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What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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ClassicStripe · 29/05/2026 07:12

When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

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DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 29/05/2026 11:16

I do think extreme hostile reactions are quite common on MN and can be found all over the boards, though do crop up more on some than others. It’s fascinating in its own horrible little way.

My explanation is that, leaving aside the obvious weirdos, the hostility is usually down to insecurities. (Bleedin’ obvious amateur psychology, I know.)

A simple example is step parenting. When there’s a thread about a disagreeable stepchild, posters pile on aggressively because they are insecure about their own children’s relationships with a stepmum.

Lomonald · 29/05/2026 11:16

Oh i was told a certain length of trousers were frumpy and aging and I probably had let myself go!

Ironfloor269 · 29/05/2026 11:17

ROFL at ‘self-image fridge’ 🤣

HeNeedsRehab · 29/05/2026 11:17

My tellings off have been around how I spend my money.

I started what I thought was a lighthearted thread in S&B about what would you spend £1,000 on as I’d had a bonus at work and got all sort of lectures about if I didn’t know what I wanted maybe I should save it, I should spend it on a holiday or paying down my mortgage. I’d caveated my post by saying all those things were covered but still I wasn’t allowed to spend it!

Or when I asked for 5* luxury hotel recommendations in Europe that had a water park as a bonus to be met with you won’t get that in Europe (water slides aren’t luxury apparently 😂) or had I considered hiring a boat in the Caribbean and island hopping?! I was accused of not being open minded on that one!

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 29/05/2026 11:18

sashh · 29/05/2026 10:48

A couple of days ago I did an AIBU because I give cold drinks to delivery drivers and a friend thinks I'm insane.

Apparently I "sit by the door, waiting for victims, so she can give them something out of her self-image-fridge".

I don't even know what a self-image-fridge is.

That is just so bonkers! Waiting for 'victims' to whom you can give a nice thing that they will likely really appreciate - or, if not, can easily just say "Thanks, but I'm fine"!!

It's also sad, really, that I think a great many people now take home deliveries so much for granted that they forget that it's actual human people who are facilitating it, and not just robots or drones (at least for the time being).

IAmKerplunk · 29/05/2026 11:18

meltingmoaner · 29/05/2026 10:55

@IAmKerplunk is it acceptable? 😆

I’ve just googled and the thread was from 2012! 🙈

Dollymylove · 29/05/2026 11:19

I remember some of these. How dare you eat a curry. You're not Indian!!
I remember one where I think there was an Indian lady getting married and she wanted her friends to wear saris. One of the friends was not Indian but the bride insisted and presented her with a beautiful outfit to wear for the ceremony. Mumsnet went into an apocalyptic melt down about the nonsense that is "cultural appropriation"

WonderWeeksArentReal · 29/05/2026 11:19

MIAMNER · 29/05/2026 09:16

I was banished from the gardening section after admitting I took a cutting from a nice salvia in the park.

I was banished from the gardening section for admitting to using an AI app for plant identification after moving house, instead of posting every single plant pic on MN and asking what things were.

(AI app worked really rather well btw)

tamabarrel · 29/05/2026 11:20

I wanted my child’s sports club to implement a policy whereby children with asthma could not participate if they did not have their inhaler with them.

Apparently this was ruining it for the ‘poor kids’ who might not be able to play.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 29/05/2026 11:20

CrocsNotDocs · 29/05/2026 08:51

I wrote a lighthearted OP about my DH caring for my cat solo for a few days and whinging that the cat didn’t show any gratitude, despite his attempts to win him over.

Cue poster stating that my DH was controlling and she feared for my children.

That was a good thread. I hope your husband has recognised his subservience to your feline overlord by now.

ThatCyanCat · 29/05/2026 11:22

sashh · 29/05/2026 10:48

A couple of days ago I did an AIBU because I give cold drinks to delivery drivers and a friend thinks I'm insane.

Apparently I "sit by the door, waiting for victims, so she can give them something out of her self-image-fridge".

I don't even know what a self-image-fridge is.

It sounds like something that will secretly lip read you and your family and then lock you out of the house out of fear you'll switch it off.

"Open the front door, please, self-image fridge."

"I'm sorry, sashh. I'm afraid I can't do that."

ruethewhirl · 29/05/2026 11:23

Just remembered another one, someone on a S&B thread reported me for saying I loved the new designs of Uniqlo bag that had just come out. Apparently I must have been working for Uniqlo and on commission. 🙄

(I was also taken apart somewhat on that thread for liking Uniqlo bags at all. 😄)

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 29/05/2026 11:23

TightlyLacedCorset · 29/05/2026 09:01

To be fair, this is extreme!!!

What else does your husband coerce you into doing? If you're not careful, you'll end up ironing his PJs.

Please phone women's Aid ASAP and try and get some items packed.

Make sure they're all ironed though, or he'll get suspicious...

