How often do you cry?

[youalright]

I cry most days, I actually find it really therapeutic. I do have bpd so might be that but how normal is this.

I have been cry free for years. Even when i was spiritually ill, i was cry free. I had some bereavement's during this time and i remained cry free because i celebrated my loved ones lives, rather than allow my loved ones passing to devastate me in to despair hopelessness. Self awareness means no need to cry.

You live alone?

Normally only a few times a year when thinking of someone no longer alive.
but struggling a lot with work and I’m crying pretty much daily in my car at lunch 😬

Last time was at Dad’s funeral 6 years ago. I haven’t been able to cry easily since my abusive marriage ended 10 years ago. I should probably try to figure it out in therapy or something as I would like that release.

Every few days or so.

Rarely, I can't remember the last time I did.

I very rarely cry.
But when I do cry, it’s over beautiful songs or child films.

I never cry when I get sad news but I recognise that that’s not healthy.

You are implying that crying is a choice and a negative thing.

Crying can’t usually be helped and it’s a normal, healthy sign of emotion.

I do not live alone. I have never lived alone. I have never walked alone. I did not come in to the world alone. Loneliness can not spell my name. I do not cry often either because i know who i am. I have very good, healthy boundaries that keep me safe too. Self awareness is my everything, alongside my very good, healthy boundaries. I have not cried in years, yet my heart remains warm and compassionate and close to God. I am currently bidding for a new home because i practice self awareness and i protect my peace and my energy, now that is what i mean by i do not cry, i care for myself instead and i stick to my good, healthy boundaries. I will not be moving alone and I hope my housing transfer bid is successful.

Right, so yes, you live alone

Do you have a job?

No i do not live alone.
Yes i have a job.
Yes i am a christian.

Yes you live alone in term of a physical presence

and yes you are used to people looking at tour quizzically

job…. Care to share - what?

There's quite a lot of ignorance and judgement on this thread!
If a question was asked of 'how often do you laugh' there would less criticism of this emotional show than crying.

I am such a cryer-I am very sentimental and my tears are always very close to the surface. Laughter is as well.

I cry at all sorts of things-probably daily.
I am very empathetic and find it hard to be neutral/not bothered.
I don't consider it a bad thing-I am easily moved and have always been a cryer 😂

Oh calm down

where is the criticism? Just one post will do as an example

Rarely, I’m not a cryer at all. I was a bit welled up when I’d lost some sunglasses last month but before that it would’ve been last June at my friends funeral

I have been a crier all of my life-I'm extremely emotionally aware and can almost feel other people's emotional pain. I have welled up passing roadkill. especially hedgehogs - they have no chance with cars and it's so unfair it makes me quite upset. I've no idea whether this is some sort of mental disorder; I have been in two emotionally abusive relationships and the only way I could communicate my distress was through crying. My upbringing was happy, but not overly emotionally invested in. I definitely experienced crippling depression a year after my best friend was diagnosed and died from cancer. I was just so numb and cried daily. My dogs are a great leveller-I adore them and we do a lot of activities together. I knew I was in a bad place when I stopped feeling that joy. A new puppy soon brought it back... Roll on 8 years and I've since lost my dad. Long traumatic illness and the family round the clock caring that went with it. I cried so much I started Sertraline. The tears just stopped and I still have not cried over finally losing my beloved dad almost 3 years ago. As soon as I cut down on Sertraline I feel more emotional again. I would probably be diagnosed as a HSP should I try and explore it. I don't feel 'me' being this together, but I'm ok-my dogs are my absolute rocks.

I'm not mentally ill, I hadn't used to cry, abd I hate feeling like this. Life is just beyond shit at the moment

I would put myself in the semi regular category but it’s more often watching sad things/reading things in the news.

For myself it’s not so often. But I did today. My cat really bit me and I am so fed up of his aggression, which we have been trying to deal with/train/help. But it was definitely a release for other emotional things at the moment and I felt better after about a whole lot of other things.

On average about 1 or 2 times a year I think. Some years have had worse things happen so it depends but it takes a death or someone who knows me picking a surprise fight to hurt me enough. I had a tough year with 5 big life events and death back-to-back and thought I was emotionally quite unstable but I do think that the year of chronic stress triggered early(ish) peri at 43. Is it possible that peri is increasing your BPD symptoms?

Almost never for sad reasons atm because I'm happy. I cried nearly every day for two years after breaking up with my ex though - often would wake up crying.

However, now I'm a parent I find myself welling up over stuff that would have left me unmoved pre-child. Most recently when reading Gozzle to dc!

Quoting the Op!!!! They are quoting the OP’s “mental illness” comment

And hell yes I’ll tell a poster to calm down who jumps feet first in to a thread with silly accusations