How would you split the cost of a holiday cottage for family. Per person or room.

[MeMyselfAndIris]

I’m looking at potential holiday rentals for family get together. Do you split the cost per person or per room. For example a single person in one single room V 2 parents and one child in one triple room. Also single adult in double room. The party is made up of 3 single adults all wanting own room, couple with child (who would also like own room but tricky due to expense) and another couple.

A couple AND a 16 year old in just one room pay three times the amount of a single person having the luxury of a double room all to themselves? Come on, you can't be serious. It would almost certainly be cheaper for the family to book a hotel room nearby instead of having to subsidise the single people's double rooms.

The is a family holiday, not a bunch of strangers. It's reasonable to expect singles in the family to double up, and pay the full room cost of they don't want to.

Per room, with single room, double room and family room having increasing costs. (e.g £100, £150, £200)

Rooms.

I do it on the theory that if a family would need 1 room at a hotel then they pay one share of the accommodation, if they need 2 then they pay two shares.

so in this scenario you have each single person paying 1/5 of the cost, and each couple paying 1/5 of the cost.

but if the couple with the child want 2 rooms then they pay 2/6 of the cost and the others pay 1/6.

i do this for hotels when I go to Disney too, if it was just me, husband and son we get one room, if my mum comes she pays for second room but my son stays with her for company…I don’t pay toward the second room though because I would only get one room if I were going without my mum.

Per room and our teen are same perfectly fine sharing also 16 for a few nights. Just been away with hubby side of family and did this and had lovely time with everyone

Yes, that would work. A cost per sleeping space in the room, with an uplift for ensuite.

So a standard double room costs 2 x a standard single room, but say only 75% the cost of a king ensuite.

Per person excluding babies in cots.

This except for the food cost: don’t count children under 5, half a share for under 10.

Depends who the family members are and how much I wanted to go away with them. If cost might be prohibitive to someone and I really wanted them there, I might split it differently.

Per room for the house but per person for the food as the child is a teen who likely eats the most!

How are you splitting things like food? Drinks?

For two nights I would cost hotels with DBB offers

Per room. If everyone’s likely to argue because someone got an en suite, or a smaller room, then you’re going to end up having to work out different percentages for everyone. If they’re going to be a pain in the arse though, I’d tell them to sort their own accommodation out. What have your family all said about what they want to pay? Have they suggested anything?

if you need 5 doubles that’s not going to be a cheap cottage though.

Fine as long as either everyone shares, or everyone has their own room to themselves, and all rooms are equal sized with equal facilities.

Otherwise it is really unfair, with sharers subsidising people with the luxury of a room to themselves. Those with standard rooms subsidising those with ensuites etc.

Per room, with adjustments for room size and facilities is far fairer. Pay for what you use.

If charging per room, then the singles have as much right to the nice double with an en suite as the couples.

Per room.

Really unfair to charge three people sharing a triple (or double plus cot or pull out) three times as much as one person alone in a twin!

Hotels charge by the room - different room types cost different amounts but a single person in a double pays the same as teo people in a double, or almost as much, and a single isn't 1/2 the price of a double.

Agreed. I don't think anyone has argued otherwise.

Per room

My sister is organising something similar and we are splitting the cost by ability to pay!

We are:

one older couple with mobility issues, wanting their own rooms or twin beds at least

one younger couple - sis and her partner

DH and myself plus one teen who’ll be there all 5 nights and one older teen who’s only staying for 1 night. So we need a double room and a twin.

However, my sister has chosen a really fancy airbnb - way more expensive than DH and I ever choose. My parents are well off, she and her partner are also much better off than us. So she and my parents will split the entire cost of the accommodation and DH and I will provide food and wine (as we live close to the venue).

So spare a thought for different family incomes in your party! If we split it by rooms / beds needed, we would really struggle to afford it. I’m grateful to her for organising but we have very different priorities and incomes atm.

Per room isn’t fair on the single people, why should a single person pay double what a couple pay per person when a couple will want to share a room?

A couple who share general expenses are already generally better off financially than a single person who lives alone.

I don't think this holiday/ trip sounds like a good idea tbh if this is causing friction and upset.

Can you all stay in a hotel instead - takes the heat off as you just each oay for whatever room or rooms you book.

As an adult I also wouldn't enjoy sharing with other members of my extended family if going solo to any kind of extended family event or whatever, but there's no way to split the rental fairly if people don't have a genuine choice of rooms and three adults (a 16 year old pays adult prices and is likely bigger than some of the other adults) are squeezing up in one room while singles don't have the option to choose single rooms for budget or doubles if comfortable paying more for more space.

Book a hotel or you'll all resent one another.

It really depends who the singles are though, depending on what family relationships there are it might not be suitable to put say grandma sharing with her 28 year old grandson for example.

When my siblings meet up, we all pay for our own rooms. If I need two, I pay for two, one brother only needs one etc.

In a hotel a single person usually pays double if using a double, and about 2/3 the price of a double for a single. Sometimes you get single occupancy rates but never half.

I've travelled a lot solo as well as with my family - travelling single is a luxury and costs more per person. That's just how it is. Sharing saves money in return for all the inconvenience of sharing.

I doubt the 16 year old wants to share with parents if it costs the same for 16 year old in their own room as on the pull out or camp bed likely to be squeezed into the parents' room.

Per adult.

I know this will be controversial, but when I see similar threads about splitting thhe bill for a meal I always say: you are paying for the experience, not literally what is on your plate. In this instance, you are paying for the experience of a family holiday, not literally your room/bed. Unless someone is having t9 make do with a sofa bed, per adult aeems fairest. In my family, nobody begrudges chipping in for the kids to help the parents out a bit (as they have less disposable income than the childfree adults).

Depends if both work. And the couple can just have a room each in that case.

The singles can choose to double up. Then there would be 2 incomes in the one room.