Princess party favours for boys as an alternative to wands

[Colourfulchameleons]

DD(3) party is next weekend. The venue let you choose a theme and despite her brother putting some not so subtle pressure on her, she’s gone with princesses. There are a lot of boys attending and the venue are happy to do more neutral themes with the party bags but I was going to give little wands out.

I am perfectly happy for all the boys to have wands but I just don’t think they’ll be interested (and I do know the boys well; one is my own son.) Can anyone think of a small gift that’s a sort of equivalent?

I don’t think OP is coming back. I still feel really sad for the kids who are brought up with these limiting stereotypes.

I think I’d go bubble wand and some sweets perhaps.
I’ve done a bubble wand in the past they always go down really well.

Are they getting the firpymping wants with stars at the top? Get the boys the magician style wands, black and white?

This is the best option. We did bracelets for girls for daughters last birthday (7) she had a couple of boys so had some cool fidget spinners with bendable "arms" but also made sure to have spares out in case anyone wanted to trade..

Or.…..
More harry potter style wands than fairy wands

Should have read the full thread before adding that one as has been suggested multiple times.

Also Mumsnet seriously....we are so far from a family that stereotypes..my son has long hair and LOVES all things rainbow and my daughter being raised through her toddler years in multiple lock downs with just her rowdy older brother around most of the time, was a total "tomboy" for years...2 years at school and she loves princesses and pink!! They stereotype themselves for a few years when they are 4/5/6 and developmentally learn to to categories things (but yes, they do also pick it up from the world around them) we do not reinforce ANY stereotypes in our houses, but we don't force it down their throats that they can't like stereotypical things either. So when we brought bracelets that we knew her girl friends would love, we knew her boy friends would not want them (few 6/7 year old boys do and these 3 definitely wouldn't, we have known them for 3years) so we got an alternative and had spare in case the girls thought they were cooler and wanted those too.

Mood rings went down very well at a similar age for mine for both boys and girls

Am I missing something? What do wands have to do with princesses?

Why not get some gold paper and make crowns?

At nursery boys and girls both play with wands - the sparkly kind with a star on top - the boys just pretend to be wizards with them.

Wizards have wands.

This is why gender equality will never happen. From 3 years old we have people suggesting swords or guns for boys compared to a “girls” bag. They don’t pop out the womb loving swords. Give them all the same!

They’ll love wands. Harry Potter and all that. But don’t be surprised if they use them for swordplay.

Home Bargains glow stick wand. Boys love glow sticks, even with a star on the end

It's becoming all about your son and his friends
have you forgotten it is your daughter's birthday party

or does she not matter

why is your son having his friends at her party.

She wants wands because a guest at the party wanted a wand at a different party so she would like this little girl to have a wand but she is also against wands as her son and his five and six year old friends won’t want wands.

What the three year old whose birthday and party it is thinks we don’t know.

The risk of having multiple options of party bags is that, unless there's enough for everyone to freely choose which version they want, someone will probably have to put up with having a stereotype enforced over their preference.

I remember having to exit parties with disappointed dc who didn't understand why they had to have the princess bag rather than the pirate bag they wanted.

I always gave everyone the same.