Neighbour in flats asked me not to place my wheelie bin nearby

[PerkyOchrePeer]

Am I being un̈reasonable? I live in a flat. A young person has recently moved opposite and I do not like her. We each have our own. Wheelie bin and apparently I place my bin too close to hers so she has asked me not.\nTo put it so close and then she said, it's not her job to move it.So she can get her bin in and out to take it out for the bin. If that was me, I would just move the oven bin along, so I could get my bin in and out, I think she's being totally out of order.

Poster clearly has some cognitive issues and nothing much going on in her life hence her looking for drama where there is none. Very rigid thinking and inflexible thinking therefore taking great offence at things lie a window open and the bins.

@AyeupDuck agree lots of previous threads where significant slights have been taken against people who don’t behave as op wants, mn not healthy for her. Although until now I hadn’t realised her age.

I wish my life had as little to worry about in it as yours seems to.

People do things as they wish !
Not how u do things u can't expect people.to go by what u think is best !
You sound a bit like a martyr !
You have been there along time I guess and don't like it If.someone new moves in and does things a little bit differently to how your used to doing things !.
Maybe get out of your own head and use some of your energy being nice to the new lady ❤️

Don't let it bother you, move your bin and get on with your life. I'm sure your neighbour isn't getting herself into a tizzy about you and such trivial issues. Do something nice for yourself and move on.

Well you should have started with that I mean wanting fresh air is the crime of the century right op

She’s obviously the first person to say to your face you’re being inconsiderate whereas you’ve had years of your neighbours having to move your bin. What’s your problem with just putting it in a reasonable place.
you sound pretty awful in this post OP

She actually owns her property. How do you reckon she is my equal. Someone who is your equal is soneone who dies simular things to you or has the same social background or job. I dont even know what job she does. I never see her dressed up like she has some high flying london job. Its very hard for youngsters to buy a property unless you get an i heritage. My friend I heritage her aunts 4 bed semi. It was too big so she sold it and bought a flat

Seriously? You’re being awful about your neighbour. And your idea of what makes someone your equal is very skewed. I feel sorry for your neighbour. Do you work OP?

What's an utterly selfish bitch 1 day I was coming back with heavy bag of shopping and she said to me, would you like me to help you carry that up the stairs? And I said, no, why would I flaming? Well, want her to help me carry the bag. And yet when it comes to the bin, oh no oh no oo

TBH, this all sounds like a joke, but if it’s not your quote above answers your question. Your neighbour offered to help you carry your shopping and you grumpily said No. So why are you surprised she didn’t offer to move your bin? The answer is because she thought you’d snap her head off!

That’s also why she’s spoken to you about how you position your bin outside - because she’s nervous about moving it herself. Why don’t you just leave space for her bin??

Why does it bother you if the landing window outside the flats is opened by her? Unless she’s leaving it open overnight and it’s a security risk, leave her alone. It’s boiling hot and she’s probably trying to cool the landing and keep it fresh.

You also mention that previously you’d taken all 3 bins down but had stopped doing that as your neighbours hadn’t reciprocated. Why worry? Ignoring this neighbour you don’t like, it’s clear that all your other neighbours just want their own stuff and to be responsible for it. You’re in separate flats not a house share.

You sound rude and grumpy. This new neighbour was brave enough to politely ask you to do something. I bet that your previous neighbours didn’t want to approach you and so, yes, did move your bin themselves, but probably cursed you as they did.

Simple solution - place your bin more thoughtfully and stop being so bad-tempered towards your neighbour. She’s done nothing wrong. In fact, she’s treated you with kindness by offering to help carry your shopping, and she’s treated you with respect by asking you to place your bin properly rather than just moving it herself. She’s making every effort, you’re making zero.

Op isn’t just being odd here, she’s the same on every thread she starts

Yes I work

It sounds like someone needed to eventually tell you as you haven’t worked it out yourself over a number of years.

Previous owners were quietly annoyed with you. You don’t sound like a considerate neighbour. But know you’ve been told, you can be.

I never left space for herbin, because with the previous neighbour, I never left space and it didn't matter, nobody complained, they just accepted it. So I just thought that, because the previous neighbour accepted it, then this neighbour would do the same.

Neighbours.\n Here have never really been friendly or gone out for an evening or anything like that. I suppose, because you watch television programmes like coronation street where all the neighbours are friendly going on holiday going in and out of each other's homes. And in reality that doesn't happen although I was very friendly with my elderly neighbour in the house next door and I used to pop in because she used to say to me pop in whenever you want and would sitting have tea and chat , I used to keep her company , but that was an exception

For the love of god, your poor neighbour can’t win. Damned if she does, damned if she doesn’t!

OP, you are being unreasonable with this situation.
Chill, move your bin, take your own bin out, accept help carrying your shopping if you need it, when it’s offered. It’s not rocket science.

Ok, but why wouldn’t you leave space for your previous neighbour’s bin?? I bet that if your previous neighbours didn’t hadn’t left space for your bin, you’d be very pissed off. So, why do it to other people?

And you’re wrong re the previous neighbour. They didn’t complain to your face but I bet they slagged you off for your selfishness while they struggled with their bin.

You say your neighbours aren’t friendly, but your new neighbour offered to help you with your shopping - and you bit her head off! Nobody will want to be friendly to you if you’re inconsiderate and rude. You’re repelling people by your actions and by your demeanour.

Well you're blocking her path to put her own bin out which is unreasonable. Put your bin outside your block, in the place the dustmen/council tell you to leave it.

It's sad to claim you don't like someone and immediately get into a dispute with them about bins. Could the subject get any more dull and lame? Just get on with your life!

Oh dear.

Only on Coronation Street and Eastenders can you find love and get married in your 70s and be on friendly terms with multiple ex-husbands and their new wives that happen to be neighbours. But perhaps you are deluded in thinking this happens in the real world and on every street?

It enrages me in the block I live in when the landing window is closed. Buildings need ventilation, especially in communal areas. This is important, so I hope you're not closing it OP?

Have you ever considered therapy for helping you navigate personal relationships? Every thread you post has a common theme, and the issue is always you.

Whether you like her or not is completely irrelevant. Whether your previous neighbours ever told you to stop blocking their bin or just moved it themselves is irrelevant. The only relevant things are

1. You are blocking (deliberately by the sounds of it) your neighbours bin
2. Your neighbour has politely asked you to stop doing this
3. There is presumably space for you to put your bin somewhere that doesn’t block the other bins, or you’d have mentioned it by now.

If you genuinely cannot see how unreasonable you are being, I actually despair.

She pays for her space regardless of if she rents or if she buys. She has exactly the same rights as you. You have to coexist if you want a happy peaceful life. Unfortunately, you have a superiority complex and lots of YOU PROBLEMS. You'd be better suited to living in a detached house somewhere without neighbours.

Why should she do the same? You are inconveniencing her. It’s your issue to solve and what previous neighbours did is irrelevant.

You’re annoyed because she opens a window???

Sounds like you don’t like newcomers and feel you have more rights over the property, simply because you’ve lived there longer.

Why should she not do what she wants in her own home?
She’s not hurting anyone.

She’s politely asked you to move your bin over, to make it easier for her to go in and out.
It’s hardly a big deal.

Why wouldn’t she be your equal?

And you shouldn’t judge people by how they dress. Dress codes are far more flexible these days and people in ‘high flying’ jobs can work from home where you could stay in your pyjamas all day!

What's wrong with that? Have you noticed the current temperatures?