I'm on the fence. On the one hand, if ghosts were real, we would surely have some kind of solid, irrefutable evidence by now. On the other hand, some genuinely unexplainable things have happened to me.
The one that stands out the most is just after my Uncle died. I was living away and hadn't spoken to anyone in the family for a few days. We weren't close to my uncle, so he wasn't someone we talked about or shared memories about. We liked him well enough; we just didn't see him often after we all grew up and stopped going with my nana to visit him on Saturday afternoons.
My mum phoned me to tell me he had passed suddenly in the night, and then she told me my sisters had thought he'd been married and asked after his wife.
Before she said anything else, I said, "Oh, was the cake lady not his wife? I thought she was." She went silent for a second and asked me what the cake lady looked like. I described her. I remembered her clearly. She wasn't a vague memory of a person someone once told me about when I was a child; she was a woman my sisters and I spent two hours with every Saturday afternoon when we were young.
She was a short, plump woman with dark, permed hair, and she always wore a flowery smock and an apron. She had a silver, three-tier trolley that she kept plates of Mr Kipling cakes on. She almost always sat in the back room with us children and would play games with us and tell us stories.
She particularly enjoyed teaching us about the old weather vane she kept on the fireplace and would always ask us to look at it and tell her what the weather was doing that day.
We were always allowed a cake from the cake trolley. One of my sisters always picked a yellow fondant fancy, and I always had a brown one. If we were ever allowed two cakes, I would have a bakewell tart for my second one.
My uncle never married. The woman we were describing, with the same description, all without speaking to each other about her, was my great-grandmother, my uncle's mother, who had died before we were born.
I have no explanation for that other than we were playing with a ghost.