it was refused according to Judge Google.

They could not have been following her if they arrived at her home 3 hours after she did.

NotTooOldPaul · 20/10/2026 21:00

No matter what your friend did she is probably feeling really worried and frightened and a friend who is there for her will be very welcome