Advice for husbands adjusting to daily shaving for a new job

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Husband has secured a job where he is facing having to be “clean shaven” or to sport groomed facial hair.

Husband is refusing to go down any bearded road, but is also terrified at the prospect of ripping his skin to shreds every 24 hours. He currently shaves every other day, or further apart if he can get away with it, but he is now facing, with jangling nerves, corporate levels of presentability.

What do other husbands do? Is there some caveman, Reddit-honed secret out there that can help?

"Ripping his skin to shreds"? What is he using? A sword??

Erm yeah, I'm agreeing with you! Women have to wax which is way worse is what I said?

Blimey. What level of terror does he experience when clipping his toe nails?! Or when he needs to do other proper adult things like cross a busy road, drive a car, deal with serious medical issues, huge bills, unforeseen emergencies, bereavement….

I fully advocate for a delightful beard. Much less faff, and a sensory delight.

I'm thinking that too!

I work in corporate, as does DH and hair, facial or otherwise, are left to the individuals discretion.

Could he try a shaving soap bar instead DH has switched to this instead of shaving foam and has started noticing a difference in his skin says it feels a lot softer. He’s in corporate and there is an expectation to look ‘smart’. He’s also upgraded his shaver and again seems to have made a difference I think it’s by Braun and he uses the New Harry’s one.

Waxing never really worked for me, had to go down the expensive IPL and electrolysis route. Still required fortnightly been doing it for well over a decade. Thank you PMOS (the artist formerly known as PCOS)

Should have IDd as a man who IDd as a woman and the NHS would have helped a bit 😂

From 1900s to the Hippies of 1960 nearly every man shaved every day. This was in UK and Europe and USA. They did not make a fuss, just did it and bled quietly on the bus to work.

Some surgeons, fire fighters, airline pilots, tactical teams, chemical plant workers. Oxygen/Gas masks need to adhere to skin.

Even some food industry jobs ban beards.

@ALevelBNotLevel I’ve just asked DH and he said it’s not like a day one shave using a regular razor . It’s more like a day 2 . But it cuts it close enough without irritating the skin . And looking at him after he’s shaved it’s like he’s proper clean shaved . He recommends using it wet and using foam like a regular razor . And one blade lasts 6 weeks .

Tell your husband to look up shaving for black men. Because their hair is more tightly coiled there's increased challenges with avoiding razor bumps. There's a lot of advice online around products and techniques.

I do wonder how some men (like the OP's precious DH) would cope with being a woman. Periods, pregnancy, childbirth, menopause. the horror 😱

Exactly - there are few jobs around where rules about facial hair may be driven by equipment involved in the role, as you say typically it involves tight fitting masks used for breathing protection.

As kit has got better over the years the rules have relaxed a bit for some roles and might not demand completely clean shaven but there might still be limitations on what is allowed.

I (F67) shave my upper lip regularly. (AKA as a moustache). I cope.

Yep this. ^ The OP is disgusted that some posters are suggested her hubzy is a big old man baby who can't wipe his own bum. But what did she expect posting such a thread?

Yes, but that’s not really what you did though, is it?

If you posted ‘DH is starting job where he will be shaving daily, which is a big change for him. Anyone recommend any good shavers or men’s skincare their DH’s/partners are happy with?’ - then you likely would have just received positive, helpful recommendations and advice.

But, you didn’t do that. You came on with some hysterical story centred around your DH having his face being ripped to shreds and being terrified.

Do you see the the difference?

You seem a bit sensitive OP. Surely you can see (in hindsight) that a website full of women is not the obvious place to ask about shaving beards. You even mention Reddit in your first post

@Duckyfondant There are definitely parts of Reddit where MN women will absolutely know more about shaving than they do.

@itgetsthehoseagain You might get more help on the Dadsnet board tbf, probably some electric shaver recommendations. FWIW just got Braun Series 9 Pro+ as requested for 21st birthday gift next month.

I expected advice that I’ve happily received from the Mumsnetters who get it and who aren’t triggered to bite. Philips One-Blade is what he’s bought.

Thanks for getting involved, though, and for turning my cheerful post into a conduit for bile. I wonder what makes people want to do this.

@itgetsthehoseagainmy partner has a nickel allergy so shaving is a pain the men’s No7 skincare range helps.

DH has always used an electric shaver. He has tidy hair because I use hair clippers on him every few weeks. He is 74 and his head and face are still in one piece.

The answer is to shave in the evening after a bath or shower, and use a brand new disposable razor every couple of days. Better a new (cheap) Bic type razor than struggling on with blunt expensive ones.

Electric razors are actually shite for sensitive skin

The skin will soon toughen up a bit.

The answer is to shave in the evening after a bath or shower, and use a brand new disposable razor every couple of days

More landfill

About 3 to 4 minutes each day is no big deal. Gillette Fusion 5 blades are good.

He isn’t going to shred his face by doing it every day.

I have to shave my face everyday and I’m
not this dramatic.
Menopause is a nightmare.