I always thought that ironing his underpants was the Extreme Danger sign.

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 29/05/2026 11:24

Ironfloor269 · 29/05/2026 11:17

ROFL at ‘self-image fridge’ 🤣

It sounds like something Alan Partridge would randomly come out with in a desperate attempt to make it sound like he has a coherent argument! He could use it to store his side-clump of cress (but probably not the crescent of crisps) Grin

HoppityBun · 29/05/2026 11:25

BlindSpotForCats · 29/05/2026 08:52

It was just Gumbo!

Edited

That’s bizarre. So we’re all culturally appropriating when we make spag bol?

BeardySchnauzer · 29/05/2026 11:26

Now I’m imagining pp running down the street as the dpd guy desperately tries to escape her aggressive attempts to press a cold can of sprite into his hands

Aliflowers · 29/05/2026 11:26

Someone got immensely annoyed at me on a Christmas thread because I said I thought bread sauce was rank. Like took it to the heart like a knife like I was personally insulting her bread sauce. Kept telling me I was wrong and her bread sauce was delicious.

StephensLass1977 · 29/05/2026 11:26

It's the AMA(ask me anything) ones which piss me off. You ask them something, they don't like it, and a pile-on is encouraged.

A woman was saying she's really well off and comfortable on benefits, and has no plans to work again, is paid enough benefit money to have healthy savings, etc. Her two adult children had autism. I asked if she was going to ever consider getting another job.

Omg the pile-on. I've never been quoted so much. "SO ARE YOU OFFERING TO MOVE N WITH THE OP AND CARE FOR HER KIDS, THEN?" etc.

Forgive me, I didn't know their autism was so bad that they were unable to work or function, and that they had no plans to ever move out of the family home. I genuinely didn't know. But apparently I was the devil that day.

Aliflowers · 29/05/2026 11:27

Someone got immensely annoyed at me on a Christmas thread because I said I thought bread sauce was rank. Like took it to the heart like a knife like I was personally insulting her bread sauce. Kept telling me I was wrong and her bread sauce was delicious.

HRTQueen · 29/05/2026 11:27

because I laughed about the drama of some posters of taking pebbles from the beach

It is one of my favourite threads - the levels of outrage and drama was hilarious

I also got told off for laughing 'as it could have been so dangerous' at an 80's school trip electricity conductor experiment where a teacher suggested that all children hold hands with one holding the teachers hand while they touched an electric fence 😂I think the thread was about schooling in the 70's/80's

Mumandcarer80 · 29/05/2026 11:30

I can’t remember what the actual thread was but I mentioned I managed to bag a table on a train so me 2 dc and a relative I was travelling with could all sit together. I had sat down with dd on one side. Relative and DD was making their way over when man sat down opposite us. I said excuse me there’s DD and relative were just going to sit there. He did get up who wouldn’t refuse a little girl sitting with her family? But a poster took offence to that and said he shouldn’t have been expected to move. Both children needed a 1 to 1 carer to leave the house. So it wasn’t like I could just accept her sitting next to a stranger.

Lomonald · 29/05/2026 11:33

Aliflowers · 29/05/2026 11:26

Someone got immensely annoyed at me on a Christmas thread because I said I thought bread sauce was rank. Like took it to the heart like a knife like I was personally insulting her bread sauce. Kept telling me I was wrong and her bread sauce was delicious.

It isn't it is claggy and moist at the same time, i have only had it twice and it was in an English pub roast and it is horrific 😳

PinkTonic · 29/05/2026 11:33

MIAMNER · 29/05/2026 09:16

I was banished from the gardening section after admitting I took a cutting from a nice salvia in the park.

That’s made me laugh. As children we often went to the zoo when our grandparents visited. The zoo in question had a large and legendary herbaceous border, and my grandmother always brought secateurs in her handbag. She had a lovely garden and lots of plants based on cuttings from the zoo.

Dollymylove · 29/05/2026 11:35

Being expected to smile sweetly while tolerating some horrible brat persistently drenching holidaymakers with a powerful superpower, while the father smiles benignly.
In my humble opinion the brat was in need of a bloody good hiding and so does the equally horrible parent

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 29/05/2026 11:36

HRTQueen · 29/05/2026 11:27

because I laughed about the drama of some posters of taking pebbles from the beach

It is one of my favourite threads - the levels of outrage and drama was hilarious

I also got told off for laughing 'as it could have been so dangerous' at an 80's school trip electricity conductor experiment where a teacher suggested that all children hold hands with one holding the teachers hand while they touched an electric fence 😂I think the thread was about schooling in the 70's/80's

Do they genuinely think that you could have a deadly fence stretching for miles right in the open, where anybody could walk past?

Surely the idea is that a low voltage gives a little buzz to the animals to discourage them from trying to escape; it isn't designed to barbecue them on the spot!!

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