Princess party favours for boys as an alternative to wands

[Colourfulchameleons]

DD(3) party is next weekend. The venue let you choose a theme and despite her brother putting some not so subtle pressure on her, she’s gone with princesses. There are a lot of boys attending and the venue are happy to do more neutral themes with the party bags but I was going to give little wands out.

I am perfectly happy for all the boys to have wands but I just don’t think they’ll be interested (and I do know the boys well; one is my own son.) Can anyone think of a small gift that’s a sort of equivalent?

It needs to be the same thing for everyone!
This. No swords or guns No 'pink for girls, blue for boys'.

I have two boys 5 & 3 years old and they love wands!

Swords

Swords
my 4 year old would be buzzing with a sword and also was buzzing when we went to a female friends 4th party a few weeks back and the mum went to lengths to do girl party bags and boy party bags xx

I was going to say there's foam Minecraft swords, so kinda fit with a fantasy/roleplay theme. But I've just seen you've found the frogs 🐸

You don’t need to do anything extra on top of party bags, but if you want to then in this case I’d go for jewels. As in the big oversized plastic diamonds 💎

For some children they will be pretty jewels, for others they will be treasure for hiding / protecting etc. princesses, castles, pirates they all need treasure. Everyone can have the same thing and play with it in their own way.

At my daughter's 5th they all got wands and tiara and all loved it.

At 3 both my boys would have been so disappointed to not get a glittery wand... That's still the age where unicorns and glitter is cool! Because you know... Magic!

Those little glider planes that you build, though you run the risk of the girls preferring them too

My 6 year old boy went to a Harry Potter party recently and they all had wands which everyone loved.

I think the younger boys wouldn't care. It only becomes awkward if you have girls getting one thing and boys another. Especially if other parents spot this.

Is it more your son and his friends you are worried about? Considering it's not their party, I would just give them the party bag provided by the venue. I wouldn't be buying any extras or anything different.
Your DDs friends will all be young and therefore giving them the same would be the sensible choice.

Wizards have wands too.

I think give them all wands! It’s your DD’s birthday, her theme. If they don’t like the wands they will survive.

There are many pairs of girls school shoes that let them run freely how weird to think otherwise - my daughter plays football in hers daily! Try independent stockists not the likes of Asda.

This made me chuckle! Anything my two boys got their hands on at thay age became a sword....including the palm crosses given out each year at church 😕A magic wand would stand no chance!

What about a little torch

I always did various bags boy/girl/age appropriate.

Generic things that I would consider suites boys/girls aged 3-6 would be

mini colouring books & crayons/pencils
mini notepads
Pencils/pens
rubbers
slime
those floppy stick men you throw at the wall
yoyos
keyrings
bouncy balls
squishies

Then I’d add anything child specific tiaras & wands, cars and so on. If I couldn’t find anything to suit a specific child they’d get extra sweets or generic toy.

Wands

Many kids would love a wand but you could go for pirate swords , cheap light sabres ,

This - search wizard wands

I am just trying to do something nice!

I tell you what’s nice? Not gender stereotyping 3-5yr olds. Just give them all the same thing ffs

But this isn’t about not being able to cater to individual tastes, it’s gender stereotyping. You cannot possibly know the boys well enough to know that they don’t want a wand - what they say and do in front of their mates might be very different to how they play at home. But importantly, you’re assuming the girls will all want one. You absolutely are part of the problem when it comes to gender stereotyping from a young age. Just chuck a cheap wand in each party bag and stop overthinking it.

We did inflatable swords which everyone loved, parents included

Yes, Harry Potter is just one of the stories they're likely to know in which boys/men have wands. Even those who don't agree with equality between the sexes wouldn't see wands as a girl only thing.